How do you discipline a child?

@niairen01 (1018)
Philippines
October 8, 2012 12:01am CST
May it be your child, your younger cousin, younger sibling, nephew. How do you do it? Do you actually implement corporal punishment or do you just state out your speech? As for me, I always do it with a mild speech. I let them know what they do wrong first, and then explain to them why it's wrong, and lastly I tell them what the right thing to do if they encounter the situation again. But some kids are really naughty just plain dialogue won't get through them, I tend to spank them. (Nothing wrong with that here in our country.. it's normal) But I make sure I spank them only at their bottom.
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@ztuberi (396)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
I have also read your topic about your son who's not listening to you. It actually depends on the age of the child. Reward system is ok for toddlers (rewarding them after they have done something good). But what is most important is you have to do what you tell them. You have to be consistent OR ELSE they will just ignore what you say. If you tell them you'll spank them, then you really have to do it. If you tell them they are not allowed to watch tv, then you have to do it. And also, if you tell them you'll give them reward, you have to give it. You have to teach them that you are the one authorized. It's a training so do not expect that it will be learned immediately.
@ztuberi (396)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Take note, spanking is not good if they dont know why are you spanking them. And spanking is not allowed for some cases.
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@sjvenden27 (1851)
• United States
8 Oct 12
I have two boys 2 and 6... First off discipline is different for the two boys.. My oldest will get a warning unless its something major.. Keep in mind he is ADHD.. After a warning or two; if he does continue the negative behavior; he has to stand at the wall not a corner, stand at attention meaning his everything is straight and has to stand there for 6 minutes, one minute for each year.. Then he comes out and we talk, he has to tell me what he did to end up in time out. I explain why it was wrong.. then its done... now if he does that three times (almost never happens) then I will spank him.. Then we talk about it... The only exception to this is when he zones in on the tv when he is suppose to be doing something else.. then tv is gone.. Now my youngest.. terrible twos... wonderful ya right! lots of talking, and if he continues he goes in his playpen for two minutes without toys or his blanket.. and we will talk.. The only time I spank him is when he is endangering himself... but its on the diaper only, and its more sound then anything.. just to get his attention, not to hurt him.. I have read child books, and they have said that spanking is an effective techinque for the ages 2 to 7.. by then they should understand right from wrong and spanking is no longer effective; would just be teaching the child to deal with pain when they do something wrong...
@ztuberi (396)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
I also learned that (standing facing wall), that's what I also do to my students before.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
hi, when i am disciplining my nephew or my niece i usually never scold them or hurt them,i will just speak or talk for a minute and tell to them that they should never do that again,yes some kids are really naughty and you can't control yourself to scold them.
@crissy92 (91)
• United States
29 Oct 12
Totally agree with you, and handle them the same way. My kids know what a spanking is. Trust me. They need it on occasion. Sometimes words don't speak loud enough. And actions speak louder than words. Spanking doesn't hurt them, it helps them later on in life. That's what a lot of children need in the world today. That's why there are some that are so rude, ignorant, defiant, and troublemakers. A child can only grow up to be a product of their environment.
• India
9 Oct 12
Hi, This is my first discussion.I have 2 year kid in my home.I too get irritated with his misbehavior sometime.But I wont take it much.I love to be with him.I used to tell him politely the dos and donts.Some time he takes it. According to me,we should be very patient in moving with child.we shold sacrifice more to enjoy the cute things from child.we should not shout or beat them.It will increase the tension.
@GemmaR (8527)
8 Oct 12
It is very important that your child is disciplined right from the beginning, and this means that they will learn right from the start what they can and can't do. I don't agree with using physical discipline against a child, because you want them to be able to understand why what they have done is wrong rather than being scared to do the behaviour again because they are worried about what you might do to them. Being a parent is hard, and most people do make mistakes, but luckily children don't usually blame you and as long as you love them it will be most likely fine.
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
There are times that talking is not enough. There are times when my kids are between 7-10 that I let them lay down and I give them a harder than tap in their butt. Just to let them know that if they do it again, I will tap them harder the next time. But as they grow older, they are teenagers now, talking with them made them understand what i am trying to say. It is best that we have open communication with our kids so that they can say whatever they want and they can ask anything that bothers them.
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
I am also in such dilemma. My son is already at the "Terrible 2" stage where it's like "my will must be done" it's nice that you have raised this so i can also get other's opinions. But I haven't dared to spank him at this stage. I am still trying to let him understand by talking to him and explain him things. I still consider him as a baby. He is only 2 years and 3 months, but he is like having a mind of a 5-yr-old. He can speak well already and makes his own decisions. At times we are happy for him to be like that. But sometimes, it's eating up my patience. But I see to it that I can control my anger and remind myself that he is only a 2-y.o. boy. And letting myself understand that it is the stage where they call it the "terrible 2" so it's recognized that maybe most of the kids pass through that phase. But I hope he will mature with that behavior soon...
@emerillus (477)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Hi! I agree with your technique and what I do is this: My nephew always spanks me and when I get really annoyed I hold onto his hands for so long and never let it go until he gets the message that I don't want to be hit. When he threw a ball at me I took away the ball saying that when he threw the ball at me it means he's giving it to me. That stop him. As for my own child, I don't know his behavior yet because he's only 7 months old, maybe all children are the same, but if he's like my nephew I'll do the same to him. I'll spank only his bottom or his hands if ever he'll become very naughty.