Can you understand the unspoken words?

@viju0410 (2286)
India
October 8, 2012 6:23am CST
Hi friends & lotters, Lovely relationship not only depends on the Spoken words but also depends on understanding the Unspoken words...... Sometimes a smile or silence even gives us an answer though unspoken. How much do you understand the unspoken words of your friends, colleagues, family members or lover? Take care
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
8 Oct 12
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
8 Oct 12
Now I bet what you think of that unspoken word (or set of words). Most of those who responded here.... interesting thoughts but what does the above blank on my box convey? It is still unspoken
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
8 Oct 12
Sid, There you are, if you don't speak anything, how do we understand? Hope you to speak up soon. Ok, the silence absolutely says you are fine and in a mood for chocolates again. How are you doing healthwise? cheers
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
8 Oct 12
Unfortunately people almost never understand what is being told in Silence. They all need to look at the face of the speaker and make their wild guesses (mostly they understand only what they want to understand). That is plain psychology, and some times what was supposed to be understood gets understood the right way (like one here...)... And let me also mention... you understood me right on and that is a rare thing to happen with me... people get me wrong on 99% of times even when I speak
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• Philippines
8 Oct 12
hi viju, I don't say I love you to the one I love most of the time but through my actions they can say how much I love them and how much I am willing to go further for them. I can easily feel my beloved one unspoken feelings specially if something is wrong happy mylotting
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
8 Oct 12
Hi, Oh dear, when it is expressing love, may be you too believe that action is more faster than words' - look what jai said.... but don't be a miser to tell how much you love the other person, that can make him more loveable...
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Oh dear you know what if I say I love you to him I am afraid he will made some actions
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
8 Oct 12
Dear, tell him yu love him but actions should wait till you want.... check if he can understands that or not....
@vandana7 (65124)
• India
8 Oct 12
I am extremely sensitive..so I understand such things very fast. My sensitive nature also gets me into problems..lol
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
8 Oct 12
Hi, Wow... sometimes i don't understand what is being spoken... though i am not so good at understanding the unspoken words, of course if it is the matters of kids, then i'm somewhat good at it. lol.
@vandana7 (65124)
• India
8 Oct 12
Being sensitive, I am also capable of hitting where it hurts the most..and it comes naturally..no brakes.
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• Singapore
8 Oct 12
I've read a book about someone who was sent to a new environment at a very young age. Because all was new, he was sensitive and he could understand people's unspoken words well.It helped him a lot later in life. Why your sensitive nature gets you into problems? I envy such an ability so much!
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• India
8 Oct 12
I totally agree with you. Sometime a smile or silence or sparkle in eyes can describe the unspoken words. But few times its really really difficult to understand the unspoken words. Because at that time we are confused by our heart and mind. That time mind tell us something and heart says us something.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
9 Oct 12
hi friend, Congrats on 100 + posts. Yes and at times we think/ or take their silence for granted and act entirely opposite to what they would have wished... LOl.
@maximax8 (28286)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 12
I can understand a gesture like a nod or shake of the head, a smile and a silence. I can appreciate a hug with no words. When a friend walks towards me she can sometimes wave and I know it means hello. It is called non verbal communication. Before my disabled son learned how to speak I used a kind of sign language with him. Some of his autistic friends find that sign language which is non verbal helps them.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
9 Oct 12
Hi, I feel so happy to hear the sign language between you and your son made the love/ communication a new turn. Being a mother i too understand and read between the lines but at times i fail to get the original message of my husband..
• Bangladesh
8 Oct 12
If a lover sees the blush on his or her partner's face then is there any necessity to speak out more? May be conversation got completed and ended there.lol Unspoken words have perhapes possessed most of the space of communication in our daily life. Many times we communicate just by body language or gestures. Aboriginal people would communicate by unspoken words in the ancient times. With the passes of time those unspoken words happened to be symbolised gradually. And those symbols turned into letters. Many times unspoken words gives some advantage while we communicate with each other.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
9 Oct 12
hi, I think i agree here on the symbolic language and body language used for communication. But the unspoken words can not be misunderstood as when people mis understand us when we speak actually...
@prashu228 (25811)
• India
8 Oct 12
hi, i am very poor in understanding , i cant understand anything. I cant even play the dumb shell games, when ever my friends pay , i was always put aside, as i prefer , what can they do, i am so dum..
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
8 Oct 12
HI, oh, not to worry dear, there are few who can catch before we open our mouth or we do only actions. reading between the lines make us easy to understand what is not told. But even the words spoken are misunderstood sometimes.
@caopaopao (8740)
• China
8 Oct 12
I think I can understand others about their unspoken words, I think most people can do it. We human being have both spoken language and body language, when we see smile, we know someone is happy. When we see the sign on the wall, we know where we should find the place we want to go .When we need to lend some money from someone, he didn't say anything, he kept silent, we know he didn't want to lend us money. Have a nice day!
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
8 Oct 12
hi, you are right and certain actions can even teach us when not to speak. LOL have a nice day to you too friend. I am sure you can understand people by their body language... seems like another topic for discussion.... cheers..
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
I really do. Mothers do, lover do because love doesn't need a single word to be understood. As the saying goes, action speaks louder than words
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
8 Oct 12
Hi, I just mentioned that about the kids in my first response. With my hubby... i dont mind to get into action first.......
• India
30 Apr 13
I understand some unspoken words... the way of their tension, happiness, depression, love and attention which they need... it is important to know and feel those things that our family members for a reason do not say it straight forward...
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
1 May 13
Yes that's right. we do understand their expessions if not words. And at times we misunderstand what's being spoken...lol.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
13 Oct 12
Hi Viju! Interesting post. If a person/friend/relative is not normal I could guess from his/her gestures and facial expressions about his state of mind. Even if someone is not speaking, I could understand his/her feelings. Sometimes our silence could convey more than our words.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
15 Oct 12
Hi dpk, Thanks. That's true. At times i misunderstand. The other day i asked my husband if he's interested for a cup of coffee, he didn't respond. Thinking he would have, i made it for him and he said i did not want coffee. No probs as i love coffee any time but then i thought he could have spoke out one word i.e. 'no'.
@Sreekala (22973)
• India
9 Oct 12
Hello Viju, I am successful on showing my angry, disappointment,shocks etx without uttering any word. My hubby can easily understand my silence and now kids too can understand. If I am too angry I won't speak anything. But in mylot it is not possible, emoticons are useful on that situation.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
9 Oct 12
hi sree, Wow.. you are so good in impression and expression too.. Ok,even your husband understands the unspoken words - he is clever too.