Are you good at hiding what you feel

@shylade (3137)
Philippines
October 8, 2012 10:13pm CST
I thought I am good at it but no I am not. There are times when I can't hide what I feel. I will write about it and I will not pretend not everything is fine. Sometimes, I just keep quiet because I find peace at being silent. But I know someone who is very good in hiding what she feels. Sometimes, I hear her shouting on the phone and worst is she's talking to his mother or her elder sister. She will go outside our workplace then will release all her anger. Then right after he turn off her phone, she will go inside as if nothing happened. She will mingle and make fun of other people around. She is very good in hiding what she feels. I can't do that after being angry, I will transform to a very tame sheep. Is it fine? Can you also hide what you feel?
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@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 12
i don't think i am, but friends says i am good at hiding my feeling. for me, it is more likely that i don't know how to reveal my feeling. there's this incident. I'm the one who's suppose to be mad, because someone wrongly accused me of doing the mistake. instead, a friend that back me up get into fight with the friend that accused me. i am mad. but i don't want them to make a scene, so i parted them, and stop the fight. Later, I call the friend that accuse me, and tell her I'm mad, but she doesn't believe me, because she said i didn't look mad at all.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
It's really hard to control emotions but I admire people who can stay calm in a middle of confrontations. Thank you for sharing.
@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 12
I did nothing to be admired of. it's just a small mouth-fight. Well, that's how girls is. You are most welcome.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
9 Oct 12
I feel hard to hide how i feel now.So i usually show it on my face and maybe it's not so good when facing others.lol,anyway,just be yourself in such fake world.Different people have different ways to deal with them.Just be happy and be who you are.
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• Philippines
9 Oct 12
HI ricky! My friends also have told me that! They said, I am very transparent. They can easily tell when I am pissed off because it shows on my face.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
Yes, bottom line is you just have to be yourself. I agree with that because people are different. And I must accept that I can never be good in hiding what I feel. Thank you for the response.
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@voldrox (7204)
• India
9 Oct 12
Hi shylade, I am not good at it either, I always try to control my reactions and expressions but I find it hard to hide. I wish I could be better at not letting other worry about me coz sometimes i really become silent, don't reply to calls and messages and wish I was left alone and the other person knows something is not right with me. I don't want others to know I just want to act like nothing has happened. God has made us in different ways, we are all different. I don't know if you believe in God but I do and when I came closer to God, i got to know more about myself too, I have come to realize that no matter what, God loves me just the way I am and He has created me that way and I have actually begun to feel good about it. I thought I was too emotional but now I now I care for others. It feels good to see things the new way, the way God wants us to see. Honestly, everything without God is dull and always on the negative side. I don't want to transform as I earlier wished to. Now I am happy to be what I am. The reality to me is that, sometimes we complain about the smallest of things but when we start to see the bigger picture we count our blessings and not our shortcomings. In some aspects we are better than others. So, have a good day.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
You are right. If only all of us can see all the blessings that already in our hands then this world will be a better and peaceful place. Nice thoughts and thank you for sharing.
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• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I am not good at hiding my feelings either,but I know how to control my emotions. I don't want making a scene in public unless somebody provoke and humiliated me in front of a crowd of course I will defend myself. People who know me very well can read my non-verbal signals when I am ticked off.But I know when and where to blow off the handle.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
I try to stay away from things and people who can affect my emotions because I am very transparent too. It is hard for me to act as if nothing is wrong when inside my emotions is killing me already. I am just thankful that I am surrounded by people who are positive. Thank you for sharing.
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• United States
9 Oct 12
Sometimes I can. It depends on the situation and the level of emotion involved in it. If I'm really mad, then no I can't. My face turns red and I clench my jaw. Sometimes I get so mad that I cry and there's no way I can hold that back when it's coming.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
When I am really angry, I burst into tears too. I can't control my emotions when I am so mad. So as much as possible I stay away from sources of my anger. I try to be positive if ever I can. Thank you for the response.
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@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
Yes, I am good in hiding my feelings. I am emotionally battered by my parents and when I show my feelings -- angry, happy, sad, crying or answering back -- they always say something. So, I just hide my feelings and have blank face. :( It is really hard. Sometimes I feel envy with other people who can tell what they feel because they can express theirselves. My say is sharing what you feel is important as long as you don't hurt the feelings of others
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Oh sorry to hear that. Expressing yourself is very important. We should also be sensitive with other people's feeling. Thank you for sharing and I wish you well.
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Thanks for listening too shylade! =)
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
9 Oct 12
Yes I am a professional at it. I am also very good at keeping secrets as well. The reason for that is because I have been betrayed by friends too many times and also because I hate people who likes to gossip all the time . I feel that some people cannot be trusted at all. You can identify them just by the way they talk about other people than they gossip about. I hide my feelings also at times so that I will not lose my temper.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
People like that are always. They always have time talking about other people's life and that's keep them busy. As much as possible I stay away with those people so as not affect my mood. Thank you for sharing.
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@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
10 Oct 12
I like to stay away from them as much as possible. You are most welcome Dear.
• China
10 Oct 12
Actually I do not good at hiding my feeling,when I feel upset I will keep silent then everybody well know that I am not happy.But I think that even though you are upset you should not let your bad mood influence others especially when you in work,we all should not take the bad mood back to work if really feel very had I think ask for one day leave will be better.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Being quiet works best for me whenever I am not feeling well, whether physically or emotionally. But you right, that don't need to influence my work and the people around me. I just don't want to be loud especially if it's too personal. Thank you for the response.
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
There are times we need to hide our feelings especially when we are with people who have no connection with the issue. I will not let their lives be messed up by my bad feelings toward other people. I would rather just solve the issue privately with the without others noticing it so as to preserve their peace and also my image and the image of others involved.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
That's right. When I am talking with my husband or my family via phone and we are having an argument, I just keep my voice low and leave the room. I always try not to get mad because I am not good at hiding what I feel. Thank you fro the response.
• Singapore
10 Oct 12
I am really not good it,I must say. My feelings just easily show on my face. When I am not happy, I really hate the noises around me and I hope everything to be muted. Have a nice day.:)
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Oh I feel that way too. When I am not feeling well, I don't want a noisy place especially people talking loud. It just irritates me a lot making my feeling much intense. Thank you for sharing!
• India
10 Oct 12
Yes I think I am good at hiding what I feel. It depends on the person to whom I am talking which decides how good I can hide my feelings. I think in todays times this is very important quality because it does not gives other people to play with your expression of feelings.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Yeah those who know us better can tell or see how we truly feel. No matter how much you try to hide your feelings it will show. Thank you for the response.
• China
10 Oct 12
To tell the truth , I am not good at hidding what i feel ,especially i am angry.If i don't speak out when i am angry i will be depressed and i am suffering . But as time goes by , I think not being good at dealing with one's temper is not good .If one can't deal with his or her temper properly ,not only he or she and others will suffer.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
It is really hard to control anger and of course hiding it much harder. Anyway, you are right. When you let anger eat you, its not only you gets affected but all the people around you. Thank you for sharing.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Oct 12
I don't hide what I feel. I show it soon as I realize I should be angry or not. But I think first before I burst my emotions. I cry, I shout, I scream, I punch something. BUT I NEVER SHOW IT IN THE WORKPLACE. I argue with my boss, but hurt feelings there. We both have to know where we stand. Our opinions must be heard but after that we are civil then we smile and say "you won!". Family or other personal problems shouldn't be brought to work. It's very unprofessional and immature.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
I agree with you, personal problems should be set aside when you are at work. Though it is very hard to act normally when deep inside you are not feeling well. Thank you for the response.
@lopenag (12)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
I learned to be good at it. I preferred to hide my emotions (specially when I'm angry). I never mingle or talk to anyone whenever I'm angry, sad or in a bad mood, because I don't want other people to get affected with what I'm going through. There were times before that I never realized that I also spoiled their mood simply because I'm angry with someone else. There was one incident when one of my colleague approached and asked me something, that time, I've just had a confrontation with my other colleague, I wasn't able to control my emotions, I burst out all my anger to the poor guy. Though he did not showed me that he was affected, I know that I hurt him emotionally, and I feel sorry about that.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
As much as I could, I try not to be angry and control my emotions. Though it is really hard to separate personal problems from work. I just keep quiet whenever I am not feeling well. I try to keep myself busy so I don't dwell with the feelings that much otherwise it will just get intense. Thank you for sharing and happy mylotting.
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 12
I can. I think I am really good at it. it's part of our culture to hide what we really feels. especially bad feelings like anger. it really is important for us because it is considered polite. and politeness is something inseparable from my society. is it fine? well sometimes I think it's good, but there are times that for me, it is unbearable as I wanted to vent it to something like screaming or punching sand sack.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Hiding anger is not really good. You must release it somehow or it will explode like a bomb. Thank you for sharing.
@pahak627 (4246)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
I can't hide my anger though I tried for several times that I was angry. There are really people who are good at that.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Yeah you are right. Of all the feelings, anger is the most difficult to contain. I somehow wish I could do that but that is not good so I just let it be. Thank you for the response.
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Many times anymore, especially at work I try to always hide how I am feeling as I know others are not really interested, so even when I hurt the most I have to keep it inside. I actually do not want to be like one person at work who is always complaining woe is me to get others to feel Sorry for her, but never goes to a Doctor. I know I hurt and somedays worse than others, but I try to keep an upbeat attitude when I can.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
At work, as much as possible, I just do my job and that's it. Though we are all friends here, a little secret won't hurt I think. Anyway, there are people who are loud and there are just who are good at hiding. Thank you for sharing.
• China
9 Oct 12
On the contrary,When I was angry,I used to hide what I feel.I often kept silent and was even deadpan because that I didn't actually want to speak. At first,the more I thought about it,the angrier I grew.I released angry by shopping,singing alone and so on.In most cases,it succeed.But I always thought that angry was transfferred instead of released. Are you sure that you will transform to a very tame sheep? I'm sorry.I don't agree with it.I think it's bad for our health,especially sleep with angry.I hope I can change my attitude and ways to deal with angry.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
You are right. hiding intense feeling could kill you. I am like you too, when I am angry I just keep quiet but that don't help so I need to vent out. I will write or just cry. the more I think of my feelings the more it get intense. So I take a deep breath and ask God for help. Thank your for sharing and happy mylotting.
@riyauro (6428)
• India
9 Oct 12
neither am I good at hiding things and how i feel. I share everything with friends and hubby. Sometimes hubby tells me that i give lot of information to other people which is bad. I do give what is not required also. I am bad at it. I must try to keep my mouth shut now. I am trying though. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
Oh, there are things that must be kept between two people or to your self and your husband is right. The more you talk, the more mistakes it can bring. Thank you for sharing and happy mylotting.
@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
a pleasant day shylade, with that of your query, well, i am also wishing to have the ability to hide my true emotions. wishing that my heart could be as strong and as tough as a thick wall when the situations deals with my family. that i can just ignore the sad moments that happened to us. that i can smile even when my heart was fully hurt. but, i can't
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Yeah, I wish I could not be as transparent as I am. But I find it much better to not hide what we feel. It's like keeping bomb inside. Thank you for the response.