Demanding Lover

Philippines
October 10, 2012 7:25pm CST
I was in mall yesterday and i notice this couple. The girl always demand her partner i'm not sure if he is her boyfriend or husband. She demand to do this do that. Buy me this and buy me that and carry this and that. Wow is he your boyfriend or yaya or maid? Would be like that or be with someone who is very demanding? Me i would not like to be that any of the two. My partner deserves also to be respected.
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18 responses
@ajlasent (485)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Oh my. x_x I'd never do that to my boyfriend. Especially the buy me this buy me that act. What is he, her personal ATM?! tut tut... Partners should be in an equal and mutually beneficial relationship where they can both grow... Probably the guy is happy doing all these for her, but somehow it feels unfair to me, her doing that to him. :(
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Yes very unfair for the guy part. Hate to see a relationship like that one cycle relationship. it's should be give and take relationship.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 12
Maybe he is a willing partner and would do anything for her to the extend of becoming her obedient servant. Sometimes I am ashamed of my own species who behave as though they are goddess and slave driv
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Maybe but i think not to much its not a love anymore. Instead of being boyfriend why not apply as a slave or maid. At least he can earn from that.
@ztuberi (396)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
That's being materialistic. Not worth it to have a partner like that. It isnt even true relationship.
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Very true, the relationship that is not equal wont last.
• Thailand
11 Oct 12
I never ask this kind of things to my boyfriend, to carry my bag and stuff unless it is necessary and my strength is not enough to handle the baggage... I believe my man must have to initiate himself of giving his hand voluntarily. But i guess that girl is way too rude to his boyfriend to command him in public. I don't like to do it with my boyfriend. She must give some respect to her man otherwise she might wake up one day alone. lol am i going so advance? Anyway happy mylotting...
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Yeah even guys also deserves respect. Equality for all and respect.
@Raine38 (9027)
• United States
11 Oct 12
If I were the guy I would have let her carry her crap and leave her . Respect begets respect, and I for one wouldn't be able to respect someone like that. Unless of course I offered, but it should be something that must be appreciated and not taken for granted. I can't even ask my husband to carry my shopping bags, unless of course it is way too heavy for me. He's my partner, my equal. Not my errand boy. Although sometimes, I try to see if I can do it. No luck!
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Agree with you. She actually can carry the bags yet she still pass it to th guy.
@rameshchow (5284)
• India
19 Oct 12
oh wow. she is really a lucky girl who has a good worker as her husband.
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I think you are taking about my girl. LOL .I would not call myself a yaya but It is okay for me to do these things for her because I love her, and making her happy makes me happy a thousand fold. Well, not all guys are build for it though. Try watching my sassy gil "the korean version". Good day
• United States
16 Oct 12
No I couldn't see myself being with a woman like that. In my honest opinion, people who allow others to run over them in that kind of fashion have very low self-esteem. Respect is a vital key of being in a relationship or marriage with someone.
@GemmaR (8526)
12 Oct 12
I do try my best not to be demanding because I know that my partner has to live his own life as well as being in mine, so I always try to find time to meet up which is good for both of us and wouldn't mean that he would have to give anything up on my behalf. I have a friend who forces her partner to take her to places far too much and it worries me in a way because of the fact that he is bound to snap at some point and realise that he could get so much better than somebody who treated him in that way.
@curlyghe (19)
11 Oct 12
Love as defined by too many has been taken for granted. They say that if you love someone you'll do everything...even cross the ocean or take the star...but love is never stupid. It seeks out the truth from each other thus, love is obvious and sincerity is respected. This guy may say he loves her so much that it doesn't matter what she asks for or how she treats her but this is not love at all. Likewise, the girl doesn't love the guy. She mistreats him, disrespects him and disregards their relationship as a "couple" in PUBLIC. For whatever reason they both have, we cannot call them a "loving couple" at all. Even as a human, we all should treat each other with respect and sincerity. The girl thought highly of herself and the guy thinks too low of himself. Love should always be in a balance, not centered to one.
@Rasniki09 (184)
11 Oct 12
She is probably not a mature woman and still have childlike ways about her that will eventually go away. Based on your description, to me she sounds like a teenager. You can only allow a person to have power over you, so if she is demanding and ordering him to buy this and that and carry this and that, if he doesn't object then he wants her to treat him that way. In a relationship, respecting each other is very important.
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
11 Oct 12
Haha .. good one most of gals who feel superior in a relationship tend to behave in that way..They want to feel great by demanding.I would love to do that but I feel bad when I do that.We cant be too harsh on them..Its love then I would not want him to do all that.:)
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Of course, that's too annoying. Though I'm a lady, I still manage to carry my things if it is not that heavy, but of course my boyfriend would be sensitive enough if I really cannot carry my bag or some stuff but as long as I can I will carry it.Sometimes, there are girls who are too abusive with their boyfriends or hubbies, who will ask for favor to do or carry something even if they really can.
@mrsuniega (789)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
this is so annoying, in front of a lot of people and watching you both. If ever my girlfriend would be like that I'm going to drag her home. I'm not a spoiler to buy all the stuffs she wants, nor a rich to get all the thins she love. It may lead to our break-up if this will be the case.
• India
11 Oct 12
Hi friend, i feel pity for that boy friend, i wonder why that girl is doing such kind of things to him. You are right, we must give respect and equal importance to our lover or partner and don't dominate them in this way.
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
11 Oct 12
Ha ha funny scene indeed. I also would not like to be with someone that is always bossing me around as if I am their servant. We all deserve our fair share of respect in the end.
@ellyse2003 (1465)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Surely, she doesn't know how to respect the guy. Anybody wouldn't like that kind of attitude, she lost her self-etiquette as a lady. She's very confident that the guy will follow all the things she'll ask for. I never did that to my husband.
• India
11 Oct 12
I don't know what would i do. If she would say this with love and innocence, then i would definitely do that for her happiness. But if she would say this with attitude, then that would be our last meet.