Forgave My Enemy

@rubyroy (824)
India
October 13, 2012 4:52am CST
I was not talking to my sister- in law for the past one year,because of a misunderstanding.She had made some rude remarks and I had retaliated in the same coin.After that verbal battle I stopped talking to her,but when I came to know the forgiving love of my maker,I started to make efforts to forgive and forget the wrongs of the people who hurt me.I almost succeeded in forgiving all my foes except my sister- in law.I had real fight with my inner self to forgive her from the bottom of my heart.Many times I failed to forgive her fully.I could not make myself to call her.One day after prayer,I made up my mind to call her and settle our difference.I took the initiative to call her,and made up with her after one and a half years of indifference.Nowadays I ensure not to make fights that gives you guilt.If I have difference of opinion, then I quickly clarify the matter,and will never leave the differences to become a big fight or hurt. I also ensure that by keeping a distance,with people who differ in thought patterns I can avoid unnecessary fights and hurts.
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10 responses
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
truly, sometimes difficult to forgive someone who hurts us. Rubyroy you did a good thing in your life to forget and forgive first and foremost we know that forgiving can give us peace of mind. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
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@STOUTjodee (3469)
• United States
13 Oct 12
Some times you have to be the "bigger" person and be the first one to take the first step in making amends with some one. Some times when we get mad at people for what they may have said or done, but we really never find out why the person did it. All we can see is that some one did us wrong, when a person does you wrong find out why they did you wrong at most of times it's just a misunderstanding. Just think what you and your sister-in-law missed out on over a year and a half? As long as a person knows how you feel,think or believe then there should be no arguments because you are up front with that person. Forgiveness is a way of closure to move on with your life.
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
hi, it will depend upon the situation if i can forgive my enemy easily,but of course i need to forgive my enemy but i will never forget those things she/he did to me especially when that person really ruin my life,and i will surely avoid my enemy so that i will never do anything bad for him/her.
@GemmaR (8526)
14 Oct 12
It can be very hard indeed for us to be able to forgive those people who have hurt us the most in our lives. When I was at college my best friend did something that I have never been able to forgive her for. Part of me really misses the friendship that we had together, and I can't believe that something such as this came between us in the end. But neither of us has ever been able to put the past behind us, and because of this I just know that there is no way that I am ever going to be able to be friends of her again.
• United States
13 Oct 12
I have forgiven some of my enemies, but there are a few others where the scars run real deep, and it is going to take a while. I will eventually forgive, but it won't be any time soon. I have just decided that I never want to see them again.
• United States
13 Oct 12
It was a very bold and good move you did on your part. I too forgave my enemy of five years which was my cousin and though it wasn't a misunderstanding and she clearly hurt me on purpose, I took the initiative and we settled our differences. I still have some more that I need to forgive and it will take some time. However, it was nice on how you handled your situation and to see that there are still people out there that is willing to be the bigger person.
@Raine38 (9115)
• United States
13 Oct 12
That is so kind of you. I know it is so hard to forgive especially if the person who offended you is not doing anything to make it all right between the two of you. But other than doing the offending party a favor, by forgiving you are also helping yourself. By patching up any misunderstanding, you gain peace of mind and heart. It is something that no amount of money can buy. It makes you feel good and it also lets you sleep peacefully at night. You feel great because you know that you have nothing against anyone.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
13 Oct 12
that is a great thing which you did and i am really proud of your behaviour and you really are the best,we need to forgive always
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
You did the right thing.We should forgive our enemy despite how tough they are.When we had fights with our enemies before, just pray that everything will turn out well between us.
@riyauro (6428)
• India
13 Oct 12
Oh that is very nice of you. I think someone has to initiate the move and rest will follow. i am glad you have sorted out things and are good terms again. There is nothing to lose in being humble. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.