Disrespectful children.....who to blame?

Philippines
October 17, 2012 1:51am CST
Reading one of mylot discussion regarding disrespectful children made me think whose fault it is that children in today's generation are growing with less and less moral values. I still remember growing up with my parents always reminding us to respect the elders, never to answer back when being scolded, and obey the rules they set in the house or else it will be WW III. But now, you see little children cursing, throwing punches/tantrums when their parents did not buy what they want. Teenagers answering back when they did not like what their parents say. It's really frustrating seeing those things happening...whose fault that they react that way? Is it the fault of the parents? peers? media? Many will say it's the parents fault because it's their job to instill good moral values to their children while they're growing up but because the parents are too busy earning money for a living, they don't have the time to do that. Other will say it's the kind of friends they hang with and because of the modern technologies and gadgets that we have right now...
5 responses
@nemrac12 (388)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
hello mylotter good morning to all of us. I would say the parents are the first to be blame why children are becoming disrespectful. As a parents we teach, and guide our children in their growing up stage. Teach and impart them the good moral values of life, the value of being Children of God. I believe that children are gift of God to us parents. In return we have to mold them in a good ways. I know most mothers especially are working to help their husband in a living. But its not an excuse for the mother not to guide their children. Environment is also a factor why child are becoming disrespectful. If husband and wife and their surrounding neighbors always quarelling, saying bad words in front of the children, there is a great effect to the children. They would think that it is correct. Children tend to imitate or do what parents doing.
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Good morning to you too my fellow mylotter :) Very well said ... as we know it, parents are the first teacher of their children.
• United States
17 Oct 12
I think parents need to make the kids more conscious if their behavior is acceptable.For example,if they are at Starbucks,and the daughter is climbing the condiment table,the parent should tell her to stop it.I might add that it is perfectly acceptable for an employee to tell the kid not to do this if the parent won't.if a little boy is banging the table into the window,same goes.
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I agree with you that parents should call the attention of their child if they misbehave especially in public places. But you know, I noticed that a lot of parents just ignore them. Sorry to say, but sometimes if I cannot take it anymore, I tell the kid to stop ... but in a nice way :)
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
17 Oct 12
Thanks for posting this discussion. Well it would be wrong to blame any one for this. I can say that children learn from what is happening around them, if they see negative things and violence around them then they will only learn violent and negative things. So it is always better to make children learn good and positive things and then only they will learn the importance of elders and other people around them and they wont be disrespectful at all. What say?
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
You're welcome. :) I agree that children learn from what they see and happen around them. Especially at the growing age of 0 to 5 years old, they think that everything they see and hear is all correct. So they should be guided to distinguish what is right and what is wrong.
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
18 Oct 12
I believe that children earned their disrespect-fullness from themselves because of their own way of thinking. Moral values is something that you basically develop from within by listening to good advices and following the right path as well. Answering back is their favorite recipe nowadays and they do not even care if a passer by is looking at them when they are doing it to their parents or eldest Sister or Brother. However, they love it when their parents provide them with latest technology gadgets just to show off and feel that they are actually top in the neighborhood.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
I think parents should be blamed on what the outcome that their children has...because if they guided properly their children while growing up, they will behave in somewhat in a very nice way and no one should actually be blamed.