People with very small heart!!

@riyauro (6431)
India
October 17, 2012 6:26am CST
Hi guys, Since I have painters working at home, I thought I will give them tea at like 4.30pm here which is like tea time. So I went to the shop on the motor bike an d brought the milk, so my mother in law was outside her house taking clothes off the line. she asked me what i brought and I said milk. So she say ' don't give them tea, it will become habit for them'. she said it in front of them. I did not like it. I do not treat people like slave. I told her that my hubby told me to give tea to them morning and in the evening. I did give tea to them in the morning like 10 am as well. My hubby is not like his mother, his mother got very small heart. he is got big heart of gold and that is what I love the most in my hubby. The workers have been working very hard, have not wasted any time like other workers do. they did not even sit to do the painting while they could have easily sat and done, I gave them stool to sit but they said they are okay. I like when workers do good job and I feel like rewarding them too. I have been brought up in a farming family and remember we had sugar cane fields and during cane cutting, because it was labor and not machine harvesting, we kids used to give the laborers lime juice in the fields. We respect the people for what ever work they do and whatever profession. we are all human after all. I did not care what mother in law said but I did what my heart said. I gave them nice milk tea. How do you react to the workers who come to your place?? Do you treat them as slaves and look at them as some untouchables, when they are doing your work and you need them to do your things??
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16 responses
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Giving them something to drink is the least thing we can do for them. It's not a big thing. I hope your mother-in-law will also think about others too. You did the right thing. Offering them something to drink will make them do their even better because they know that you care for them and you treat them well. In our family, we also give snacks to other people when we call them for a certain job or work. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
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@riyauro (6431)
• India
18 Oct 12
Yeah i hope she becomes open with people and the greed of things will go. Life is beautiful and we must share and care for others. we are all humans after all. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Yes, she should share her blessings. I guess it's not good to be greedy. We are taught to be generous. Giving them a drink will make them feel valued and they will work hard.
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
18 Oct 12
I usually offer them something although they never take it there are lots of coffee shops nearby so they just get up and leave when they need something to eat I know people like your mother I think she just had bad experience with lazy and dishonest people
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@riyauro (6431)
• India
18 Oct 12
i think she is always been like this and never happy with how good people do. i have seen her always like this that is why I am concluding. You know there is labor problem here. Goans don't like to work as laborers. They think they are superior and these people are come from different parts of India as laborers and still they have problem with them. They treat them as untouchables. I don't like it at all. I am also an outsider here though from other countries and I will not like anyone ill treating me. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@ASHUDEEP (1774)
• India
17 Oct 12
You are right friend these are workers not a slaves they also need love and respect from others because we know if we give respect to others then we get respect and yes friend some people heart is really small but i think your mother in law thinking is like old persons so they do so because every persons thinking is different .
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@riyauro (6431)
• India
17 Oct 12
yeah, we are all human beings. I have been brought up in a very nice family and we open our doors with clean heart. We give without expecting anything return but here people are different and look for their own benefits. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
17 Oct 12
I guess after hearing your mother say not to give them tea and then you giving them tea, they would have felt so nice and must have done their job very well. It is good to hear you chose to help those painters working in your home, it wasn't nice of your mother in law to tell something like that near them, at least she could have told that to you some place away from those people, she was so disrespectful to them, like they were slaves or something. I would also reward them with small things if they work in my home, what is the loss when they would also feel more comfortable and would want to actually work to satisfy you. You be like this and everything is going to work well for you and for others. Not many people are so caring in this world now.
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@dpk262006 (52503)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 12
Hi! You are very right that painters deserve a cup of tea in morning and evening. If you do not provide them tea, they will take a tea break and may go outside and this will waste precious time. Forget about your mom in law and go ahead.
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@dpk262006 (52503)
• Delhi, India
17 Oct 12
Are you receiving email notifications from mylot?
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@riyauro (6431)
• India
17 Oct 12
honestly speaking I do not open my mails. haha I never see it or read it. I just open my mail to delete the flooded mails from mylot. I have no idea if i have been receiving it or no....I know i can be an idiot too..
@ASHUDEEP (1774)
• India
17 Oct 12
@dpk do not worry friend it is not only you no one receive mylot notifications from some days check here and their is lot of discussions like this http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2711769.aspx
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
It doesn't hurt to give a little reward for people who work for you. Though you have given them their fees, but it's also heartwarming that you share to them, especially if it pertains to food. We also do that. If we hire some workers like doing plumbing repairs, or even just cleaning aircons, we buy them snacks to at least refresh them and let them have a break from their work. Since it's hot here in the Philippines, we buy them cold drinks like sodas or juices. They are even doing much harder work than what we are doing in the office. But we office people even needs coffee break... so they are too! I wish I could work for you too... I would like to taste your milk tea! I love milk tea!
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@riyauro (6431)
• India
18 Oct 12
yeah it doesn't not hurt at all. I feel good after. I am sure you have good heart of giving too. I can see it ..Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
You missed to read my last line... where's my milk tea?
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
18 Oct 12
Hello riyauro! I`ve even sat some workers at our table for meals. My parents had their own business and they sat some workers at table. I did the same when my hubbie and I got married. I have even worked for poor people in the last 17 years, in a church ministry. Blessings riyauro... dainy
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@riyauro (6431)
• India
18 Oct 12
The good work will be paid with cup overflowing. It is very sweet and generous of you to help people and for such a long time. Life is beautiful. god bless.. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
• United States
18 Oct 12
When people helped me move in my building I gave them cash and bottled water. I think it was very good that they just came and helped me without being asked.
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@riyauro (6431)
• India
18 Oct 12
Good things happen to good people gifts, no doubt you are a good human being. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
• United States
17 Oct 12
I really haven't had any workers come to any place I live in since I left home for university. I mean When we had some one mow the lawn at my parents house my dad would always go and talk to the guy and see how he was doing. I think for Christmas he would give him a bonus or give him a gift. When I was in an apartment I would talk to the gentlemen that would sometime come by to fix things. They weren't really there longer than a few hours and I was either off to class or out most of the time. If I did have some one working outside on a place that I lived though it would be rightly so to offer them something especially because it gets really hot where I live
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@surekharathi (14134)
• India
18 Oct 12
You are right friend some people has very small heart even they have more money but dont want to spend for needy persons. But I have no heart because my heart is transfer to my hubby heheh...just joking. My heart is big and ready to give anything to anyone. Your hubby feels your mother heart is small then try to making big. My hubby also told me for tea morning, afternoon and evening all time and I make tea for him.
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@riyauro (6431)
• India
18 Oct 12
I would say the same for me that my heart with my hubby.. anyway I don't know how to make her heart big because some people are not ready to listen so better leave them and do what your heart says and that is what I am doing. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@romzee (938)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Taking care of your people and giving them what they deserve is truly in your heart! You are doing the right thing and just turn a deaf ears on what your mother's in law advice. Follow your heart and truly you will never go wrong my friend...
@riyauro (6431)
• India
18 Oct 12
Very true i think I have to always turn a deaf ear when she comes up with anything like this. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@pahak627 (4206)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I agree with you. They should eat well for them to replenish the energy that was used for their jobs. In our place, we serve cold juices in the morning, lunch, and snacks in the afternoon. They will go home at 5pm since they work only 8 hours a day. We'll just hope that your mom-in-law didn't mean what she said.
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@prashu228 (18888)
• India
17 Oct 12
you did a good thing, we should treat the workers well,they are not our slaves, here usually people give tea in the morning and evening times for the workers, i don't understand why your MIL was against it.
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• India
18 Oct 12
Hi friend, good to hear that you gave tea to the workers, it really shows you have a kind heart. Sad to know about your MIL, some people are in her sort, they are interested in getting lot of work from others and don't give importance to the working people. We must encourage the working people and give this kind of tea and juice to refresh them, it will give more energy to them and they will start their work with more enthusiasm. Keep up your good habit
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Ahh. how could mother in law do that? telling people not good words in front of them. I treat people the way I like them to treat me. I hate it when people does something to people specially those who are poor co's I myself am one. It easier for me get back to those people who does bad things to other people. My mom in law was being bullied by her neighbors before. I want to confront them but I did not do such things because I know they are not my level and I'm not going down to theirs. So I asked hubby if we could rent a big house and get his family to live with us. The thing was.. the house we rented was just across hubby's parents old house. So now.. it's not only them that was being bullied but those people includes us too. There was this one lady that says bad words about us in my hearing. I was not able to control myself and confronted her about her problems towards us. And since I talked to her in front of our house other people hear as well. And since then... they are careful to say things about hubby's family and us. It felts like I was public enemy number for awhile. But now.. I feel comfortable towards them already. Good to you.. that you follow your good heart and did not give in to your mom in law not good attitude.
@Lupin3d (225)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I totally agree with you. When delegating work, I always remember this like I got from a movie "Happy workers work harder.". That simple line stuck to me like glue and if we really think about it, when you see people smiling at work the environment becomes lighter and in a good way those positive energy becomes contagious.