Sometimes, it's much better to be alone...

@fatlex06 (895)
Philippines
October 18, 2012 2:12am CST
Sometimes, it's much better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn't see your worth or appreciate your presence? What are your thought about this one? Happy mylotting guys.
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@sjvenden27 (1851)
• United States
18 Oct 12
That is such a true statement!! Right now I have a room mate well until I save enough to get my own place.. She totally doesnt appreciate me or what I do for her and her family.. I should of cut her off several months ago but I love her.. its my sister.. I have been taking care of her, her daughter and her boyfriend.. She was unemployed from June until Oct.. Rent, food, gas for her car, heck i bought the car, and plenty of other things.. It was extremely bad on my part to think that she would help me... Now she is working has no money cuz her unemployement quit.. And there are asking me for food.. When there were a couple times when I was broke didnt really have anything left in the kichen.. (everyone ate) So what do they do? Leave me and my boys and go to Olive Garden and eat.. They did this a couple times.. That doesnt include keeping the house clean... So It is better to be alone, no one demanding, no one eyeing every little thing you are doing.. Life can be lonely being alone but staying with someone can be a whole lot worst.. You can lose soo much more...
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@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Oh. That's bad. Your sister should grow up and stand for herself. She has a daughter right? You support the three of them? And you get nothing in return? Oh my. And the boyfriend. He needs to have his own job to support your sister and their daughter. Oh my. They should stand for themselves. Let them feel that you are always there for them but they must learn to be independent. But you are a good sister. Eventhough I'm not a family nor a friend, I appreciate what you did for your sister. But I think it's just too much. But I think you are too kind to refuse to help them. :)
@prashu228 (18683)
• India
18 Oct 12
hi sjvenden27 , that's so sad , how can your sister do like that to you? that's really disgusting . I am so sorry. But i think ,you should talk to them ,once they also should care for you , just cant leave you and take for granted. If they are doing so, may fault is in you also for allowing them to do so, better talk to them in a friendly manner about how you feel , when they ignore you. you have every right to do so.
@litvillegas (1275)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Hello fatlex06 I agree! Sometimes I wanna be alone in the shore watching the waves, mountain or just in my room. It's a great time to ponder things and plan the things I wanna do in my life.
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@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I agree with you on that. And sometimes, I can do my things freely and I can't hear any negative feedbacks from the others. I can do whatever I want to do without anyone prohibiting me. Haha. Thanks for sharing. I really appreciate it.
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I agree with you on that. And sometimes, I can do my things freely and I can't hear any negative feedbacks from the others. I can do whatever I want to do without anyone prohibiting me. Haha. Thanks for sharing. I really appreciate it.
@lymsnb (223)
• China
18 Oct 12
in my view , i am afraid of lonely .i never have been alone . at one time my parents not at home , after my school . i go home without met they , i feel very afraid ,lonely i was crying until my parents come back home from the market , now i have grown up ,today i am 20 years old , maybe i do not cry but in fact i still afraid of lonely .
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@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Oh. I hope you won't feel alone anymore. And yes, I think in general, people are really afraid to be alone. :) Say hi to your parents as well. Thanks for sharing a bit.
@prashu228 (18683)
• India
18 Oct 12
some people just cant stay alone, may be because they are not used to it ,that's the reason,,but slowly we should try to spend time for ourselves , as we may need to at some point of time.
@sishy7 (24784)
• Australia
18 Oct 12
I am more of a loner. This forum has given me the opportunity to express myself more than I would have offline. Apparently, I have more friends here than I do offline...
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@prashu228 (18683)
• India
18 Oct 12
hi friend, yes i do the same, previously i used to spend lot of time on phone and with texting friends,but now i realized they are not worth and started spending my time on mylot ,here i found some really good people, who are really worth talking or chatting. They give us valuable opinions,which is very useful in life.
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@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Yeah, definitely you are right. It's sometimes good to be alone when the person whom you are with is hurting you, may it a friend or someone you are in relations to. As for me though, I would rather argue with hubby than quiet and calm but just by myself. Or rather be hurting than away from him. Just like now that he is away for a training for four days. I hate it when he is not around. It's actually different situation with a boyfriend/girlfriend than a husband and wife. The commitment is deeper and the bond is stronger.
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@lady1993 (13049)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Yes, i totally agree with you.. Each one of deserves someone who will respect us and accept us for who we are.. We should not stay with a person that only hurts us ,mentally or physically, and disregards us.
@prashu228 (18683)
• India
18 Oct 12
yes friend, if we go on tolerating such people ,they take us for granted and we never get our respect we deserve. Better to be away from such people.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
18 Oct 12
You are right some time is better to live alone from crowd. Now these days I am feeling to live and not like to talk with anybody, not like to going out of home.
@prashu228 (18683)
• India
18 Oct 12
oh my surekha, what will happen to your students ,if you do so?
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
Being alone doesn't mean you are lonely..its useless having someone but doesn't know how to appreciate even small things..its just like they treated you like a thing that can be ignored anytime. I am alone but i am not lonely. I can do whatever I want to do without asking approval to someone. Cheers!
@hilarion (72)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
being alone is very different from being lonely so i certainly believe that being alone sometimes is also important. relationship with oneself is really amazing because you can find a friend out of yourself
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Oh, I love to be alone often too. I am feeling more relaxed when I can be with my self. Though I love to be with my friends too esp. when we have the same interests. The way I read your lines, you are somehow referring to a lover(?). Well, it's pretty normal in most couples. Maybe because two people got different interests and likes, so one may feel she/he is not appreciated. It also happens when you spend most of your time making petty fights over small things. Thus, you wish rather to be alone than feeling stressed over someone who seem not enjoying your company. I suggest you give time for your self..and let him time for him self too. You know, there are really times we need spaces. Not because we are not happy with them, but because we need to miss them too. Sometimes, we need to feel their absence so as to appreciate their presence :)
@prashu228 (18683)
• India
18 Oct 12
yes, i agree. its better to be on ourselves ,instead of depending on others, if they really don't see our presence. Fault will be on our side ,if we don't move away from such people. Its better we spend time alone and pamper ourselves.
18 Oct 12
Yes you are right,being with someone who can't appreciate even a simple thing from you and your presence is useless to be in company. Sometimes we need company because we want to be appreciated and feel our importance. Maybe try to be with someone who would appreciate your presence and not only being there to be like a decoration or just none.
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
So true! it's better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn't see your worth. If to be with that someone only makes you miserable then better let go. The important thing is you will have a peace of mind even if your alone.