Do you believe in receiving signs from a deceased love one?
By juniperlocal
@juniperlocal (5)
United States
October 18, 2012 7:47pm CST
My husband thinks I'm "losing it", but I honestly believe that I received signs from my grandfather ("Pap").
A few weeks after his passing, I was at home alone, crying my heart out, thinking how I didn't get to say goodbye to him, and how much I missed him. As I was turning on my computer, I said "Pap, I miss you. Please let me know that you're okay."
I don't know about you, but I have a bad habit of saving stuff on the computer desktop. I still had three pictures of my Pap saved on the desktop from when I was printing pictures for the funeral services. Anyhow, I turned on the computer, entered my password, and out of the 25+ icons on the desktop, the only icon that showed up was a picture of Pap. The picture displayed by itself for about 15 seconds before the other icons showed up. Of course, I thought it was just a coincidence and really didn't think much more about it.
The next night, I was thinking about him again, crying, and kept asking him to please give me a sign that he's okay. I turned on the computer, and the same thing happened again; the only icon that displayed for about 15 seconds was the same picture. I was so happy! I took this as a sign that he was saying hello and letting me know that he's okay. When I mentioned this to my husband, he said it was just a coincidence.
The next few nights when I turned on my computer, it was the normal desktop with the 25+ icons. But, then on Sunday, as I was turning on the computer, I said "Pap, please give me just one more sign to let me know that you're okay." Again, the icon that showed up on the desktop was the same picture of him that displayed the other two times, but this time, two more pictures of him displayed, one being a picture that was taken on my wedding day of the three of us...Pap, me and my husband. These three icons displayed for about 15 seconds before the other icons showed up. This can NOT be a coincidence, and I wasn't sleeping so it wasn't a dream.
When I told my husband about this last incident, he just looked at me and said "Are you cracking up?" I honestly believe my Pap was responding to my pleas for him to let me know he was okay. My only regret is asking him to "give me just one more sign" because I haven't received any signs from him since then. It's only been a little over a month since his passing, and I'm still hopeful that I'll hear from him again when I need him the most.
What do you think? Was this just a coincidence? Or, do you also believe that these were signs from him?
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6 responses
@deazil (4723)
• United States
24 Oct 12
I'm sorry about your grandfather. It's very sad to lose someone we love. Especially grandparents. They're special. Kind of like parents but...better, sort of. No offense meant to our parents.
But I think that story is great. And interesting. Anything's possible. I've heard strange stories from people that I'm sure are sane and know what they're talking about. So why not believe it? Or maybe all your icons (except his) "very conveniently" got stuck. 
I think he heard you and is watching over you.
It's a comforting thought. And I liked your story.:D
But I think that story is great. And interesting. Anything's possible. I've heard strange stories from people that I'm sure are sane and know what they're talking about. So why not believe it? Or maybe all your icons (except his) "very conveniently" got stuck. I think he heard you and is watching over you. It's a comforting thought. And I liked your story.:D1 person likes this
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
24 Oct 12
Hi deazil and I must say, very nicely put. Like you said, "Why not believe it?"..no one needs anyone else to believe it. I do believe in strange things happening like this, and I do believe they are signs from the deceased letting us know they are ok, or just letting us know they're around.
I'm sure she's getting more signs in different area's but not paying attention to them. They are always "coincidences" as people think, but they're actually not. You can only get so many coincidences and then it's time to really take it to heart. This WAS a great discussion.
Like you said, "Why not believe it?"..no one needs anyone else to believe it. I do believe in strange things happening like this, and I do believe they are signs from the deceased letting us know they are ok, or just letting us know they're around.
I'm sure she's getting more signs in different area's but not paying attention to them. They are always "coincidences" as people think, but they're actually not. You can only get so many coincidences and then it's time to really take it to heart. This WAS a great discussion. @deazil (4723)
• United States
25 Oct 12
Hi Kash! Thank you! And that's a great thought - I'm sure she's getting more signs in different area's.
juniperlocal, I'm glad you posted it too. As Kash said, this is a great discussion. How amazing that no one else was hurt at the accident. I also go to the store around 2:30-3:30 in the am to avoid traffic (and people). It's good to realize there must be other people out there that do the same. I never thought of it before until you said it about your grandfather. I was feeling very badly (ongoing problem
)when I came across your post. It lifted my spirits for a little while. You never know if something you say is going to have a positive effect on someone. Thanks for that - and a very good post!
Thank you! And that's a great thought - I'm sure she's getting more signs in different area's.
juniperlocal, I'm glad you posted it too. As Kash said, this is a great discussion. How amazing that no one else was hurt at the accident. I also go to the store around 2:30-3:30 in the am to avoid traffic (and people). It's good to realize there must be other people out there that do the same. I never thought of it before until you said it about your grandfather. I was feeling very badly (ongoing problem)when I came across your post. It lifted my spirits for a little while. You never know if something you say is going to have a positive effect on someone. Thanks for that - and a very good post!1 person likes this
@juniperlocal (5)
• United States
25 Oct 12
I was hesitant on posting my question, but I'm actually glad I did. Everyone's comments have been very helpful. I'm no longer questioning myself. I truly believe these were signs from him, and it is very comforting to know that he's ok.
I should be thankful that he didn't have to suffer. He was on oxygen for the past 6 months or so. He would tell me all the time that this is no way to live, having to carry around an oxygen bottle, and, he definitely didn't want to end up in a nursing home.
Every Wednesday around 3:30 AM, he would go to Wal-Mart. He went this early to avoid the traffic. He just left Wal-Mart and only made it about a half mile down the road. There was a disabled vehicle and a State Policeman pulled off to the side of the road. They said my pap's car came flying towards them, and they jumped out of the way because they thought for sure he was going to hit the police cruiser, and then all of a sudden, my pap's vehicle just stopped within a few inches of the cruiser. The policeman said that he ran to the vehicle, and tried to do CPR on my pap, but he was already gone.
He passed away three days before I was to leave for a 7-day cruise. I am so thankful that it didn't happen while I was on the cruise.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
24 Oct 12
All I can say is, yes, I believe you can receive signs from deceased people. You might even be missing some just thinking they are coincidences of some sort. I think he's letting you know he's around and watching over you, as Deazil mentioned too.
Don't worry about asking him again, if he can do it, he will. Just remember to watch for other signs too. This is one thing I could never understand with people...why are they so afraid of the people they loved, if they showed up in spirit before them. I wouldn't be afraid at all, I'd really love it.
@deazil (4723)
• United States
25 Oct 12
Hi again . I'm always looking for signs from my mother but to no avail. There are a few people (and 2 very special cats) I want a sign from. I've sat in one of the cats favorite places in the basement for a long time and concentrated really hard. And waited and waited...
I don't mind telling you because I think you understand. Most people think I'm crazy. I'm just crazy with grief. But I had one of my cats preserved so at least I can still see him every day. Although it's bittersweet.
. I'm always looking for signs from my mother but to no avail. There are a few people (and 2 very special cats) I want a sign from. I've sat in one of the cats favorite places in the basement for a long time and concentrated really hard. And waited and waited... I don't mind telling you because I think you understand. Most people think I'm crazy. I'm just crazy with grief. But I had one of my cats preserved so at least I can still see him every day. Although it's bittersweet.1 person likes this
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
25 Oct 12
Hi deazil,
After reading your comment, the first thing that popped into my head was that you are trying to hard to connect. For example, did you ever lose something or forgot where you put something, and you look and look and look, and can't find it? Then the next thing you know, it's right there under your nose. That's what I'm talking about.
I'm sure your mom is around and so are the cats and they're probably all together. Ease up on yourself and give yourself time. Eventually things will happen when you least expect it, and sometimes in the strangest places. It can even happen when you're shopping, or working, or just relaxing, watching tv. But it will happen..trust me. 
After reading your comment, the first thing that popped into my head was that you are trying to hard to connect. For example, did you ever lose something or forgot where you put something, and you look and look and look, and can't find it? Then the next thing you know, it's right there under your nose. That's what I'm talking about.
I'm sure your mom is around and so are the cats and they're probably all together. Ease up on yourself and give yourself time. Eventually things will happen when you least expect it, and sometimes in the strangest places. It can even happen when you're shopping, or working, or just relaxing, watching tv. But it will happen..trust me. @deazil (4723)
• United States
25 Oct 12
Thanks Kash, you always have the right thing to say. I'm just such a sad person. And not getting notifications again isn't making me happy either. I'm on the computer all the time and I have my email open so I always know when I get comments. I like to get right back in here and respond. Anyway, I'll try to stop looking. I'm always looking and listening for them. If I did have any friends they'd think I was crazy. Sometimes I go and pat Hamilton (the preserved one) but if I start crying I have to be careful not to get him wet. The taxidermist told me don't let him get wet and no humidity. Not sure what will happen but I don't want to find out. I'll try to think about other things and I do trust you.
I'm just such a sad person. And not getting notifications again isn't making me happy either. I'm on the computer all the time and I have my email open so I always know when I get comments. I like to get right back in here and respond. Anyway, I'll try to stop looking. I'm always looking and listening for them. If I did have any friends they'd think I was crazy. Sometimes I go and pat Hamilton (the preserved one) but if I start crying I have to be careful not to get him wet. The taxidermist told me don't let him get wet and no humidity. Not sure what will happen but I don't want to find out. I'll try to think about other things and I do trust you. 1 person likes this
@GemmaR (8517)
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19 Oct 12
I think that when you lose a loved one, you automatically start to look for signs to show that they are still with you in some kind of form. I don't think that there is anything wrong with this as such because it can comfort you to know that you're not alone and that they haven't left you entirely. There is nothing wrong with seeing these signs, and I think that the only time that a problem may occur would be if you let it take over your life completely. But this isn't something that most people do, so it is usually alright.
@juniperlocal (5)
• United States
25 Oct 12
It is very comforting to know that he's ok. I'm sure I'll still look for signs, but, you're right, I can't (and wouldn't) let it take over my life. Thank you for the comments.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
19 Oct 12
I heard older folks telling these signs thing from the deceased love ones, but I don't know whether they are real or not. But many people believe in it. In reality, you choose to believe what you really believe, or you choose not to. I hope that keep you happy, and your grandpa definitely wants to see you smile, not crying all the time.
@juniperlocal (5)
• United States
19 Oct 12
You're right...my grandfather definitely would not want me crying all the time. Since it makes me feel better to believe that it was a sign from him, then that's what I'll continue to believe, and quit questioning myself. Thank you for the response.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
25 Oct 12
I know it was a coincidence. It probably happened because of something big you did with the photos you're talking about.
But the mind sees what it wants to see. The ringing in my ears MAY just be some high blood-pressure, but I think it's the echo of the Big Bang from the beginning of the universe.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
26 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well it does happen that the one whom we adore the most after they leave, their blessings and wishes are always with us and for that reason they come to our lives in disguise and in different forms that we fail to apprehend them but we can feel their presence around them as if they are around us and wanting us to be blessed every time and that we make progress every time in our lives.
What say?
