Good evening Mylot!
October 19, 2012 11:12pm CST
Good evening folks! I am a former mylotter who has decided to rejoin the ranks, after being forced to admit that every little bit will help over the coming months. Since I last left Mylot, much has happened. I have been married, and separated, and as a result, will be flying from Canada back home to the UK sometime in January. But, I won't be alone. I have met a wonderful loving man, who has been absolutely fantastic FOR me, and TO me! As my marriage broke down, I became somewhat jaded towards men, I hated the general attitude that women are just there to please men, and do as they say. I know my husband certainly thought that ... Poor guy wanted a mother, not a wife. But I wasn't willing to settle for someone who refused to treat me with even the most basic respect. Thanks to my amazing man, I have been pulled out of that way of thinking. He treats me like a Queen. He holds doors open for me, and closes them behind me (The car door), he's not ashamed to hold my hand in public, he has no problem with public displays of affection (lol), he sits and listens when I have an issue with something, and offers advice if he can, he makes me laugh when I want to cry, and calms me down when I should be furious. Most of all, he loves me for ME! These are just a few of the many reasons I love him. What are the reasons you love your other half so much?
20 Oct 12
I m happy to know that you have found the right man for you. Not everyday could we see a man having those traits. But I guess, some women are okay with men who are not that perfect. What should really matter is the respect and love for you will always stay the same in the years to come.
20 Oct 12
In all honesty, when we first married, I was happy. But things changed, and I'm really not sure when. He started to not have a lot to say to me in the evenings when he got home from work. Then he started refusing to eat what I cooked for dinner for both of us, saying that I didn't eat the same things he did, even though he'd been perfectly happy beforehand. I understand that men aren't perfect, and I'm willing to overlook certain traits, just like the next person, but to go from things being great, to all of a sudden, awful, that was a shock. As things got worse, I began to realize that it had to end. My attempts at discussing the issues were met with 'I don't see what the problem is' kind of responses. When I got those kind of responses, I knew it was time to end it. My new man is the exact opposite. He genuinely wants to make me happy, and he does that just by being himself. My girlfriends always tell me what a catch he is, and do I ever know it! I am so so happy, happier than I ever thought I would be!
20 Oct 12
I know what you mean. And you are lucky to have gotten out of that marriage before things got even worse. Finding the right person isn't always that easy. Discovering his true personality sometimes takes years. I would like to advice you, if it is okay with you that with this new love that you have found, have your patience 10x more than you used to. Sometimes couples just need sometime to really get to know each other well. Good luck!