new on the job

Philippines
October 20, 2012 8:53pm CST
i am new on the job, and i feel one of my officemates is bullying me by deliberately putting me down. How should i react to stop her from embarrassing me?
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4 responses
• United States
21 Oct 12
give that person a piece of your mind and they will get away from you faster than you can spin around.
• United States
21 Oct 12
Be careful that could come back to haunt you especially if you are new on the job. The reason, I say this is lets say the person that does this has a good reputation with the boss. You are the new person, you have yet to build a reputation at the job. So who will they be more apt to believe you are the person with the good relationship with the boss. Also, it then because a tic for tact situation going back and forth that can just continue to get worse. Plus it could damage your reputation on the job. Most jobs have that 90 - 120 probationary period. I would say keep your cool and document. See my post below.
@murkie (1105)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
hello thisisit. this really is it. what you should do is not to mind that officemate. s/he may just be insecure ans felt threatened by you. just act natural, and prove yourself by way of actual work. most of your co-workers would notice and it would be that insecure officemate who's going to be rejected. can you think of anything why s/he would want to put you down? yes. probably you are better than him/her. remember that if people try to pull you down, it only means that you are above them.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
Since you are new to your job, I think you need to focus more on doing the best you can do so that your bosses and the rest of the office would recognize you. Just don;t mind the person bullying you. That person mist be feeling threatened when you were hired. Just do what you are supposed to do. And when he becomes really abusive, you can always tell HR about it and file a report.
@aireanna18 (1914)
• United States
21 Oct 12
Ouch, this is a double ended sword. Recently, I had an issue with those that I supervising me deliberating sabotaging me by them choosing to be unhelpful. I would be very careful how you deal with this issue because a lot of being new at a job involves work politics. Until, you figure out the politics in the work environment it can be like swimming in shark infested waters. I would recommend document their actions. Specifically, write down what happened. Write the observable facts. Note whether their where or were not any witnesses. Make sure that you document the situation for awhile. Then, I would recommend seeing is there a pattern. When the put-down happens, I would find a polite way to let the other party to please stop. It could be something as simple as you coming up with a routine that if someone puts you down or bullys you that you state calmly. I do not like it when _________, please stop. I would also document that you have asked them to politely stop. Then, if it continues...you have documentation of the problem. That you have made it clearly asked them to stop; then you can go to either your supervisor, Human Resources, or employee reporting hotline (if you have away to do it anonymously - not all companies have this option) to report the situation as harassment in the workplace.