She's too annoying

Philippines
October 21, 2012 3:18am CST
Yes, she is my friend but she really annoying. I hangout with them yesterday evening, my old high school friend. We are talking about the courses we took in college. Then she keep on asking what will our job in the future. And sometimes her question really too offensive. It's not anymore question yet a insulting statement or question. She's our friend yet she too annoying already. Talking and asking non sense. Yet no one want to confront her maybe because they also or we dont want to hurt her feelings. How i wish i had the courage to tell her that and of course avoid hurting her feelings.
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16 responses
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
22 Oct 12
I understand your feeling. Yes, there are some annoying people, especially females who like asking offensive questions. Sometimes it is because they are in the menopause, sometimes they are too empty in their hearts, and want to have some one to be their listeners. Well, I think it is better to show no interests in her topics and let her feel that. Of course maybe she can still not realize that.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
that would be tough. but if someone does care, or before breaches of friendships might break ones elasticity, have courage to tell her in a nicer way or yet in a half - meant joke at first then seconded with explanations and of on the shoulder telling her that what she said is hurting to the feelings now. maybe she would listen and be tamed like that. sometimes we should understand other friends because they came to forget that what they uttered were hurtful already to the feelings of others. they need reminders good luck :)
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@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
A true friend knows how to make her friend realize her mistakes. She knows to say it appropriately in a manner that she will most likely understand. That's what a friend can do to her friend.
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@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
That is really annoying. I got a friend that she is also boastful and so fond of herself. I just roll my eyes whenever she do it. I think you should talk to her in a subtle way. But if she is the kind that won't accept others opinions towards her, maybe you could neglect her whenever she say something bad or change topic before she could go through. Though it is really harsh for her, but try to make it not too obvious not to hear.
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@Raine38 (9031)
• United States
21 Oct 12
I don't think she will take it the wrong way if you guys tell her that you are all offended with the manner which she delivers her questions. You guys can always tell her this in a way which will not be offensive to her. And if you are all friends, she will understand that you are telling this to her out of concern because it is not going to be healthy in any relationship if you start hiding your resentments against each other. It will be better to address the issue while it is still manageable; just imagine what if you guys just keep it hidden to yourself, and she keeps on doing this manner of questioning until it reaches the point that you feel like exploding back to her because she is oblivious that she's being hurtful.
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@prashu228 (24816)
• India
21 Oct 12
hello friend, yes, some are really annoying people,they think or have the mind set that what ever they is the beast and what others do is not worth at all . I too have few friends who are like that, just ignore them , or say there are already people who got place after doing the course, you have inquired about it well.
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@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
Your friend will be insensitive everytime you get together. I believe it will be best if you could speak to her frankly and tell her she has that issue with most of you. She may feel hurt but try to say it a way that you are trying to help her. She'll understand since this is for her own good.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
21 Oct 12
just guarentee that in the next meeting, you didn`t invite her..
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• India
21 Oct 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about your stage. This kind of annoying and irritating friends are common in every set, we are in need to tolerate them. We can indirectly tell that we are uncomfortable with their activities, some persons may change their attitude after our words, but still some person will continue their style and never change them for any one.
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• Philippines
21 Oct 12
hi tine, If a friend is being offensive I think you must tell her that it's not funny anymore cause if you hide this feelings of yours it can lead to something bad in the future sometimes when we are fed up and can't take it anymore we just burst out and said something bad it may ruin your friendship with her. happy mylotting
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
hi, i am not easily get annoy to a person who speak jokes that sometimes its too much and offended,but there are times that i get annoyed too especially if that is below the belt jokes,i am thankful because i am not easily feel annoy when i met those kind of people.
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
Oh my! I think you need to confront her. I mean.. if you are really friends she would understand that she needs to be careful with her words and she needs to know what are the areas where she needs to improve on.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
31 Oct 12
Hi tinetine, I´m sure she didn`t want to hurt. My mother is that type, my mother is so intelligent that sometimes she is insensitive to the common socialization. I can`t tell nothing directly to my mother without hurting her feelings, so I try to joke her with a lot of love, so she realizes her mistakes of sounding rude. It`s like adding sugar to the coffe, don`t you think so? Blessings tinetine... dainy
@murkie (1105)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
i think you could tell her so and make it in such a way as if you are jesting. she continues to be like that since she may be thinking that it's just ok for all of you. nobody's saying anything anyway. it may have been her idea of a "joke". though evidently it is already annoying for everybody else. the best thing to do is to say so, rather than avoiding her without her even knowing why.
@GemmaR (8527)
21 Oct 12
I had a friend when I was doing my degree who was always annoying, but had decided that she wanted to hang around with us all for some reason. In the end I had to tell her that I found her annoying because I just wasn't enjoying my course in the same way anymore and I knew that I wanted to let her know the way that I was feeling. So I told her and it turned out that she was just a little bit insecure, and things got a lot better for her once I told her that I liked her very much but she would have to stop doing all of these annoying things.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
Yes, you are right, She should be aware of what she is saying.I think she just shared her thought and then without knowing that it was already offensive with your part.I think once is tolerable and the second time around it is annoying already. You should correct her fault for her not to do again that insult.