"I don't have a father...."
October 21, 2012 3:37pm CST
I overheard a ten-year-old kid asking another kid who was born out of wedlock where her father was and she answered, "I don't have a father." So I answered her, no, everyone has a father. We all have fathers. All children have fathers. It's just that you don't know where your father is. I sympathized with the kid who had to say "I don't have a father" just because she is an illegitimate child. How would you have reacted if you hear someone say that or if you overhear someone another kid where her or his father is?
• Davao, Philippines
23 Oct 12
I will felt pity to the child. That is not his/her fault, it's their parents fault why at his/her age they doesn't have a father or a mother. It's very hard to think, if that was happen in your case. Will you still be a good child to anybody?
22 Oct 12
oh my lovely friends , i am so sorry to hear that .don't warry about it, you have many relatives .your mom ,and your friends , classmates ,,you are not alone , just try your best to do evrything that you like . just do it you can do it don't mind others words , believe in youself , when next time ,another kids who to say “ you have a father , don't mind him . because maybe your are a lucky dog , however he maybe not happy . and good children will be loved by everyone, you ont only one father, you have many fathers , friends , best wishes to you my lovely friend, have a nice day
22 Oct 12
That is really pitiful. I would probably say, you might not have a father but you are loved. Most children who grew up with a single parent feel that something is missing and that's because they think that a single parent's love is not enough sometimes. But if the single parent really knows how to make a child feel secure, the child might no longer long for the missing parent.
21 Oct 12
Well, I have two children who have no contact any more with their father. When we divorced, he distanced himself more and more over the years and now, the only contact he has is with me, every once in a long while when I update him on how they are doing, etc. I actually think it's ok for a child to say "I don't have a father" because, in their every day life, they really don't. If they don't have a father figure, a step-father, or other male that steps into that role, then it's normal for them to feel they have no father. To correct them and tell them that yes they have a father (because of the biology) may just serve to make them feel even more unwanted, more neglected, more unloved or more "thrown away." Over the years, my daughters have made statements to the effect that they don't have a father any more and I simply allow them to feel what they feel.