Uploading Funeral Wake pictures

Philippines
October 21, 2012 11:09pm CST
Recently, my friend's grandfather died. And today, I was really shocked that she uploaded the picture of his deceased grandfather in Facebook while in his coffin. I find it very immoral to have such a personal picture uploaded in a social networking site where almost everyone have access to. I really find it very disturbing seeing a deceased person in the coffin. How about you my fellow mylotters, do you find such act disturbing too?
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Well I do not find it immoral but I find it inappropriate rather. Immoral is something bad or unacceptable and is not morally fit. I think the poster was not aware that some people would not find it acceptable since they are not related to the deceased person. But I guess for the family members they can understand the sentiments of the poster.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Well we do not know that for sure. It could be that the family or relatives are just not posting their comments for that. As for us who are not comfortable with it we could just simply remove that certain post from our page if we feel uncomfortable with that. Posting your own comment will just worsen it since everytime someone post there you will get notified as well. Let the poster express his/her grief maybe that can console her in this way. I suggest you just respect his/her decision to post. If FB will find it inappropriate then they will be the first one to object uploading this picture.
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I really think that her relatives are not aware that she uploaded such picture because only her friends are giving comments to that particular picture.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
you're right rsa, immoral is not the right word but inappropriate. The proper things she should have done is to make a group page with her relatives and post their the picture of the deceased where all her relatives can relate to those pictures.
@anaknitatay (1335)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Yes, it is kind of creepy, but maybe you should ask your friend what his reasons were. What may be creepy to you might be a tribute for him (even if it is a twisted tribute).
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• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I agree. Before we start calling your friend immoral why not ask what's the reason why your friend uploaded those pics? Maybe some relatives who are away wanted to see it. If such is the case your friend should have created a private group and post the pictures there like someone mentioned already.
@offlimits (596)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I've always wondered why some people do that. I'm not grossed out or anything but for me I wouldn't want the rest of the world to remember my loved one in a coffin, but instead I would want them to remember him when he's still alive. Although it's not wrong, putting up such pictures in a social networking site is just... degrading, for a lack of a better word, for the deceased person himself. Maybe it's okay for others, but for me if a picture of myself in a coffin was uploaded I wouldn't be too happy for disrespecting me like that.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
22 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well yes u are absolutely right, it was an immoral act to upload pics of such an occasion, i think she has gone completely crazy and has no tinge of respect for her grandfather. This is not the perfect way to pay obeisance to her deceased grandfather and i think she should remove those pics immediately and realize her mistakes. What say?
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• Philippines
22 Oct 12
A ton of welcome for you too . I cannot really comment of her action on uploading such because she might find it insulting. But if I find time, I would really tell her that it is not ideal to have such picture being uploaded in a social media such as facebook.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
22 Oct 12
Somepeople use facebook for ll the wrong things. These photos had no reason to be on facebook or anyother site.
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Honestly that happens .
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
you bet i would be troubled if i had seen this myself! i think i sure won't be able to forget this and i just might ask why did he/she has to upload such pictures for public to see. That is really absurd! oh my i can't get over the idea! please!!!
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
You want me to send the facebook link to you? Just kidding, I do understand what you are feeling. And sorry also for this discussion
• United States
22 Oct 12
Yeah, I definitely don't think that was appropriate at all. I'm not even sure why it offends me, but it just does. I don't think you should be putting that up on facebook.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I have seen a similar picture in Facebook a week ago and I was surprised seeing them. I mean they should have respected the deceased. I don't think it is the kind of photo that you need to flaunt in Facebook. hat was your friend thinking anyway?