He got my sister pregnant

Philippines
October 23, 2012 8:30pm CST
Not again. I am still recovering from the insult I received from my boss last week, and this annoying colleague of mine who set her phone on do not disturb mode yesterday. And today, I have to deal with this guy who keeps calling and looking for a colleague of mine who went abroad about a week ago. He seems irritated when I told him that the person he is looking is still abroad. He said it's an urgent matter and he thinks that I was just lying and hiding my colleague. He got really mad and told why he needs to talk to him, it is because this colleague of mine got her sister pregnant. I was not able to speak for a while as I find this information very serious and confidential. I sent my colleague a message informing him about this caller. And then a while ago, I received a call from his wife, telling me that she sent me an email with attached signed application of leave because his husband cannot return to the country due to health problems. Upon checking, I saw that the leave is indefinite. I find it really disturbing as I am sure that he is just trying to escape from his obligation here. I think that her wife knows nothing about it. I don't know what am I going to say when this guy calls again. How do I handle this type of caller? What is the right thing for me to do? Thanks.
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
24 Oct 12
I'm really confused with this post to be hoenst. But what I get from it is this man got this girl pregnent, then leaving abraod to not have to deal with his responsibility?. Just shows the lack of a man he is, and I personally wouldnt give him the time of day let alone get me pregnent. I would simple forward the call to the manager, or say sorry I can't help you. Simple dont get involved with them.
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Thanks for your response, I am so sorry about that. Yes, that is what I mean with my post. He works here and left for vacation abroad. His leave is only until last Friday and he is supposed to be here by then. But after I sent him a message that someone's looking for him and told him the details, he wanted his leave to be extended. And then sent me an application for indefinite leave. His wife is asking me to process it. He would be really mad at me if I let our boss know that is really happening. I really hope I don't have to be involved by this but I am the one who process our staff's leave applications. And since he isn't here, I am the one being asked for explanations for his absence.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Nov 12
hi again Paper__doll Give all the details of botht for colleague abroad and of the man whose sister was got pregnant by the sleazy colleague to your supervisor and let him or her handle this as your colleague is their em ployeer and thus may be fired or at least chastised.oh Peptic ulcers can be bad but nine out of ten guesses I would say this was a hastily made up excuse for dodging the irate brother,.
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
Thanks Hatley. Yes, in fact, I do know from the very beginning that he is just making an excuse to extend his leave because he really does not want to return to the country to face his obligations. He will be in big trouble if this thing will come into open. Am not sure but I think it is a ground for his termination. This has really cause me so much stress because even the collection agency and banks are looking for him and they are so persistent in calling. By the way, I've emailed his wife and told her to just call my boss. This type of people is such a coward and irresponsible I believe. They should really be punished for doing this kind of acts. I am so sad for the child and the mother.
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Oct 12
Better to tell him the truth that the guy he is looking will no longer in your office because the guy file an indefinite leave. The big problem when the wife of this guy will know that her husband have a secret affair to a girl who is now pregnant.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
I guess that it is the best thing to do, I will just inform this guy that the person he is looking is in indefinite leave. It is up to him if he will believe me or not. Thanks july.
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Oct 12
That would be a nice move for you to do. It's up to him if he will believe you or not. Atleast you did your part
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Oh, what a situation you have there. Maybe talk to his wife. So she will know the truth if ever it is true that he got the caller's sister pregnant. It's a rude way to escape one thing he has done wrong well maybe in fact, he liked it when he did it. I just don't understand people like that who always escapes from reality. There are lots people affected by that. Like you, who is supposed to be innocent now has some obligations to answer when the caller calls back. Well, that's what I thought is right, tell the situation to his wife. It will make things worst but that's the right way I guess.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
That is true. I don't think he can solve this problem by hiding. He can't hide from it forever. I feel sorry for those people involoved. And I feel sorry for myself as I am the one who needs to explain to my boss about this indefinite leave of him. He took the application but said that he won't approve it. If he did not return, he will become AWOL.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
"Truth shall prevail." If he will be having too many AWOL, he might get terminated. Well, that's the policy in our office. Is it the same thing in yours too?
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Nov 12
hi Paper__Doll My he has put you in a spot and the man he wants to talk to is abroad. now what the heck are you supposed to do about It?Now hearing this man who got the other man's sister pregnant is also married. so that makes your abroad colleague a sleaze ball for sure.So now your colleague 's wife sent an application of leave. poor woman shes caught in the middle of this and 'probably does not know her hubby is two timing her.Perhaps she will have to be told bercause the man who calls y ou is going to become more and more upset. You know I think I would really cue your boss into this whole situation and 'see if he can handle the irate brother and his need to get a hold otf y our colleague.
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
Hi Hatley, thanks for sharing your thoughts about it. I could really see that his wife has no slight idea that her husband was in big trouble that is why he left the country. She was even the one who communicate with us regarding her husband's leave extension. I wanted to tell my husband about the real story because there are so many speculations as to why this guy still has not returned from his vacation leave. Some were thinking that he maybe working in there and would just return in after few months. But this guy leave application said that he is sick. The doctor's certificate says that he has peptic ulcer and so needs rest. I've met people with peptic ulcer and I believe that it isn't something that would require someone to file an indefinite leave. I just hope that they will find the truth in their own as I really do not want it to come from me. He would definitely blame me and I do not want that to happen.
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
I think, the best thing you do is let them contact each other directly. You have burdens of your own too and matters like what you've mentioned are within their family already. It's awkward to know so much about details, if you could at least try to set them up on sending emails with each other-I think it's better that way :/
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Thanks meowchie, he has already bothered me for processing his indefinite leave application and still have to deal with this caller. His supervisor and our boss were asking me about the details of his leave and I just can't give them the real reason. Some are thinking that he may be working for some time abroad with his wife. But what really annoys me is they emailed me his leave application and then this morning, emailed me a copy of his doctor's certificate which says that he needs rest due to peptic ulcer. This is first time I have known a person who filed an indefinite leave because of peptic ulcer. My boss is so angry because he is already needed here. He still did not sign the application as he doesn't believe him. And then his daughter have called me twice to follow up if I have already processed his father's leave application. I am happy to think that we don't have work tomorrow so I won't have to deal with this things for some days.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Oh this is really a very personal matter, to think that this colleague of yours is married! I think it was not even you who should have received that indefinite leave application and it should be your immediate boss, right? You should probably just stick to what you know and it is rather true that you only know this person was on leave. maybe you can just refrain from telling this to others as well to keep or to save this guy a face until it is cleared up. We do not need to meddle with this or make it known to others except the superior who needs to contact this person because of the leave filed by the wife with no reason or definite time. Poor woman, if it was true.. the wife who had to cover up his mess and had to endure his infidelity and poor girl who got pregnant and the guy is now in hiding. It is for the best though, if you ask me. i think it is more acceptable to me to just not talk about the man who got me pregnant and who left me and just shut him out of my life. there are lots of men out there... a child will not suffer if the woman's family will be able to show her love and support even if she is a single mother.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
I already gave his leave application to my boss because he has to sign it, but he told me he won't approve it so I just left the form to his table. He will definitely would be in trouble if he will not return the soonest. I think that he planned to hide from his obligations as he even brought with him a copy of application for leave. I feel sorry for this girl he impregnated. I hope she will be able to move on and take care of her child. Like you, I would prefer to just forget this guy because he does not deserve to be called as father.
• China
24 Oct 12
I'm so sorry to hear about that. Women always be hurt in love. The guy should do hid obligation to your sister. And I think the best way to slove this problem is asking your sister's ideas, it is their personal matters and should be solved by themselves.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
24 Oct 12
Oh man, what a life there. But do remember one thing. Your sister had a hand in getting pregnant by him there. Take care, see you soon.