Bullying...did you experience it as a child?

@bizness (866)
United States
October 25, 2012 10:17pm CST
Bullying is such a huge issue now. It's always been there but the internet makes it so much easier to do it...and get away with it! It is so sad to read about these children that are being bullied on a daily basis. I experienced some bullying in middle school but I overcame and went on to being a happy middle schooler and even better high schooler. Did you have any experiences like that? If so, how did you handle them?
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12 responses
• China
26 Oct 12
i heard that this is a very common phenomenon in us and other countries,i have no such experience but my friend does,i think this phenomenon should be forbidden as it does has a very strong influence in a person's life,if you've been bullied,i think you should face up to it and say no!!
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@bizness (866)
• United States
26 Oct 12
I agree although in most case the children/teens being bullied are the ones that have issues/problems. Could be problems at home, being overweight, not being 'as smart' as everyone else or pretty enough. This cause such problems with self esteem that it's hard for them to stand up to anyone.
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• China
26 Oct 12
yeah,sometimes they just don't ask for help from their parents or teachers,and this has made the situation gets worse...anyway,i hope both schools and parents should do something to prevent this kind of thing from happening,it really does great harm to a children when they are bullied..
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@bizness (866)
• United States
6 Nov 12
Exactly, and I believe that parents, and teachers, should ask questions, know what's going on with their children, their students....get involved!
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
26 Oct 12
Yes, i experienced bullying when i was in high school, fortunately, i am willing to fight it out with the bully, resulted in me got suspended from classes for a week and suffered from some injury, but after the fight, the bullying stopped and i am no more subjected to humiliation and verbal abuse anymore. The bully understand that i will take no sh*t from him anymore and leave me alone after that. Never under estimate your own strength and bow down to the bully demand, get ready for the retaliation and be prepared to take him out with whatever means necessary.
@bizness (866)
• United States
26 Oct 12
Well I am not an advocate of violence but I do understand that at times you have to do what you have to do. I applaud you for standing up to them. Sometimes that's all it takes for them to realize you won't take it anymore! Kudos! Have a great day!
@lampar (7584)
• United States
26 Oct 12
Defending myself against bullying is not equivalent to act of violence, i don't go out and kill everybody neither did i retaliate on bully for no reason, it is just a natural reaction for me to self defense against my tormentor and it is unthinkable anyone will consider retaliation from a bullying victim is 'violence' except trying to stop the suffers. I am not an advocate of violence either, but sometime you have to do whatever it take to defend yourself in a real world.
@bizness (866)
• United States
27 Oct 12
lampar-let me apologize! I didn't mean you were violent, I am so sorry! I suppose I should have reworded....again I am sorry, and I agree with you 100%! I have told my daughter I don't want it to get physical but if she feels she is threatened then by all means, do what you need to do! I was in a situation where I had to stand up for myself at one time as well, so I do understand! Again, please accept my apology!
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@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
27 Oct 12
I have experience this the first semester in high school , tings turn out that me and the head mean girl become best friends up until today . life is funny because after I get to know she wasn't as bad and she change in most part . I stand up to she and her friends and from that day they never pick on me and its crazy how we become friends because she was never on my list of potential friendship .
@bizness (866)
• United States
27 Oct 12
That's usually what happens. It's great you stood up to her! And I'm glad you were able to become, and remain, friends!
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
I was experienced it way back during school days. There was an instance where in after the flag ceremony and where falling in line and heading on our respective classroom when got fun of me. The put a something on my bag, wherein every students we passed through was quite smiling and snickering. I just found it out when we reach our classroom. I got embarrassed somehow.I didnt fight back or retaliate cause I am not like that so what I did was I dont let them copy my answers during quiz eventhough they keep on asking and dont let them copy homework to me. From then, the dont make fun of me anymore.
@bizness (866)
• United States
27 Oct 12
Good for you! Sometimes it just takes courage to do the right thing!
@Shavkat (136863)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
If someone do mockery on you, it is still a form of bullying. In school, it is being concerned since there are some news that children or even teens had been the victim of being bullied. It brings bad effect of shattering the innocent souls, particularly the pupils or students. We need to take the responsibility to change the old practice of these spoiled brats. It needs to start at home, the role of parents are very essential of giving good values to inculcate to their children.
@bizness (866)
• United States
19 Nov 12
True. I am a firm believer in it starts at home. We, as parents, are responsible for molding our children into loving caring people. But sometimes even then children turn out to be, or do, things we as parents would never do.
27 Oct 12
Bullying is such a pain experience that a child may experience. I was bullied from 3rd grade to 6th grade. It started when I was a new student one of the boys in our class is befriending me. He was nice. One day he ask me to stroll around the school, we passed a hall way no one was there, he tried to grope me, i resisted. He tried to slap my face but I manage to punch him first then I ran away. Since then, all of his friends would call me names, put a cockroach in my lunchbox, they would lock me up in the storage area. They always embarrass me in front of the class. So I brew a plan that would make them bow down to me without using force,prank or anything similar to what they are doing.I noticed that they were the slowest learners in our class. So I study hard then I manage to top the class during major exams. from then on I gained recognition from my teachers especially our principal. everything followed i gained respect from my classmates except those bullies. Whenever those boys tries to harm me i didn't have to fight back or even talk my classmates does that for me. Since I become popular in school especially to the teachers. They were not able to harm me, embarrass me anymore.Since they are the slowest learners in our class the principal ask me to be her assistant during remedial classes for them. I thought that would be my chance to fight back so i accept the offer. they were stunned when they see me there but they cant do anything because I'm with the principal. During remedial classes I find it difficult to them learn the lessons. I talk to them, at fist they wont listen but when i told them that if the principal don't see any improvement to them she wont let them join the graduation. Upon knowing that they decided to take my offer to tutor them. I felt pity on them because they used bullying to cover up to their inefficiencies. So i spend time to teach them what I know and I help them with the homework day by day. The principal were pleased to their performance, she approved their clearance to join the graduation. Since then the bullying stopped i finally gained their respect. When we stepped into high school they became my friends and they apologized to what they did to me. they don't expect that I would help them after all those things that they did to me. We graduated high school together. Now that we have our own careers they are still thankful and apologetic.
@bizness (866)
• United States
27 Oct 12
What a wonderful story! Thank you so much for sharing that. I am so happy your story had a good outcome. And kudos to you for taking the better attitude and helping them. Shows the kind of person you are inside and out.
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Aug 15
I was bullied in school. Junior high there were two black American girls that bullied me all the time. Up until this other black girl helped me and told them to leave me alone. She was in my P.E. class and we were friends for that year.
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
I was never really bullied as a kid, although most of my friends were. Almost every friend I hung out with were bullied. It could be that they were nerds, but I was a nerd, too. I liked anime back then, and played video games, but I never receive any bullying from anyone.
@bizness (866)
• United States
27 Oct 12
You were lucky! Most 'nerds' (as you phrased it) are usually number 1 on the list! My daughter would be considered a 'nerd', smart, straight A's, honor student, band, chorus, academic team...you get the picture! She's learned to just turn the other way in most cases. She's a very strong kid and will stand her ground when needed. Thanks for sharing.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
I was in the 5th grade and there were 2 6th grader boys who kept on following me and been teasing me because at that age my chest were getting a bit obvious. I was a growing girl, what can I do? Well, every girl goes through this phase, right? And I don't know why of all girls, they chose me. There were times that I really cried coz they never stopped saying vulgar words at me. I don't understand what they could be getting out of it. Then one time, I got fed up. I went to their class adviser who also happens to be my teacher in History class. I was glad she talked to the boys and after that, the two boys stopped bothering me.
@bizness (866)
• United States
26 Oct 12
That is outstanding!!! Thanks for sharing! I know it must have been difficult but it is wonderful to know that you did what was right! Kudos to you!
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
27 Oct 12
well everyone would have surely experienced it and it is quite normal so its all part of the fun and to spend time with ease and chilling out for sure
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
26 Oct 12
Yes I was scold being a gypsy etc. We lived in between the upper class, my mother was working, my dad was studying for doctor. This was very rare in the society I grew up (this besides of the fact my mother is white and my dad is black). My dad learned us kids at a certain point to fight back. At the start he went out to see what is going on but one day he gave me the choice and said: you have the choice now to go outside and beat the grap out of that boy so he will learn to respect you and leave you alone or I will beat you up so much that you will never forget it. I can tell you that worked. From that moment on my life was only improving (exept for the teachers at primary school but once at high school things changed a lot). Bullying is a huge issue indeed and world wide. What I still don't understand is that adults/teachers see it happen, they only talk about it but do close their eyes and don't help out a bullied kid at all. They are just there saying how sorry they are if things go wrong (the kids kills itself or ...). I do notice that during the years it can't be said anymore which kid will be bullied and which kid don't. As I was young these were mostly the same kind of kids, the cheap glasses, the orange hair, the very tall ones and the gypsies. Nowadays every kid can be victim. Esp. the ones with enough self esteem or the strong ones, the ones who don't want to belong to the group or those who are more intellingent or different (which is not accepted at all). Also there are plenty of kids that are not really bullied but are neglected by a whole class including a teacher (giving that example!) which is a shame. Teachers like that should be kicked out since I do believe it's a job of a teacher as well to teach that everybody should be respected for what he/she is since we all are needed in this world. No matter if you are a great student or not. If my kids are bullied I give the school time to solve the problem if not I do it myself. I don't feel pity for the bullier or the school since nobody feels pity for my kids either and it's proved that an eye for eye and a tooth for a tooth still works.
@bizness (866)
• United States
26 Oct 12
First I am so sorry you were bullied, there's never a good reason or cause for such poor behavior! My mom was like your dad...she gave me the choice to do what I had to do, and it worked. As for kids now, I believe you are right when you say there are teachers out there that turn a blind eye to the issue. They don't want to be bothered with it, and if a kid can't go to people like their teachers to tell them about these things, what are they supposed to do! It's horrible!
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
Some kids are like that. They took advantage on their innocence, vulnerability, weakness. I really pity those kids being treated at that. I admit that I had been a victim of those bullying. They do it once but i fight back on their next attempt. That was when I was a kid. Now, I strongly agree in any program that fights bullying. I know the feeling of being treated like something lesser than human. I hope schools and even online admins can do something to lessen those events for it destroys those victims future and also those perpetrators one way or the other. Thanks