Love in Bloom at G old Crest?.

@Hatley (149439)
Garden Grove, California
October 26, 2012 4:35pm CST
wow. I watch them and I do not know whether to pity them or applaud them or what,.He is in a wheel chair and is sometimes confused but not now. He loves her for sure, and she is sort of cute for an elderly grey haired' kady Slim and pert but she was in a wheel chair now uses a walker., I would say Mr.Wayne is in his late 70's and she may be 80.but she loves him too and they court and neck and I watch and smile. I think its kind of neat in a way The little Jamaican who is here is trying to get them a way to get married .I' do not know if he will succeed. your take.can love at that late age really srvive,? I think this has been good for him as he seems more with it 'now and much less confused. she sure sees something good in him.
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@STOUTjodee (3299)
• United States
26 Oct 12
Since I've worked at nursing homes I have witnessed how love can still survive at a late age. Even if one of the partners has Alzhimers, they can still be very much in love! I hope my husband and I can have a long and lasting love as such couples.
• United States
26 Oct 12
I've also worked at Retirement Centers also, and love like this can happen anywhere! I don't think anyone is prepared to live their golden years alone, we jsut expect our partner to be with us for as long as we do! Sorry to hear of your loss.
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@dfollin (11989)
• United States
26 Oct 12
Hi Hatley,I think that is great!!!!Yes love can survive at that age.That is terrific.I hope they do find a way to get married.What is the problem that is preventing them?
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 12
hi dfollin I am not sure what the problem is as I cannot see any reason to prevent them from marrying I do enjoy knowing they are in Love as he seemed so alone, He has daughters but they do not come very often,
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@echoforever (5192)
• United States
26 Oct 12
This is good. Even at an old age love can bloom. I don't know how well it will do but love is love, doesn't matter age or time.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 12
hi echo yes I think they really are in love and its good for them too'as he is much less confused and she is totally in love with him . they seem more lively' and more outgoing t oo., i wish them all the happiness int hte world.
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• United States
26 Oct 12
That is something that love can do for he elderly that mostly nothing else can. I am glad to hear they are feeling better too because of their new connection and love.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 12
hi echo me too as they seem renewed by their love and its just so nice to s eem them hug and kiss and not be embarrassed at all.I love it as it keeps them from loneliness. I am not lonely as myson keeps in good contact with me all the time,And i ha d a lovely marriage an nobidy can replace the man I still love even though I am a widow.several here hav e made eyes at me but no I do not want that. all I want is good friends.
@BarBaraPrz (15885)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
27 Oct 12
Who cares if "love at that age [can] really survive"? It may sound crass, but how much longer do the principals in this love story expect to live? And it's not like they have a lot of the worries other newlyweds do, being in an assisted living facility. Good luck to them.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 12
hi BabarraPrz I am not sure I follow but anyway I enjoy seeing them both happy and the thing of old age did cree p into my thoughts but I think its great.not having the worries of newly wedss? no but being here 'is not exactly fun and games and as for the assisted living its mostly baloney. if anyone here needs real medical help he or she is immediately shunted off to a hospital or rehab hospital. the only assist that I see is they do our wash each week and make our beds and vacuum the floors. now I could do all that my self when I was in an apt but my son lost his job and thats why I am here. not being assisted really.,and worries yes we older people a re still alive and some of us even still have functioning brains too. money problems and health problems are my main worries.It not a paradise here if what happened had not I would still be in my own room in an apartment.
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@BarBaraPrz (15885)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
28 Oct 12
I know you don't like being there, but to some extent it's like living in a hotel, with meals included, which some people may think of as paradise... Take care.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Oct 12
yes i can see its advantages but its so f u nny i miss cooking not the washing clothes or house keeign bu t cooking as I have diabetes an I could tailor my foot to su it m y diabetes.the meals here are a problem for me but I keep some food stuff in my room too.
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@myfb2009 (8307)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 12
Aunt Hatley, this is a very interesting story. As i know, love knows no age boundaries. As long a person is caring another person even for a short period of time, they seems able to fall in love with each other. Hope both of them will care each other until the end. Indeed, having found love at this moment of life is very important for both of them since they are not sure how long they are going to live. Hope they enjoy the every moment of their life together. Do take good care of yourself, aunt...
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Nov 12
hi myfb at first I tho u ght oh gosh they are as old as I am and its a little late but now I feel let them love each other and be happy for as long as them live. age does not matter as they do truly love each other. I am doing fine nad af te I get my social security check I must keep my drs ap pt. lol.
@JenInTN (27568)
• United States
28 Oct 12
I think it is wonderful! I think that love knows no bounds and, perhaps, they were meant to meet in just the manner they have met for one another. I love it.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Oct 12
hi jenintn yes I do too as he seems bright as can be and shes spry and she kiss 'himn and he kisses her and it makes me feel good to see them. they may have a lot of years under their belt but they see each other and are so happy it makes'ne feel happy too.
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@Loverbear (4929)
• United States
27 Oct 12
Yes, late love can survive. It seems like the attachment is so much stronger for older people. They have more time to be honestly caring and concerned for each other. Bill is older than I am, and our love is so deep and so honest. We care for each other in ways that younger people don't show the caring. We hold hands, kiss, and show affection in public...and people get such a kick out of it. Bill's relatives all said that falling in love with me is the best thing that happened to him. He isn't alone for long long hours anymore, he has a companion who is at his side through thick and thin and many many many trips to the ER. He proposed on December 15th 2011 and it is the greatest thing that has happened to both of us! I hope your couple are able to marry and enjoy each other for many years. Yes, her love will help him get out of the slump that will help control his confusion. He has something to think about and look forward to. It gives his brain the exercise that will help chase away the confusion.
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@ElicBxn (59840)
• United States
26 Oct 12
There used to be a widow at the Manor who found himself a younger lady and they married...
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 12
Hi ElicBxn I do think they re ally will get married. so more p;ower to them'as this way neither one will be lonely I have nev er s een her g et any visitors b but he has several daughters. i am happy for t hem as its nice to see tjem all cuddly and nec king.
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• United States
26 Oct 12
I think that is just so cute to know they are happily in love. I think they should live and be happy with one another. will they get a room together if they are in love or do they need to be married to get one room..
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 12
hi gifts I am not sure as one co uple was not married and they let them room together. I think its good for Mr Wayne as he seems less confused and they sure'do kiss e ach other a lot. I think its c ute too and they seem so happy with eahc other. I hope they do get a room together as they mig ht as well enjoy the last years of their lives afte all..
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@RitterSport (2452)
• Germany
4 Nov 12
oh dear Hatley thats such wonderful news. Its awesome and I dont find any reason for seniors to say there is no deep love once you are in a senior citizens home. If someone loves you thats a blessing and its worth every single day........ I would be thrilled and excited to see this happening.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 12
hi again myh comment flew awayl copy clipboard.they look so cute necking and have eyes for each other only.he is wheelchair bound and shes really been so good for him. I love watching them as it reminds me of my own hubby.I have an admirer here but I am not in love just a friend who always tells me I look pretty which I really do not.anyway I would love to see them marry and live in one room together. I am not ever going to fall again as my lot w as too perfect., I want to keep my memoires.
• Germany
10 Nov 12
hi dear Hatley, you are so much like my Grandma. My Grandpa was missing in WW II and she never had another love story because my Grandpa was just perfect for her. She married him quite young with 23 years old.........
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• Germany
11 Nov 12
oh Hatley thats such great news you dont feel lonely at Gold Crest at all. Many senior citizens are lonely and I am glad you are not one of them but have close friends. Would like to be closer to you too and visit you.
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• United States
14 Nov 12
I think that is sweet. Love can bloom at any age. On a somewhat different note... My boyfriend's mother (who has dementia) sometimes, from what we've been told, acts sweet on a guy at her nursing home. The nurse said she thinks that he must remind her of someone she knew. Of course, they've had to intervene a few times, since the man (who also has some form of memory impairment) is married. That isn't an unusual situation, though; from what I understand, it isn't uncommon for people to form such relationships. I do hope that the man's wife has the same understanding of how common this is and doesn't ever take it to heart.
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• United States
15 Nov 12
I know that isn't a nursing home. I know the range of housing options; before the deterioration, I had hoped that my boyfriend's mother would be in a slightly different setting. Unfortunately, in my boyfriend's mother's case, her condition left us no option other than a nursing home.
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@smtrsv (186)
• India
27 Oct 12
Respected aunt, Both of them have established and example for the lovers.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Nov 12
hi smtrvs thanks Yes they are a great example fot others and they do really love each other t oo. Kissing and necking it looks so cute as they really have fallen in love so more power to them. I really love to see them being so happy together.
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@smtrsv (186)
• India
30 Mar 13
I am agreed with you.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Mar 13
hi smtrsv It has ended as she moved out and never even told him she was goinggto l eave,. Now he searches for her and is more confused than ever,she really has done a number on him. I hope he gets over this but doubt if he ever will.,
• China
27 Oct 12
Over here we call it 'love in the twilight of life'.I think they ought to get married,they are really gone on each other.
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• China
14 Nov 12
I have no knowledge of your regulation about that, but I think it is really unfair for them to take money out of their social security checks.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Mar 13
third try his lady love moved ot and never even told him she was leaving.She could have at least done that much for a man she once told she loved.She has left Mr wayne in a much worse condition as he is looking for her all over the place and is totally confused now,.
• China
31 Mar 13
Sadly ! I can imagine how Mr wayne would miss her.
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
10 Nov 12
Wow that is a nice story , I think love can survive at any age . I am happy they are in love and happy with each other . Goes to show people should never give up on love at any age .
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Nov 12
hi silverfox yes just sort of suddenly I started noticing them sneaking off to neck and kiss.It made me feel good to see them as things here c an get pretty tiresome and this gave a new meaninbg to life to see a couple at their ages really kissing and hugginf like a couple of teens. I loved it it made sense somehow.They had a l ittle s pat but made up and are happy again I wish they would get married and that we wou ld all keep quiet about t hat so theyh wo uld not one of them lose some money from his r her paycheck because Soc ial Security does that when two on social securtiy wed. mean I know bu t they do do it.
@KrauseHome (32051)
• United States
2 Nov 12
Personally there are people that would think this would be Wrong, but honestly what is wrong with Love no matter what the age? And if 2 people really Love each other if they are compantent enough, why not let them marry? From the way it sounds they have both been really Good for each other, and there is nothing more special than to have someone in your life to Love.
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@AmbiePam (44054)
• United States
1 Nov 12
I think that is great! It's important to take happiness when you can.
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Nov 12
hi ambiepam I do too and hope they can find a way to g et Gold /Crest to let them move in together. they make a cute couple and they really are in love. love at any age to great and they really do seem much happier too.more p ower to them.
• Canada
30 Oct 12
I saw two older people at my church get married not too long ago. They were both in their 80's. I think that if someone wants to get married at any age, that is a great thing. I hope that the people at the retirement home can find a way for them to get together, and be married. If s/he can, that would be great!
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Nov 12
oklay mylot ate my comment so copy to clipboard. yes I wo uld love to see thenm marry but the damned social security office will cut down on one of t heircecks as t hey would be married. not fair at all so most co u ples he re j ust live together and pretend they are married. I hate that s ocial secu rity thingking.its just'wrong.so if they wish Gold Crest can find a room they can share ahd it up to them to marry or just live together. darn social security.
@celticeagle (109418)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Oct 12
THey really do neck huh? Love can come to anyone at any age. I don't know that at their age they need to get married but that is just me. Can love at a ripe ole age survive? Sure it can. Something that makes them happy shouldn't be stifled. I would be rooting for them!
@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Nov 12
hi CelticEagle yes I am rooting for them. ANd would love to see them get a room together. the problem with getting married is the darned Social Security people as they will cut some money out of one of their checks just for getting married.This is not fair really so most pairs just live together and G old Crest is fine with that.AT their ages they will really be true to each other too. I have a man who admires m e but he knows I am only being friends not anything else.
@dragon54u (31054)
• United States
27 Oct 12
That is so sweet! Of course love can survive and thrive at that age--they are older and wiser than when they were younger and they don't have all those hormones telling them they want to commit when they are really feeling only lust. Although I know that many older people do enjoy physical love, those I have talked to have turned their attention to their relationship rather than its physical expression. I think your two love birds should enjoy what they have right now. I wish them happiness together--who knows, maybe they are "the one" for each other and have looked all their lives for this only to find their soul mate near the end of their lives, in a nursing home!
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@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
fate has something to do with that. with a little cup of prayer and perseverance as they do it in unison, there would be a great chance for them to make it succeed. i guess as the saying goes, would do everything because of love. why not, i guess, age is not the main course why love fails at that. i guess, it is the misunderstanding and some sort of kind. well, the success of their love story would depend to both of them. good luck for them :)
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@Hatley (149439)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Nov 12
hi missjahn. I think they have found new love and also companion ship. I really think they should should move in together and enjoy the companionship and the love too.Social security if they marry will take back some of their money if they marry.I know this is unfair but they will do that. so a lot of couples do not marry just share a room.