I got my own place
By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
October 27, 2012 7:25am CST
I tried to convince myself that my friend's wickedness was just my own hallucination, but I was proven wrong. In a very short span of time, due to my friend's hostility, I became friends with the two Filipino siblings living next to my friend's. The sister told me she noticed that my friend seems to be not treating me well and she added that it's just her observation. I didn't tell the sister that it's true, I lied to protect my friend.
Sunday night, before our job interview, she told me that i need to find my own place the next day because she promised her other friends they could stay in her place. That really shocked me, but i smiled and said ok. I wasn't prepared for that and while she was sleeping, I was crying.
But the crying is all over now, because here I am, in my very own place, with new good friends who treat me well in this foreign land.
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36 responses
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Thank you. I'm pretty sure I will get more friends here.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
27 Oct 12
That's just so mean of her! At least, I would like to think that the incident is a blessing in disguise. At least you meet new friends who seem to be really concerned about your well-being, plus you avoid getting more associated to someone who is truly selfish and downright mean. You will be far off better without her in the long run.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I still treat her very nicely. I'm very kind to her despite of all the things she did to me. It's the only way i could soften her heart and i am succeeding. Nothing will make me a better person than treating people who have done me ill well.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Well at least by now you have realized the true color of your friend. I mean there are a lot of friends but a true friend is hard to come along. Perhaps it is a blessing in disguise and with this you ow have found your own place. Being in a foreign land is not easy but I am sure that the are people out there whom you can trust and consider as a true friend.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I have no hatred towards her and what she did. I still consider her a friend and I'm still kind to her. Once in awhile she knocks on my door and would seek favor. In fact she talks to me now that i'm no longer staying with her.
@artemeis (4194)
• China
28 Oct 12
I hope that by now you would have learned a lesson about the harsh realities in life and recognize when to pull out especially when a person who is considered a friend has turned rogue on you.
It is already hard on you to work away from home and your family, so it is only wise to co-relate with one's friends. Not trying to bad mouth your friend but there will be times when people just cannot resolve issue in an amicable and patient way. What is condemning is the fact that she has actually become vindictive to you.
Fortunately, the circumstances favored you and hence you are able to settle down into a new place as soon as you have been abandoned. But, do remember that chances favor those who are prepared. The world out there can be very unpredictably cruel and harsh, do be alert and sensitive.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Thank you. I'm still kind to that friend of mine. I believe that doing good to others no matter how harsh they are to you, will have good results. I have no hatred towards her.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
She was actually the one who offered her place in the first place. Anyway, that's in the past now and i'm living a good life.
@koopharper (7463)
• Canada
28 Oct 12
You were treated very shabbily. I'm glad you've found a place more to your liking. It's just kind of sad you had to go through the bad experience before getting there. Good luck in your new place.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Thanks. That experience has made me stronger and I only see more positivity in life now. I didn't see it as something that would scar me, but i see that experience as something that has molded me into a much better person.
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@koopharper (7463)
• Canada
28 Oct 12
Keeping positive about these types of experience will help you go a long way.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
27 Oct 12
How wicked people can be is unbelievable to me. I can't believe she would throw you out right before a job interview first of all. However, now you know you were not halucinating and you are now living with people who are nice and care about you. Never settle for less always believe in yourself that you deserve the best of everything in life and especially of people treating you right. If they don't, walk away from them because no one needs to have negative people around them.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
True. Now she's back to being a good friend again. I never developed hatred for what she did and i have forgiven her even if she didn't ask for it. We went to church together this morning. I've prayed for her soul. I'm sure she regret doing what she did to me and she realized that despite of it all, i remained a true good friend to her.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 12
Nowadays, it is very difficult to get good trusty friends. Faithful friends are hard to come by. We have to be alert of friends and enemies alike. Today we are best of friends. Tomorrow we are sworn enemies. This is life. Live life to the fullest. God bless you.
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@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 12
It is good to know that you have indeed forgiven her. You have such a forgiving heart. It is not easy to forget the incident after she has evicted you. God bless you for being such a kind soul.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
Thank you. It's something that i have that can't be taken away from me.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Thank you. But we don't have to fight our enemies with swords. I have still been very kind to this friend of mine despite of what she did and she seems to be treating me well again.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
There are people who treat you bad for a reason, and there are some who treat you bad just for the fun of it. I've learned that either way, you have to cope with it because it's for personal growth. Having nice people around you all the time isn't good since you experience security most of the time. Sometimes you have to expose yourself to pain so that you can understand it, and learn how to evade it the next time you experience it.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
You are right. I learned so much from this experience and I cannot treat that friend of mine ill despite of what she did. I am still grateful, because without her I wouldn't have learned to be strong in this place.
She is back to talking to me again and treating me like a friend.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Hi Toni. It is good to hear that you have finally left that careless "friend" of yours. I am sure you will be able to breathe freely and be on your own and not be subjected to such coldness from someone who you thought was your friend.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Yes you are right. The irony is that, now that i'm not with her, she often talks to me and would even seek help.
@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
27 Oct 12
im very happy that you could find friends that help you out there^^ its complicated to be left alone in a strange place. dont cry anymore. true friends are the ones that never leave us alone in our hardest moments^^ so if she acted like that is because maybe she isnt the friend you thought she was. i wish you be happy there and that you find a good job 
by the way, in what country are you?
by the way, in what country are you?2 people like this
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I cried only on that particular night but i wore a smile on my face again after that. I aced the interview and will be signing a contract this coming Tuesday, the 30th of October.
I have a very kind heart and i treated her still like a good friend. That made her heart soften somehow. She talks to me again and would even knock on my door. She even send me messages and we're talking like we used to. I guess she realized how precious i am after she lost me.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
27 Oct 12
Well, it is already the third time that you talk about being in a "foreign land", but in your threads you have not made a slightest reference at what it is. I suppose it's out of the Philippine Islands, but which state?
Continuing the theme, however, in your argument, I'm happy for you that you found your accommodation together with good friends. Remember, friends, the real ones, better few but good!
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Does it really matter where I am. I'm in another country out of the Philippines.
I still treat my friend with kindness despite of it all. It's my strongest asset.
@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
27 Oct 12
Hi Toni, it is a pity to hear that your friend has you mistreated. I think that she has not said clearly how would be the things with your accomodation. If she would have said it, then it would have not passed this annoying situation. Do you have now an own appartment to live? I hope that all things will be better to you in that foreing country. Have a nice day. :)
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Yes i have my own apartment now. I'm feeling good and I did not lose. I gained new friends and in fact i gained back her friendship too. I still treat her nicely and with all kindness. I believe she regret what she did.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
27 Oct 12
Sounds like you made out good despite the other so called friend and how she treated you. I wish I could b e so lucky in that kind of circumstance. I hope your other friend lives happily ever after with her new friends and you with your new friends. Sometimes life has a way of working out for some people. I wish I could have the same here. I keep hoping but I know some of the actions are up to me. I am tired of being talked down to and treated like second best, etc.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Nowadays, she would knock on my door and sometimes ask for help. I never for once showed her the same behaviour she had shown me. I'm still kind and nice to her. She talks to me more now than she did when we were living together. She would even send messages now and then. We even went to church together today and I thanked God for giving me a lot of patience and good heart in accepting my friend despite what she did to me.
@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
28 Oct 12
It sounds as if an really bad situation has resulted in a good outcome. I hope your job interview went well. Enjoy your new place and the blessings of having new friends to help fill your life. Of course you always have your old friends here at MyLot as well.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Thank you. The job interview went well and I'll be signing a contract this coming Tuesday the 30th of October.
I am blessed to have friends here in mylot.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
I can't believe she even received you to stay with her in the first place. It is very shocking to here from her, asking you to move out, knowing that you are still new to the place. Clearly, she is inconsiderate, and you must not consider her a friend anymore. I do not wish to give ill advices so I'll just bid you good luck. I also want to congratulate you on your new place. May you have a better life now.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I still treat her as a friend with all kindness. Nothing beats an enemy more than treating that person with kindness.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I only cried for that one night. I'm fine now and have that smile on my face again. Thanks.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Well I guess God gave you that incident for you to be able to find new real friends. If that friend of yours wasn't really good to you and wicked, God believed that you deserve to find someone new that will help you there. I'm glad that you easily found new friends in your new place. Good luck and take care always my friend
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Thank you. I'm very grateful to those two people who helped me out. I never spoke ill of my friend at all and i still try and see reason for what she had done to me. I still consider her as a friend and I think she did regret what she did to me.
@miadsoriano (884)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Hi @toniganzon! It's been awhile since I've said hello, I know. Wow, such a cruel individual (I can't call her your "friend" for she is definitely not)! I think that it is a blessing in disguise that she "let you go" because you sure do not need all that negative energy or vibe. But forgive me for being clueless here. But where are you? And what are you doing in a foreign land in the first place? What about your husband and son? I know we don't know each other personally, but I cannot help but feel homesick for you, and sad for your family. 
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I will be teaching in this foreign land. My son and hubby are ok. We see each other on facetime everyday. They might be here on vacation in March before we go back to the Philippines together.
My friend back home were mad about what happened her but I told her that I'm still ok and am standing on my own. I still treat my friend nicely. I will never be rude to her at all. My kindness will surely soften her heart.
@miadsoriano (884)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
I see...treat your enemy with kindness, huh? You are too kind. Seriously, hope it works out between you two.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Hi, It's so sad to hear how you were treated by your friend. If I have been into your shoe, I don't know. Maybe just like you, I will mourn in silence. Have you tried to asked your friend why had she done that? Maybe she is kinda insecure to you:) kidding...But glad to hear there were these two new friends of yours who helped you out when your other friend pushed you away. They are kindhearted people. Maybe that is one reason why God allowed it to happen so you can find your own place with your two new friends in it.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
That night I prayed hard for my friend's soul. I don't want to hate her for what she did. Maybe she has her own reason and I don't want to ask her for that because it might only cause more distance between us. I still see her as a friend and today, in church, i realized that she is pitiful and i should stay friends with her.
@eiram23 (421)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
I'm so glad to hear about how youn think towards what happened between you and your friend. Keep up the good heart and you will be rewarded for all your kindness. Praying for a friend is the best thing we can do for them and continue doing that for your friend. Someday she will realized how worthy you are as friend. Always be an instrument of God's love towards others.
