We can all agree to disagree, right?

@Raine38 (9195)
United States
October 28, 2012 2:59am CST
So I was feeling a bit "inspired" to post a few discussions on here. Then on one certain discussion, someone made a comment that is in contradiction to what I'm trying to say. My friend is here with me, being a Sunday and she's got nothing else to do but hang out here in our house, and she read that she was like, answer back, don't let that person talk sh!?#! Then I told her, chill, this is mylot, this isn't like some other forums where people fight and get pissed just because their opinion differs from everybody else. I told her the rules here, and showed her some conversations. And now, she's sitting silently opposite me browsing this site, and I think she will sign up soon. Isn't that what makes a healthy conversation? I mean, it was nice to know that some people think exactly like you do, but the opinions of those who don't think the same way are equally interesting and noteworthy. We never know what we'll learn and from whom. Do you guys take it too badly if some people disagree with you? Of course I'm not referring to those who are outrightly rude and inconsiderate. I don't mind being corrected because come on, we all know we're all learning still in this life. And I also welcome criticisms and suggestions, just go easy on it, or else I'll cry . Not! I also don't have a problem apologizing if I happen to say something offensive especially if that's not even my intent. It's just a part of it, we talk, we discuss, we agree, we disagree. By the end of the day, it's all good.
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@silentwill (1686)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I know exactly what you mean and I agree that it should be like that in mylot but I'm afraid it's not. It isn't always safe to make responses or comments that disagree with another member's opinion. Whereas in regular forums you might get flamed or engaged in a word war, here you also risk getting low-rated. Some people simply can't differentiate between disagreeing and being disagreeable. Some people can't accept that others who do not share the same opinion may have valid points as well. It would have been nice if we can have such discussions where there is healthy debates and exchanges of opinion without getting personal. That will make discussions richer and deeper. But personally I only choose who I can disagree with here. Not everyone is open-minded enough to realize that conversations become more interesting if we all have different things to add to it and not just agree all the time.
@Raine38 (9195)
• United States
28 Oct 12
I understand what you're trying to say. In fact, I'm all for choosing your "battles". Sometimes though, some people on here especially those whose first language isn't English might just have a wrong choice for words that's why their discussions may come something like offensive or quarrelsome. Or the whole discussion might be lost in translation. Still, there really are some who you best not try to engage in. But then, I don't let this ruin the whole mylot experience for me.
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• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I guess you're right, I do see a number of members struggle with their English so it's possible their posts may be misconstrued. Still there are those who just don't want others to disagree with them. I mean what's up with that. But like you, I don't let it ruin mylot for me because they're just on one side of the coin, and there are as many or even more others on the other side that we can egange in intelligent discussions with whether of the same or contradicting opinions.
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@Raine38 (9195)
• United States
28 Oct 12
That's the spirit! I still believe that there are more good conversationalists here. Just don't let the bad ones get to you.take me for example, an hour ago I was starred as 10, now my rating is down to 9 just because I replied to a certain comment. You really cannot avoid some people who can't accept that you also have your own opinion.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
You are right when you said that Mylot is way far different from other sites. We do respect each other's opinions here. And what do you expect in a site like this but to read different opinions from people around the globe, right? And that makes it really interesting to all of us. Although, there would be some instances where a member would be trying to make a "scene" by commenting in an odd way. When I was new here, I got really hurt. I didn't comment back on that member. It just made me uncomfortable the whole day and then I made a discussion about it. After reading the comments of some regarding rude comments of some members, it helped me feel better. I guess you just could not expect everybody to be always in the good mood in replying to posts. We need to have thick skin, sometimes.
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@Raine38 (9195)
• United States
28 Oct 12
When I was a newbie, I also got surprised and offended. But then, if I let that stop me from going back on here, I wouldn't have met those wonderful people I now call friends. Just don't let everything get into you. We don't know most of the people here on a personal level. He/she can be a really awesome friend and a good person for all we know.
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@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
29 Oct 12
Well that is one of the good thing we have mylot where we can share different opinions and still get along . I just talk whatever I feel without being aggressive to others for their opinion . Its nice to know we can get along , I dont mind people having different opinion from I do because that interest me to know more and talk more . If the person is not being rude to me for having certain views on a topic , I have no problem .
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@Raine38 (9195)
• United States
29 Oct 12
Thanks silverfox, you're right. I guess there's just a thin line between being agressively outspoken and slightly rude that it's hard to tell the difference sometimes.
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@paigea (22484)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
It would get a bit boring if we just commented on the posts where we totally agree. We should be able to have conversations and disagree.
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
20 Aug 15
'I' (well, maybe not 'me'; but it's best to think of others' arguments as if they were your own, so you can see 'why they might think that way') regard my firmly-held beliefs as 'foundations of my peace-of-mind'; so someone's "disagreeing with my belief" feels like they're 'shaking me awake.' Maybe I NEED to wake up, but--even if I ASKED THEM to make sure I was awake--I'm STILL annoyed by the rough method they chose!
@Freelanzer (9498)
• Canada
21 Dec 15
It is boring to be right all the time so nice when someone has a different perspective
@jstory07 (70107)
• Roseburg, Oregon
21 Dec 15
This is a good site where we can say what we want. We can express the way that we feel.