Are you always yourself, or near some people you wear a mask?

@seliokas (346)
Lithuania
October 28, 2012 6:10am CST
I wanted to ask you, Mylotters, Are you always yourself? What about me, I'm ALWAYS myself, i never try to be who I am not, people just have to accept me who i am :). I don't like double-faced people who just adapt to all people. I have my own opinion and i really like who i am. What about you?
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30 responses
• United States
29 Oct 12
I hate hypocrites too. I used to be very shy so I wouldn't say anything in public and yet speak my mind at home. But these days I speak my mine Everywhere. many see me as kind and I am polite but am I as sweet as others seem to see me ? No. But that says more about other people than me. I'm nice until it is time Not to be nice. Since the time Not to be nice hasn't come that maybe the reason people see me as a nicer person than I really am.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
29 Oct 12
I've been shy long time ago too, but then i started to show the real me and seems everyone accepted me who i am now ;)
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• United States
29 Oct 12
Isn't it great to have people like the real you?
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
30 Oct 12
It certainly is! :)
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@silentwill (1686)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I'd say I'm always myself regardless of who I'm with but with certain people I'd be more guarded especially if I'm with people I'm not very close with. The reason is I'm a weird person and not everyone can jive woth my personality and be able to understand me at times.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
With people who we don't know, we always feel less confident, it's not double-facing :) , i like people with unique personality tho :)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Not exactly just people I don't know. It's also for people I know but I don't have a clise relationship with. It's not like I'm showing them a different 'me' it's just that I only show them a few of myself if you know what I mean.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
Yeah, I understood, not saying words you have in mind isn't double-facing :)
• India
29 Oct 12
In my personal view I also hate being double faced, and prefer to be on my own. But you also have to agree that sometimes wearing a mask in front of some people become a necessity. If you are going to speak mild and soft to the juniors then they are not going to obey you and would disobey you. So in case of a need I wear a mask of a rough guy but otherwise I am always me.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
29 Oct 12
Thanks for opinion, however, i think that necessity to wear a mask is when you help not yourself, but other people.
• India
29 Oct 12
Actually the necessity of wearing mask in front of the suppliers and juniors is for saving my own job and as well as being capable of bearing the responsibilities that has been vested upon me by my employer. So from this point of view it is fruitful for both the sides.
• Romania
28 Oct 12
I am myself, but most of the time i hide some aspects of myself. I've done and can do things that i'm not so proud of, so if i show my true face, many will run. I don't pretend to be someone else, just lock a part of me. Until now, there is only one person that knows the true me.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
So you are locked inside yourself? Try to show real YOU to your closest friends, or family members, in this way you can learn that the real you is not that bad as you say.
• Romania
4 Nov 12
There are only few persons that know the real me, my brother and some close friends. I tryed to show myself to others, but didn't worked. Some scared some laught of me, so i gave up. And belive me, i am that bad, did terrible things, that i am not proud of but i am changing now.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
28 Oct 12
I think people are always 'themselves', but different situations call for different sides of that 'self'. A man named Geoff had a theory that life is a stage. We put on different makeup and costumes depending on our 'role' at that particular time. We are different with our parents than we are with our friends. We are different in church than at a sporting event. We are different with our families than with our co-workers. So, life is a stage, and 'backstage' is where we get ready...choosing our clothes and preparing for our 'role'...studying our 'lines' and getting our attitudes set for the 'play'.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
Interesting and informative answer, glad you expressed your opinion! I partly agree with it :)
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
28 Oct 12
I first heard of this theory in socilogy class in college. It makes sense to me, and the longer I live and the more I see, the more appropriate it becomes.
@salma07 (641)
• India
28 Oct 12
you cant never be yourself ALL the times sometimes situation demands that you changes your ways. As for me i am always myself but that which is carefree and minding my own business but that always get on peoples nerves i wonder why?
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
Well you should find out that yourself as you know yourself the best :), As i said, there is some situations when you CAN'T be yourself :)
@salma07 (641)
• India
28 Oct 12
huh?
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
30 Oct 12
I am always myself, but I am also a private person, so some things are shown only to very close friends and family members. I don't worry about anyone accepting me; either they do or they don't, life will always go on.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
30 Oct 12
Hello, And yes, i fully agree, life will always go on no matter what, except when it's your time to pass, but eventually, your life will continue somewhere else. Happy mylotting!
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
nope what is the point of wearing a mask? you yourself will be the one in torment if you do that.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
29 Oct 12
Sorry for not having time to respond to all of you. But I've read every single of them and i partly agree with you ALL. Thanks for opinion guys, today i will mark the best answer !
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
I am who I am with who ever I am with. It's hard to pretend who you are not. It will only cause problems and issues in the end and you will only lose the people whom you already consider as friends because they will find you a liar. Better be yourself and allow the people to love and like you for who and what you are.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
29 Oct 12
I Fully agree! If you pretend to be someone, people you love and who love you might not be happy anymore as they see you pretend to be someone. Happy mylotting , gaiza :)
@flydog99 (25)
• China
29 Oct 12
I am a person who always care about what other people think aboubt me,sometimes i even overdo it.So i cant help myself to be the others favourite one when i am with them,it means i always wear a mask and it makes me so agony.Recently,i try to find myself and be myself,i think it will bring me more freedom and means reborn for me.Nevertheless,in some certain situation,to wear a mask is a wise way to avoid getting harm form some rude person.Thank you for your post,happy mylotting!
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
29 Oct 12
I care what people think about me too, but not too much !
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
Years ago I had an agreement with my, myself and I: NEVER pretend to be somebody who I'm not. Some situations I avoid, simply because I don't want to hurt people's feelings. Example: I'm an atheist. On a party at friends' someone felt the need to bless the food. That moment I just walked outside to enjoy the beautiful garden. And blessed or not; the food tasted great later! ;)
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
29 Oct 12
I think if i would be an atheist, i would simply stay at the table, i don't mind doing things which are important to somebody else like going to church, thanks for opinion!
• United States
28 Oct 12
I kind of do this around people. It might be because I am shy so when I am in class, I typically am super quiet and never talk that much. However , around my friends I am talkative and nice. At home, I am still talkative, but not as nice (since they are family) I don't think I do things on purpose, but so that other people like me maybe?
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
You don't need to change so people like you, people are loved for who they are and not for who they pretend to be :)
• United States
28 Oct 12
I generally stay myself when interacting with people. There really isn't a need to be fake unless that's in your nature which sadly it is in many. However, if I encounter a person with a strong personality or a bad attitude, I do tend to take that energy and deflect it back at them because I feed off of it instead of being intimidated.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
When it comes naturally, yea, there is nothing we can do, unfortunately.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
28 Oct 12
Hi seliokas, I really admire people like you who are determined to be themselves no matter what. Unfortunately, many people find it difficult to do that and such people are letting others decide who they should be and they are not happy people. I am getting better at being myself but I wasn't always that way. Blessings.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
I wasn't always like that too, I've had time when no one knew the real me apart myself, but then i started to show my family, my friends the real me and they just accepted me who i am, and really appreciate that.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
28 Oct 12
well there are so many even triple faced people near us who always project a different face and try to irritate often
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
But they are and always will be empty inside :)
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
it depends on the situations at hand. in front of your boss, you have to withhold some of your thoughts though you greatly wanted to say what is on your mind, that's one example. and there's lots more. online, we cannot be too trusting and need to have reservations. in real life, it is the same we have to do that also to protect ourselves. living is like playing a game at times. it does not mean you are not honest to yourself but you have to make reservations.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
When you have words in mind but you don't say it's not double-facing, When you lie to eyes, it is :)
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Yes. I am always myself...I don't have any pretentious especially with regards to my personality and my family background...I don't care if people will know that I came from a poor family and that we don't have a beautiful house. I am happy with what I am and that I am with friends who accepts me on who I am and what I am...
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
Fully agreed! Always be happy and proud who you are, no one can take those feelings from you, people who double-face are just empty.
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Hi! It is really good to be in oneself. I do that as well. I just want to be by myself, my likes, my opinions and whoever I am. However, sometimes if my actions would offend the person or I'm becoming rude, I refrain and behave. It's just that I don't like to hurt other people. But when it comes to likes and my opinions, I express myself.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
You know, I'd better get true that for example I'm ugly then a lie that I'm pretty, I don't understand this kind of behave :)
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I agree with you, being true to your self is better than to be pretentious. True people embrace the real you and will not ask the best in you.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
I respect people who maybe aren't so good, but are honest :)
@dandan07 (1908)
• China
28 Oct 12
When I was a student, I acted in my own way. Though it was always blamed by my parents and teachers, it won me a lot of friends. Now as a teacher, I have to take a mask with me when I am working. It is really not a good way to do that, but as a teacher, I have to let the students know the best part of life. I have tp speak in a polite way and pay more attention to their actions.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
28 Oct 12
Yea, working as a teacher is difficult, you have to be authority to them and not be yourself, you are doing it for kids, not yourself, i respect that !