How far would you go for love?
By GemmaR
@GemmaR (8517)
October 28, 2012 9:04am CST
At lot of people have said to me in the past that they would be prepared to give up everything for love, but is this really the case? I don't think that a lot of people have truly taken the time to think through exactly what it would be like to give certain things up. For example, I had a friend who actually left his entire family behind because of the fact that they didn't like the girl who he was dating. It was something that he regretted a lot, but by the time that they split up, two years down the line, his family were no longer interested in him anymore.
Would you ever leave your home town to go and live with somebody who you loved? I don't think that I would be able to, because I love where I live, and I love the fact that all of my family are around me and I am able to see them whenever I like.
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13 responses
@montevilla (550)
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28 Oct 12
For me I do everything and what ever it takes to the one I love.
Happy mylotting!
@GemmaR (8517)
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28 Oct 12
You say that you would do anything for the one that you loved, but would this really include abandoning your family? I know that my family aren't too keen on the guy who I am with at the moment, and they would probably prefer it if we were to split up, but there is no way that I would ever run away with him because I completely respect the fact that they are allowed their own opinions about him, and they also respect that it is my life so they would never dare to tell me that I should completely split up with him.
@montevilla (550)
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28 Oct 12
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
30 Oct 12
Being in love is the most beautiful feeling. Love will cause a person to become disoriented in the most delightful way. I am not at all surprise that your friend left his family to follow his heart desire as all normal standard of judgement cease to operate for those in love. That is why they say love us blind
@savypat (20216)
• United States
28 Oct 12
Having lived a long time, I am past the time when love of another person could motivate me to change my life. That wonderful feeling of love is an illusion, it is a feeling you are giving yourself the other person may or may not have the same feelings. Intense emotion by it's very nature cannot last long, if it did how would you live with it? Long lasting love on the other had can last a life time but rarely involves giving up you past life to continue it. There are many other reasons why you would give up your present life for a future, but not wise to do this for emotional love.
@GemmaR (8517)
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28 Oct 12
Yes I agree that a lot of the things that you think might be love are often an illusion. The first feeling that you have for another person is always going to be lust, and this is not the same as love. This is a very intense feeling, as though we would do anything, and I think that a lot of people do things that they regret when they're in lust because of the fact that they think that they're going to feel the same way about their partner forever, but then they realise that it isn't the case and that they've given up something important for them, like their family.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
28 Oct 12
I would give up everything for my kid, but never for a man. There are many men out there. But mothers have only her own children. So I wouldnt go very far for a mans love.
@GemmaR (8517)
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28 Oct 12
I think that a lot of people do need to think about the difference in love between a man and children. For me, I know that there is no way that the two types of love can be compared. However, I often see stories about parents choosing their lovers over their children, and I don't understand how they could do this. I think that if they were prepared to do this then the chances are that they shouldn't have been allowed to be parents in the first place, because if their children don't come first for them then they don't deserve them.
@xuy2xfreak88 (182)
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28 Oct 12
Reckless people would do such things. People who are immature. But Nobody's perfect. Some people will learn if they will encounter their own mistakes. Some are born to be matured enough to know what is right or wrong. Some are not.
Love can wait. We don't have to sacrifice something just to get the love of our life. God has a plan on each of us. We just have to wait for the right guy for us.
@GemmaR (8517)
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28 Oct 12
I don't think that it is always somebody who is immature who might do things like this, and I honestly think that people do things when they love somebody that makes them think that they should be doing everything that they can for the person who they love. We all learn things during the course of our life, and whether that is about love or not the most important thing that we can do is to make sure that we take lessons from everything and make sure that we do things differently the next time to avoid making more mistakes.
@eagle2lie (54)
• China
28 Oct 12
No,i never left my family like this,i love my mother and other family members more than anyone in the world.Surely i will continue to look for the true love outside and instead of leaving the family i am going to have her part of it.For true love i would like give up certain things that i have but never abondon the family.In china there is tradition people to unite in family instead of getting away,we believe the parents are always the main polars in our families,if you got away too far from them you will lose hopes to find a true love..
@GemmaR (8517)
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28 Oct 12
It is good that you know that your family are the most important thing, and I think that it is a shame that people tend to forget this when a lover comes along. I think that it is lovely that your family are together and that you will not leave them. I know that my brother put us to one side when he first got his girlfriend, but I think that the only reason for this was that he was scared as it was his first girlfriend and he didn't want us to embarrass him. I suppose that teenagers are a little bit strange in that respect, thinking that their families are like this!
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
28 Oct 12
When I was young I would do anything for love or for the one I loved romantically. I did a lot of foolish things but my family loved me anyway. I was blessed with an accepting family--they judged, but their love never wavered.
Now that I'm older, I realize that a family's love surpasses any other kind of love. Lovers come and go but your family is your anchor and your friends are your lifelines. If someone wants you to betray your family and friends or cut them off, they are not the one you should be with. I wish I'd known that years ago and I would have saved myself a lot of heartache.
Anyone who asks or expects you to sacrifice anything for their love doesn't really love you. We should be born with that knowledge but most of us have to learn the hard way.
@GemmaR (8517)
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28 Oct 12
I think that a lot of people do things that are perhaps a little bit silly, but I honestly believe that this is all just part of growing up, and something that we have to deal with. One of the best things about family is the fact that they will usually always support you through everything that you do wrong, even though you might not think that you deserve it at times. I know that my family have always been here for me, and I am hoping that they will do this for a long time to come because I certainly do appreciate it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
30 Oct 12
Well, if my husband was transferred to a place that is far away for his job, it would be something that I would be willing to do because of the fact that he is a part of my family now. However if he was just someone that I was romantically interested in, then there would be no way that I would be able to leave my family and my friends behind because he was going away. Instead, in this kind of a situation I would go on with my life knowing that there are plenty of fish in the sea and I would just move on with my life.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
14 Jan 13
Hiya GemmaR.
How far would I go for love? If it was a love like the one I have now I would leave everything like I did the last time.
I was forced into the situation in a way as I really wanted to get married in England and live there. Well we both wanted to but had no help from either family so we left all of them and went our own way.xxx
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
1 Dec 12
it depends on the girl whom i am in love with,if sgood and we both are she is really fantasizing about me,i would be her hand in arms always and be a arm candy for life
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 12
Well, if I am married someday and my husband lives in different city, of course I have to go with him. It doesn't mean I abandon my parents, though. It's just something that everybody will normally do (or not?). At least that's what happen in my country (or maybe culture). 
@Doshima2012 (30)
• India
29 Oct 12
Dear GemmaR,
This is a very sensitive topic,at the same time
encompassing lot of issues and consequences. Leaving one's home
for the sake of the loved ones-- again, this differs from person
to person and level of thinking and situations in which each one
is placed.
