Are you living in the past?

@Pose123 (21667)
Canada
October 28, 2012 2:44pm CST
Many of us hold unto the past as if determined never to let it go, yet holding onto regret is like dragging the weight of the past with us everywhere we go. It drains our energy and leaves less available for life in the present because we are constantly feeding an old issue. This attachment can cause illness the same way watering a dead plant creates decay. We know that something new and beautiful can grow in its place if we only prepare the soil and plant the right seeds. We also know that we create our lives from our thoughts, so dwelling on the past may actually recreate a situation in our lives where we are forced to make the choice again and again. We can choose to move on right now by applying what we have learned to the present and transforming the energy into something that is constructive and creative, thus creating a new and happier life. Who agrees with this? Have you been living in the past and allowing regret to mar the present moment?
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
29 Oct 12
I have always agreed and tried to live my life in this fashion, however now that Hubby is subject to short term memory loss I am thinking that the past can become terribly important. So far he remembers mostly good things but I do realize how awful it would be if he had no past to remember and value. Maybe what I am learning is that each life path that we becme associated with has value and that value is what you have control over. I know that many others are facing this memory problem and so am not so quick to discount the past.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Nov 12
Hi savypat, Thank you for sharing and you make a good point. We all love good memories. I was thinking of regretting our past indiscretions to the extent that it hampered our life today. We need to forgive the person who did these things because that is no longer who we are. Blessings.
@GemmaR (8526)
29 Oct 12
I am sorry to say that I think that I am living in the past to some extent. I don't know what it is recently, but there is something about me that keeps thinking about all of the things that I have done wrong in the past, and the things that I wish that I could have done in order to be able to put them right. I don't usually agree with having regrets in life, and I do know that I should just let things go and move on with my life, but this is something that I am struggling with at the moment due to the fact that I can't stop thinking about things.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Nov 12
Hi GemmaR, Thank you for sharing. I have a feeling that you would not do today, the things that you regret doing in the past. You are not the same person who committed those indiscretions so you don't have to feel guilty for something that you would not do today. You need to forgive the person you were and do things today that you will be proud of in the future. I hope that you will find a way to do this. Blessings.
• India
29 Oct 12
There is no use in regretting about our past events and incidents, we can't change the past. No one have the ability to live in past. It is impossible to live in past and ridiculous to live in future. We only have the ability to live in the present. In fact our present time is a great gift from god, so only it is called as present. We must use the present in a good way and avoid unwanted worries and sorrows in our life Some persons spend a lot of time in regretting about the past. There is no use in this kind of activities and it is merely time waste. We must forget about the past worries, but never forget about the lessons and experience which we learned from the past. We have lot of events and incidents in our life and we gain a lot of experience with this kind of events. Don't worry about the past time, as we don't gain it back. Those days never came back again. We can cherish our past good events, but avoid worrying and regretting about the past sorrows. Organize your time and spend it in a good manner. Time is a great treasure to each and every one and we don't have the ability to recover the last second. Use each and every second in your life in a constructive manner and organize your time to do a lot of good and useful things which gives you more fun and pleasure. Avoid worrying about past, which don't have any meaning. Think about the present and live your present time in a good manner. Future will take care about itself, if you live your present well. Since we are living an unpredictable life and no one can tell about the next event in our life, so avoid worries and live your life in a happy manner.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Nov 12
Hi vidhyaprakash, Thank you for sharing and we agree. Blessings.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
29 Oct 12
Not me, I live everyday like its my last one. Im a single mom here. I have to look for the future. And my future can be today.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Nov 12
Hi mariaperalta, Glad you don't dwell on past regrets. Thanks for sharing. Blessings.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Oct 12
I agree with this and admit that I live many a moments in my past. BUT - those moments are NOT regrets of any kind. Instead they are the good times that I have as a treasure with me. You know, I am ill and have nothing much today - I am at home, without much of work and also a growing set of medical expenses. Still, I need and do find happiness. I have learned the hard way that there is nothing like happiness and even if you have to look back to find those moments which bring happiness to you, go for them. As for regrets, I have only one regret in life and I do not look back at things with any regret or remorse.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Nov 12
Hi thesids, Thanks for sharing and it's great that you have good memories. Blessings.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
29 Oct 12
I used to live in the past, dwelling on regrets and mistakes I had made and how I am still paying for them, but with therapy and my antidepressants I now live for today, not tomorrow or the future which to me is a scary concept. I try to enjoy today and think about today and enjoy the things I do on a daily basis like going to the gym, going to the library to read or going shopping. I have found that it useless living with regrets, and to move on, I cannot change the past, I can only learn from it, and I start learning today. Experiences teaches us how we can grow stronger and move forward.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
4 Nov 12
Hi wolfie, Thank you for responding and I'm very happy to hear that you are doing much better. We learn and grow from each experience and we must put the past behind us because we are not the same person that we were were a few months or even a few weeks ago. If you did something a year ago that you would not do now, why worry about it? It wasn't the you that you are today who did that, so forgive the person you were then and move on. Enjoy each day my friend and create an even better tomorrow. Blessings.
• Marikina, Philippines
28 Oct 12
Is that what we called a hellish life from past? I agree of what you said. We must move on and also, we must learn based on our experience. Anyway, some people thought that they're move on from past, but on their subconcious mind, it records and remembers it. It just our concious mind is the only one who records all present situation so as not to remember what's in past. Well, how I wish you understand what I wrote
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
4 Nov 12
Hi IntrovertShy, Thank you for sharing those thoughts and it's true that every experience is recorded by our subconscious and super-conscious minds, yet that does not have to make our lives miserable today. We are here to experience life and to grow. We are not the same person we were a year or ten years ago and must chalk up the past to youthful indiscretions and move on with life. Live in the now, it's the only time we have. Blessings.
• United States
28 Oct 12
Pose, you are a true wordsmith. You put into words just what I need to hear. We do make the same bad choices because we keep living in the past. I've come a long way to heal, but I still do it to some degree. For me, forgiveness is what has allowed me to move on.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
4 Nov 12
Hi PointlessQuestions, Thank you for responding and I'm happy if my words helped you in some way. We are here to experience life and sometimes we make bad choices, but we are not the same person that we were twenty,ten,five or even one year ago. Forgive the person that you were back then and think of what you learned from the experience. If we regret something, clearly we would not do it today. Live life one day at a time and expect the best with each new dawn. Blessings.
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
As what i said to my family and friends. I normally dont deal with my past specially if its sad or bad moments as it will not gonna help me to move forward though it migt be a reflection to do better today for my future. Im somehow kind of optimistic person. I will rather think of what else i can do today to have better future than think of my past. Besides facing the truth and life will give us freedom and free from sadness. probably acceptance will that thigs really happened for a purpose and that we cant turn it back again.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
4 Nov 12
Hi homeshoppers, Thank you for sharing those thoughts. If there is something in your past that you regret, know that you are not that person today. We grow with every experience, so forgive your youthful discretions and move on. Live in the moment and make the best of each new day. Blessings.
@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
28 Oct 12
I agree with you. You expressed this so eloquently. Each day is a blessing. It is so important to live in the present.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
4 Nov 12
Hi MandaLee, Thank you for sharing. Remember, it isn't what happens to us but the way we take it that really counts. What we regret today we may see as a blessing at some future time. Blessings.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
Life has to move on. This has actually been my main motto in life....What my experiences in the past should be my reasons to fight for the future.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
4 Nov 12
Hi aabuda, Thank you for sharing and yes, life goes on and we must learn from each experience. If you have regrets from the past, leave them there knowing that this is not who you are now. Take life one day at a time and enjoy the moment. Blessings.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I agree with this and I am very much impressed with the way you explained it. Unfortunately, like many other things, this is easier said than than though. I, for one, like to believe that being optimistic on almost everything is the right way. I mean, it's like a way of life, choosing to see the good side of everything more than the bad. It's a way to avoid dragging the regrets of the past to the present, becoming unproductive, and just plainly living life in the negative way. Still, like I said, it's easier said than done, because the past can really haunt you and you're mistakes can just come back to you in any time, expected or unexpected. It's impossible to undo what has been done but it doesn't actually mean we cannot make up for it or do things the right way afterwards, right? I like to believe that everyday is an opportunity to a better tomorrow.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
4 Nov 12
Hi choybel, Thank you for your response. It's true that we have all done things in our past that we wish we hadn't, but we must not spend our life regretting something that we can do nothing about. I know too that it's much easier to say that than it is to do it. I've found that the best way to deal with the past is to ask myself, "would I do that today or Would I have said that today?" If I know that I would handle the situation differently now, than I know that I have learned something from the experience, and I forgive myself just as I would forgive a friend - and I am able to move past it. The only time we have is now, let's enjoy the moment. Blessings.
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
13 Jan 13
hi dear Pose you see I am trying to catch up on all the notifications thats why my answer to you is that late. Sorry for this. The past is something which is part of our lives and I didnt have such a great past regarding my relationship to parents, my upbringing etc etc. I broke free from a bad situation in my life in mid 2011 and for the first time in my life you would hear me say things like, life is beautiful or life is good, or I enjoy life. In my past I always felt as if a dark cloud is hanging over me so to speak. These bad experiences of my past come back up here and there and if they do, I do my best to say, that was in the past and who cares about these people any more who made my past living hell sometimes, I am in the present and free and so I also have a good chance of a nice tomorrow not having to worry about what they do what they think etc.