When a childhood friend says Get lost, what will you do?

@Ynrhea (69)
Philippines
October 29, 2012 9:52am CST
Friendship is one of the important thing a person will treasure. There are some people who dont have a lot of friends but they are happy with them, others prefer to have numbers of friends. I have a small number of friends but i treasured them and do everything for our friendship. But I was shocked when a friend told me to Get lost!I don't know if she was just joking or what. I asked her what happened and shes not saying a word, We haven't see each other since highschool and I can't remember a thing that I did or say that can make her mad.
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• Qatar
29 Oct 12
Of course I will get hurt if my friend will say it to me. But first, I will ask why and talk things out for maybe we can still patch up.
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@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
31 Oct 12
Wow, that is messed up that your friend right out of the blue, just tells you to get lost. Does she mean get lost like, I'm busy right now, we'll talk later or does she mean get lost, like get out of my life forever. Maybe she meant the latter like she doesn't want to be your friend any more and if that is the case, then you should respect her wishes and just try not to contact her any more. Maybe she wasn't the friend that you thought she was. You cannot force someone to be your friend if they don't want to be your friend. If she meant the first part, that she is busy and that she will talk to you later, then just wait for her to talk to you again. I hope it was just that she was busy. I would be really sad if my child hood friend told me to get lost as in she doesn't want to be my friend any more. I too am very happy with the few friends that I have and I am content with them. I wouldn't want a lot of friends, because I don't want to risk having the people that I call my friends to not even be true friends and then later find out that they used me for whatever reason. The few friends that I do have, they are my true friends and I know that I can trust them. The other people that I know, they are just known as acquaintances to me, because I don't even trust them and they have not yet earned my trust status. But about your friend, I would just forget her then and let her come to you when she is ready to talk. Be happy with the few other friends that you do have.
@deazil (4556)
• United States
30 Oct 12
You probably didn't do anything. As others have said she may be bothered by something that has little or nothing to do with you. It's understandable that you're upset. Who wouldn't be? If you haven't seen each other since high school she may have changed. Maybe she has taken on different attitudes about things and doesn't feel she is agreeable to you or your lifestyle. Has it been many years since you saw her last? I mean before she told you to get lost. Even if it's only been a few years, people can change a lot in that time. Just give her space and maybe she will come to you to talk. If not, do you really want a friend who can say something that mean to you? You put value on friendships. Apparently, at this time in her life, she doesn't. Don't worry. You have other, better friends and you can't do anything about her attitude. Cheer up!
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Well, I will be really hurt. Because I can't imagine that my childhood friend had told me to get lost! :)
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
30 Oct 12
Well, I think if she was joking, she would have smiled afterwards or put on a smiley if it was via Internet or text. She's just rude. Well, she might have changed, everyone is changing throughout their lives. Also, your friendship might not be/might not have been that strong, if she says something like this without any remorse. Just accept this. Some people are going to disappear from your lives, and later you're gonna find out that there is a cause for anyone disappearing, and you're gonna be happy without those people.
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
If a friend tells me to get lost I'll be hurt but I would just accept that we can't hold people to us forever, people just come and go in our lives and I'll accept that fact.
@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
30 Oct 12
Hello, i value friendship a lot and i fully understand you and your situation. My tip would be trying to know what happened and try to fix it. Maybe he just joked. Ask him. Hope everything will be ok and happy mylotting!
@romzee (938)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Well, if that is the case I'll leave quickly without argument. I will not take this personally because I believe my friend is upset emotionally and need some space for him/herself. Then after sometimes will I clear all this matter, and offer help if needed. You should not fear or feel guilty. Your friend must experiencing strong emotional distress and need more understanding from you. Nice to be here and be able to share in this discussion. Have a nice evening. Ciao!
• Norway
30 Oct 12
You should probably figure out why he want you to get lost. If he asks you to get lost, then how can that guy be a very good friend?
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Well I guess, if you have received such reaction from your so-called friend, then she/he is really not your friend, right? Why would a good friend tell you such thing? You don't deserve to be treated that way. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. I suggest that you don't bother getting in touch with that person anymore. It wouldn't do you any good.
@Sindelle (830)
• United States
29 Oct 12
I hate it when people get angry and don't express a reason. I would just try to approach her by saying hi since you thought she might be joking and see how she reacts. If she acts all rude again then just end the conversation with something along the lines of...I don't know what I did to offend you. I wish you would tell me so we can talk about it. If she wants to be your friend she'll approach you when she is ready. If she has decided to irrationally dump you as a friend I'd say that is the kind of person you don't need to be around anyways.
@bearsfan (44)
• United States
29 Oct 12
Several years ago, my best childhood friend and I had a major fight. We did not speak for several months. If we had never spoken again, that would have been fine with me. I was tired of his temper. We worked things out. Everything is fine between us now.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
29 Oct 12
From our child hood till we grow i.e. from school time to college to where we work and even after settle down in our life. People do come in our life and they become our friend. When we are young we may had said something to our friends but as you have said we may have forget it. But that person may have kept it in mind. It has happen to me I still remember one of my friend who use to teach me when I was in school. Do you know when ever I sees that person I feel like go to that person and hold his collar, but I control my emotion. But not all people can do so.
@GemmaR (8526)
29 Oct 12
It must be hard when you hear this from a friend who you have known since your childhood, but I do think that there must be a reason that they have said this to you. If you need peace of mind you should talk to her about it because she might be able to tell you about what you did to annoy her. There are some people who just don't get on with each other, even though you may not have done anything at all that would annoy them in the past. Sometimes you just have to accept that you don't get on with her, and try to get on with your life.
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
29 Oct 12
That is really a sad thing to experience, isn't it? There are times where you rack your brain and wonder where exactly you went wrong out there. Many of us have been down that road where friendship is just not as strong as it it used to be. No doubt we're left wondering if it is something that faded over the years, or just something that happened with some great trauma. When someone said that to me, I just back off and leave it alone for a bit. They could just be having one of those days where they are just going to be lashing out at every single person for every little single little thing that is wrong in their life. Or it could be something that is far more serious. That is the trouble with friendships, one little moment can break them forever.