Being married yet living a single life.

@samson1 (738)
Jamaica
October 29, 2012 12:37pm CST
One of my 'good and long standing' female friends called me recently, and she sought my counsel on some of the 'matters of her heart'. In her conversation, she complained that although she is married, she is still living a single life. I 'kind of' understood her plight, and I gave her my professional and friendly advice as to how to deal with that situation. Mylotters, how can one be married, living together in the same house with ones partner, sharing the same space with him/her, yet feels that one is living a single life? How would you deal with that situation mentioned above, if you are confronted with the same scenario?
5 responses
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
I think there is a problem with her husband. I know someone who faces same situation, until she find out that her husband is a gay. I am not saying that maybe your friend is in the same situation- but it's amazing how married couples are living one roof, sharing one bed yet living like single.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
9 Nov 12
Yikes! I did not think of that possibility. Jaiho2009, I hope you are wrong about that possibility.., as I would be shocked and disappointed. Let's hope that counseling will help them both.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
uh uh, please I hope I am wrong too. But sometimes expect the un-expected - to avoid earth shaking truth.
@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Single life? Would you mean that your friend is married and yet she feels alone with the marriage? If that is the situation, I think that it could be really be hard. She doesn't have to pretend that everything is okay, She has to talk to her husband and tell him that they need to work on the marriage as a couple and not as individual beings. They are married, so they need to act as one and live as one.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
9 Nov 12
Well said Jenny1015, well said.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
29 Oct 12
that is horrible,this kind of scenario is quite rare,just try to talk to the better half and sort it out for the better future
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
30 Oct 12
I can understand your surprise, but there are so many 'hibrid' arrangements that occur between the partners who are married. Anyway, best wishes and thanks for your participation.
@GemmaR (8527)
29 Oct 12
I think that there are a lot of people who don't really understand what being married truly means, and this is something that is a great shame indeed. One of the things that my friend does is that she will still go out and dress as though she is trying to get a man even though she already has one at home. I will never understand why people decide to get married if they are not prepared to act in a way that is loyal to their spouse. I would never do anything bad towards my partner if there was any way that it was possible not to.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
30 Oct 12
Hmm, very interesting ststements indeed. I also find it difficult to understand the rationale behind that type of behaviors described in your comments. Perhaps, one may need to conduct a study into that phenomenon. However, continue to cultivate the appropriate habits and mindsets that will promote the correct ideas of marriage, ok? Thanks for your contribution to this discussion.
@crissy92 (91)
• United States
29 Oct 12
Although some people's lives don't change when they are married, I don't understand this concept. How can you still live a single life? Why even bother getting married? Just for the sake of saying "I'm married"? My boyfriend and I plan on getting married someday, and we do everything together now. And that won't change. I hope this couple isn't thinking about having children. What will they do then?
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
30 Oct 12
I agree that being married and yet still living a single life is a difficult concept to understand. However, like my friend, there are persons who are currently living that dreaded life! Yikes. May I say that coincidentally, 'having children' is a part of the frustration that this couple is facing... I hope that both of them work together and sort out their issues before it becomes to late.