Overtime...

Concern is nothing to be blamed for. Your roommate is pushing herself too hard. If someone gets mad too bad.

It seems that some people really need to have a reason or an excuse to do what they really want to do themselves. Like quit working and rest their eyes. It is frustrating when the tools or equipment you need does not work the right way and it is really exhausting. Good you are there to shoulder the blame.

Just today I was informed that I was thrown under the bus so to speak by my former employees. There is a new general manager and a new assistant manager at the job I left a few weeks ago and some of my former employees were getting "screamed at" from what I was told by the new bosses every time they did something wrong. Since I am no longer there and it didn't matter anymore they all said that it was my fault that they didn't know how to do things properly. Thing is..they know how to do these things properly they just choose not to do them the way they know they are supposed to be doing them.

Is her boss so scary that she can't be truthful?

Some people can not, will not accept responsibility for their actions.

You were only trying to look out for her best interests. Unfortunately not everyone knows what is good for them. It also sounds like she was just looking for an excuse. Its not very nice to blame you but sometimes people do strange things in a pinch. I wouldn't let it bother you too much just learn from this experience.

You were probably just a good excuse after she realized you were right that she needed to take a break. She probably knew it as well you did. But you know when you need the money if your too tired or not feeling well sometimes we do what we feel we need to do because we have to, to keep bills paid.

HI ElicBxn oh I got so angry with my room ie as my son came to see me last night and right at nine oclock shes whining its getting so late so he obliges by leaving and he had not got here til 7 o clock and I on ly get to see him one day a week. s e knows that and also that I d o not go to bed til ten so what the hell difference would it make for him to stay til ten minutes to t en?? she was miffed with me but still he leaves I sit down to read and eat my diabetes snacks and she is asking me every damned ten minute how long are you going to read ? I feel like t elling her oh I am going to read til 2 am Kathy. lol loll i am damned if i do and damned if I do not. I have asked her to l et me have that hour between nine o'clock and tem p m to relax read eat m y snack and get relaxed for bed at ten. she refuses to leave me be.gtgrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

[b]It won't be the last time she pulls that.... Mags[/b]

It is easier for her to blame you for supposedly disrupting your work than it is for her to take responsibility for her own actions. It sounds like the work is a bit too tiring for her. However, it seems unlikely that she will admit that to herself. It seems that she would rather blame you for disrupting her than admit that the work is simply too taxing for her eyes.

By 'tools the job uses' are you referring to internet access and soft ware? If so I can absolutely relate. It never fails that when I am on a deadline and running late my ability to access the company's website and use the software they provide to write up my reports goes wonky. I guess it is just Murphy"s law. Unfortunately most people like to think that since they are adults they have the all the answers. Sometimes we need a nudge to do what is right for us instead of always trying to fulfill the expectations of others. Corporate bosses will take advantage of those who work under them just as much as they can. They don't care what the work load does to the workers. Your roommate should be glad that she has someone who has her best interest at heart instead of the company's bottom line. You can bet the company don't.

I have come to think that the first reaction is for people to point the finger at someone else. I have been blamed alot..but not so much the given credit thing..lol.

When I worked as a cook at an Italian resturant,my cureent boss was also my boss at the other resturant. When we worked together,Mark,would stress out and take out all his frustrations on me. I didn't like it and it took forever for me to get over. At least Mark would apologize later! Once inwhile he still does it but I don't let it bother me. He still apologizes! My dad would do this with me,my brother's,my sister and mom. My mom got the worst of it and I was the second one who did! He never has apologized and never will! I keep waiting for him to but he never will! Thanks to his verbal abuse I am still trying to deal when other people yelling at me. Sometimes people are not yelling at me but giving suggestions or just telling me what needs to be done. I still feel like I am getting yelled at! I am so sick of this! My dad sure did a f&cking number on me!! Enough said!

it is not good and one can feel easily tired,i always try to take big breaks and relax to the max possible extent for sure

That's also the way it is with husband and wife. Hell if you do and hell if you don't.