Could not meet him- Should I forget and forgive?

@gary23 (425)
India
October 31, 2012 12:59am CST
I wanted to meet him today. My boyfriend goes out to work every morning . Generally I can't wake up that early. But today I did and I had to go out for shopping some grocery items. I could easily meet him but he rejected my phone. He stays very busy in the morning getting ready for office. But I don't call him everyday in the morning. He called me when I came back home. I got very angry and switched off my phone. However, now I am feeling sad. Should I forget and forgive him?
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14 responses
31 Oct 12
Be strong and forgive him. Forgiveness is a sign of courage and goodness. I think he was busy and he want to focus on his work, it's logical that he rejected your call. You should accept his behavior !
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@gary23 (425)
• India
31 Oct 12
I accepted it and understood him. But at times, there are more important things than work. Even he got sad when he came to know that I was calling him to meet him and not disturb him with some silly topics. Anyway , that hardly matters now because everything is back to its place now.
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@Hatley (164028)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Nov 12
gary for goodness sakes put yourself in his place say yoy have a nv er important appointment and you are already running late, you have a headache and you cannot find the carkeys and the phone rings just as you find thekeys and head for the door now t wenty minutes late and its your boyfriend would you not ask him to call y ou when you are not s o rushed? of course now think of his side of it the same way.ou may be boyfriend girl friend but at work you must come second and that is not his fault. do not be such a leaner.
• China
31 Oct 12
I don't know but I can't forgive such a man, why he can phone me at anytime but I can't? I miss him too,though he's busy at that time, he should let me know eailer.
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@gary23 (425)
• India
31 Oct 12
I knew that he would be busy at that time. I just wanted him to understand that it was urgent. Anyway I can't stay long without talking to him. So I have spoken to him but can't forget yet.
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31 Oct 12
Sorry Gretchen, but as a man, I prefer to focus on what I'm doing and prevent all what can disturb me. I understand your need to contact him and speak with him because you are a woman. We (Men) also have this need but we have the ability to control ourselves more than you can. Believe me: we love our wives or girlfriends more than they do :p!
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@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
I think that's the best thing to do, actually. I don't think it would help if you both make this an issue. Both of you might just get irritated at each other and would just feel bad eventually. You could bring this up with him, but wait till you've calmed down and make sure he's also in a good mood.
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@gary23 (425)
• India
31 Oct 12
Its a good suggestion friend.
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@Jenniffe (37)
1 Nov 12
Your topic makes me remember my exboyfriend. We broken up when I came him 15 days. A strange city, he just left me. Now three months has past, i still can not forget him. Most of my friend told me that he was not worth to be loved. But i just can not get over him.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
31 Oct 12
Sometimes other things just get in the way, I bekueve thqt fogeting and forgivin just come with the territory.
@Sindelle (830)
• United States
31 Oct 12
I'd forgive him. Its not like he blows you off all the time is it? Maybe he was just really busy or running late for work. Besides from what you said he's not used to you being up that early and it somehow disrupted his routine. I myself get up as late as humanly possible before going into work every morning. Each minute is precious and I'm generally rushing because I value my sleep so much. Perhaps he's the same way.
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@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
31 Oct 12
No offense, but I think you behaved a bit childish and immature. He might have been busy, it wasn't because he wanted to act ignorant... he didn't want to hurt you. Stop whining, and call him back to say sorry.
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@seliokas (346)
• Lithuania
31 Oct 12
Hello, Yes, you should forget and forgive him, Hes working, that means he is doing his best to make you happy, to afford something he couldn't afford before, hes tired and stressed after a long day at office.Tell him how much you love him :) Happy myLotting!
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@sriroshan (2586)
• India
31 Oct 12
I think you are either over acting. You know that your boy friend leaves for the office in early morning. When you have given him the call he might be busy in his office work. Madam have a control on your emotion. Be cool enough and as usual he will call you. Now if he calls you then he will find that your phone is shut down. Just think after trying to contact you again and again on your phone and he could not contact you. Then what he will think? I am sure he must be worried what has happen to you.
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@WakeUpKitty (8709)
• Netherlands
31 Oct 12
Sounds to me you two do not know each other very well. You usually do not come out of your bed, now you did because you felt the need to see him. You did not count with the fact he has an other scedule as you have. You thought he might be happy to see/meet you or? Ask yourself if you are always there if it pops up in his mind. Is there reallu something you have to forgive him???? I doubt it. He accepts the fact you are not able to wake up early, so you have to accept he does and has his own scedule in the morning.
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@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
Just kiss and make up. I'm sure everything will be fine after.
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@Hatley (164028)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Nov 12
gary why are you angry? He explained why, he was busy . so what part of busy do you not understand? He is a human being and if he said he is busy he meant it and he did call you later. I have been very busy and had to tell my own husbandI would cal him later. It was not unkind of him,busy means he was already tryng to do four things at once and one more was one too many.Do not you see this? do not be so unsure of yourself and too e asly hurt.
@gary23 (425)
• India
8 Nov 12
I like your advice.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
hi, when i had a lived in partner before i actually do that,switched off my phone but i will also turn it on too after many hours,and of course i can also forget and forgive him on what he did,if you love him you should forget and forgive him but don't let him abuse it from you.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
6 Nov 12
I know it's hard to have busy boyfriend. And it was tempting to seek revenge on what he has done. But. You already know he is working in the morning, so calling him at the time was certainly a bad idea. He might have been forced to reject your call because he had to do something important. Don't take it personally. When he made the effort to call you, he might have tried to apologize and explain. You should understand that. If you prolong this issue it will grow big and complicate your relationship. The better for you to communicate with each other. Set a time together when both of you are available to talk. Compromise.