Need to write about my feelings so i decided to use mylot.

Singapore
November 1, 2012 10:07am CST
Most people know that in order to avoid a conflict,you have to listen to the opposing party's opinion, try to understand what's going wrong. But i just came across my mum today and we quarelled. I tried listening to her, but she's just too much. I mean i am a near 18 years-old guy and can't i have just a bit of freedom in what i do?
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@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
1 Nov 12
Hi, TheBoloodBoilingGuy. I do understand that you do want some freedom. But, you gotta understand, too, that your mom only wants what's best for you. Of course, it will appear to you as if she's only killing your joy, but know that every parent wants the best for their children. They don't intend to make life miserable for them. It's just the way most children feel because some of their desires are being questioned and hindered. But, well, we all go through phases in our lives. Don't try to grow up too fast. You'll experience much more after you've reach adult stage. Don't be in a rush to do things that need to still wait til you're at a proper age. You'll appreciate life more if you just go with the flow and not sulk over things you have no control over. I mean, what's the point if you choose to continue feeling bad about your mom? Will it change the situation? Will it change her decisions? You'll only make it harder for you to appreciate your mom that way. Just respect her authority for now. Your time will surely come. ^_^
• Singapore
1 Nov 12
Thanks sharksfin! I will try to communicate with her. But I don't think that going face to face will be a good idea.I shall try textingh her instead. I really do respect her though, but it's just really too difficult for me sometimes due to peer pressure.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
1 Nov 12
I am a mother and I remember being a teen and wanting my freedom. It's hard to answer this with so little detail. What is it exactly that sparked the argument with your mother? What is it that you want the freedom to do that she is holding you back from?
• Singapore
1 Nov 12
She's just not trying to go into any reasoning with me. I mean i earn my own money and did tried to cut down my spending to the minimum. But she's just keep asking me to save up for the rainy days. I agreed with her that yes i did spend quite a bit on my own stuffs such as shoes and accessories but isn't this what all teenagers are expect to have? I really can't get to go along with her. And we are most rebellious at this age, i really can't control myself sometimes.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
I have a son who is as old as you are. I know that at that age, you should be given enough freedom. but as a mother, we feel that we still need to look after our kids even though how old they get. We want to give you the freedom that you need, too PROVIDED that you will prove to us that you will also become a responsible person in dealing with the freedom we gave you. We love our children endlessly, unconditionally. Please also understand that we only want to give you what is best and would want you to be always safe. I do not know exactly what issues you had with your mother. But I hope you realize that seeing her get mad at you doesn't mean that she loves you less.
• India
1 Nov 12
Hi friend, welcome to mylot. Sad to hear about your situation, really you need some freedom. But you must be careful with it, since you are in teen age, you don't know what is good and what is bad, so your mother is having lot of worries and fears about you, so only she try to control you. Don't take it wrong and try to understand her and follow her good words
@auwielady (116)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
Yes, it's good that you listened to your mom. Actually, I think you must do it often for you to understand her better. You have to talk and bond so you will be able to address your conflicts with ease and gentleness. Well, 18 is basically okay but admit it that you are still young. There is still more to life that you haven't experienced or haven't seen yet. After all, a mother knows what's best for you. I know someday you will understand a parent's heart. They will just talk and talk and talk like forever, but they love you beyond all those words. There will come a time when you will miss your mom's talks and reminders. So treasure it now. :)
• Nigeria
2 Nov 12
bloodboilingguy,Your parent know best,they can see pit and push you inside it,even bible stipulate that "honour the father and mother so that you may live long" besides they're the ones God chosen to guide you in your earthly journey.
• India
1 Nov 12
Hi friend, welcome to mylot. Sad to hear about your situation, really you need some freedom. But you must be careful with it, since you are in teen age, you don't know what is good and what is bad, so your mother is having lot of worries and fears about you, so only she try to control you. Don't take it wrong and try to understand her and follow her good words
@Wendi81 (603)
• Indonesia
1 Nov 12
Perhaps you're right, I mean you near 18 years old and you should have a bit of freedom in what you do. But only write what's your feeling can't help you to much i think. You should meet your mum and talk about it with her without angry and then try to listening what your mum says. Maybe there is solution for your problem. This problem happened to me long time ago and I used that way too and sucessed. I hope your problem can finnished with good solution