Inter Caste Marriage ........ in the 21st century and we
November 2, 2012 1:08am CST
I live in India and I have seen that the Inter Caste Marriage thing is still very much controversial and debated over. Just let me give some excerpts of what I have seen.... One of my friend Nasir who was a Muslim boy was in love with a Hindu girl who was from the Dimasa (A mongoloid race) community. She also dream of starting a family with him. But they couldn't marry because in case of the Girls community no girl is allowed to marry anyone outside their own Community. My friend Nasir become heartbroken. But his problem is that he didn't find any Muslim girl (in the town where he lived) to be of his liking. Later he again fall in love with a Hindu girl. This time he told the parents of that girl that to marry their daughter, if needed he could convert from Islam to Hinduism. No one supported him, neither the girl's family nor his own family. But he was adamant and he eloped with that girl and accepted Hinduism. This was happened in 2005. Now Nasir's mom has died in 2011 but he hadn't been able to see her. His wife's father died in 2011 but they were not allowed to attend his funeral. In Nasir's case it is based upon religion but inter caste marriage is something that we still dread to think about. My myLottian friends could find it very difficult to accept in the backdrop of the twenty first century but it is still true. What do you think that this practice is ok or what? Do you think that there would come a day when we would be able to get rid of this tradition? Is the identity of religion is greater than the Identity of a human being? Please let me know your views...... we might promise a lot of future Nasir's of another world where he would be judged by his virtues and not on the basis of his religion.....
2 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i think our society has not come of age when it comes to inter caste marriage and we can see in our newspapers and media about how controversies are cropping up everyday due to this kind of marriage. We also hear many couples being made to toil hard as they are not supported by the village pundits and their own family simply because of the reason that they have chosen to marry someone who is of a different caste. In this modern age we need to make these people aware that such things are an impasse and they should accept all kinds of marriage in our society. What say?
3 Nov 12
Thanks a lot for your reply, Shubojit10. Until we are not going to accept the changes in the tradition, we are not going to be able to cop up with this ever changing world. I won't say that clinging to ones tradition is bad; it is our duty to honor our tradition and made all the sacrifices for its sake, but I just want to say that if we are not going to change with the demand of the time then we are going to be like the stagnant water of the well that doesn't know the vastness of the ocean. Have you heard about the Silchar Controversy related to our discussion. As far as I am aware a renowned female politician from Chachar District Rumi Nath, a Hindu Girl (She is a divorcee and this is her second marriage but I think that is not relevant to this topic) married a Muslim boy named Jecky, son of another politician. We don't know which community get offended by this unethical marriage but got a lot of threats after their announcement of marriage. As a consequence the couple fled to Assam straight after their marriage. They were spared here in Assam but when they returned to Chachar after some weeks then they were beaten very badly by the angry mob. The mob vandalized the hotel where they were staying and broken a couple of his bones. Narrating the status of the women was difficult because the mob crossed the boundary of human ethics when they dealt with her. And all of this happened within one Kilometer distance of the Police Station and in the presence of 4-5 media channels who were broadcasting it live.............
4 Nov 12
My heart cries for this , i can't understand why religion , tradition would be a big block for people who shared life and soul ? We are dealing with humanity , emotions of a person , why religion , caste are more important ? See now , it is all the cause of sadness , pain and hatred to all sides . Why can't we try to accept and understand human emotion . They are not animals who got no emotions , they didn't choose nor wanted to be in that particular situation but destiny brought them there , they deserve to be happy and respected . I really can't understand the kind of practice other tribe have , but still my respect is still there.
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2 Nov 12
I totally agree with you akmmedhi3 because it should be based n the person's personality and nature not their religion. Like i'm Jewish and my husband is not and we are ok with it and so are our families. He celebrates all Jewish holidays with me and i do all non Jewish ones with him. I even have a friend a guy who is american and married a Japanese women who came to this country from Japan. They have 2 kids and a wonderful life. It shouldn't matter ever what religion color ethnic background someone is. What matters is are they a nice good kind caring person and do they love you. I have heard that some places in the world you can't marry someone from a different religion even in the 21st century and i find this to be wrong. Never really thought this would go on in the 21st century today.