Do you think it was wrong of me?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
November 2, 2012 4:19pm CST
I've had enough of everyone in this house, now simple ask me to use something would be nice. I buy Marco, Max & Gizmoe in bulk usually a few heads of lettuce, kale, carrots, celery, etc.
I cut them up, wrap them in tea towels, then put them in tupperware containers. I pay to be here even though I'm not really staying here (more for the animals for the time being). Now my Mother called me asking to use two pieces of lettuce (like leaves) for my Dad and her sandwhich so I said fine, then another day was a few leaves of spinach.
My sister goes and cuts up the head of lettuce, throws literally the entire thing out. She put two pieces of lettuce in the fridge not covered nothing so in a few hours they were brown and garbage.
I asked why she had touched my lettuce, and other veggies. She carried on how much I have, I plan on having these veggies for so many days before going shopping. So when I come home and a head of lettuce that should last me more than a week is gone, I don't have food for them.
Since I had to drive to the store 25 minutes one way, throw out more money for tonights dinner. I came home, and she starts again (I didnt say anything), while preparing their meals. She goes and tries touching the veggies again, so I snapped, and told her off. I could see if we shared food, and so on but she just thinks she should get everything free, she stood there screaming her head off sayiing my parents pay for the veggies so it doesnt matter why do I care. My parents don't feed me even though the agreeement was our food would be included in the rent (I havent in years), we do have family dinners but usually I contribute something such as this week I gave froxen veggies, and canned corn.
My sister goes and tells my Dad, and he comes in and starts telling me off. I flipped and told both them off, and up and left (with my veggies in my hand I will leave them at my friends house a bring them in baggies). I eegt a phone call saying how I shouldnt have yelled at them, and it's not that big of a deal.
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10 responses
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
3 Nov 12
You did nothing wrong! You sister and parents are using you. Sounds like they only care about themselves and not you! They should contribute in with the food and stop borrowing your food! That is nuts! I work with a woman t work who has her 29 year old daughter living with her and her husband. Mom doesen't make the girl pay rent,pay for any food or anything else! The daughter has a full-time job! She has never lived on her own! Now this is not right! Mom is controlling her daughter and daughter could care less! At least you are not in a situation like the one I just mentioned! Yikes!
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
3 Nov 12
i dont think so because you did the right think of picking up the veggies on time,it does not matter a lot here
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
3 Nov 12
No, it does not sound as if you are wrong at all. My daughters stay at my home a lot and we all contribute toward the family meals. I buy the bulk of the food but they also contribute. When they buy food for their lunches or for snacks or anything other than our dinner then I do not touch it and neither does anyone else. Is it possible for you to invest in a small refrig that you could keep in your room? Keeping your food at a friends would also work but what a pain in the but that would be after a while, I think. Truthfully, I don't know how you stay in that house. I would be saving every dime to try to get a place of my own.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
3 Nov 12
No, it's not wrong of you. You're the one paying for the veggies and it's for your animals and it's not like you're just stocking up on veggies and not using them. At least your mom asked to use some of your lettuce the one time. But your sister shouldn't have cut up the whole head if she knew it wasn't even her lettuce to begin with.
If you're already paying rent at your parents' house, then why not move in with a friend or something, have the rent split, and know that nobody will be touching your food or causing major problems with you over little things.
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
3 Nov 12
it's so insensitive of your sister to be deliberately annoying you. i think you value your independence. you must be doing your best to keep it. you know what i think, try to endure whatever annoyance you are going through in the house. i think your parents themselves are stressed up having you in the house when you should be in your own house; that is why they had to yell at you.
endure your sister and parents. make something of your life and do make arrangement to move to your own accommodation if you can afford it, else endure and endure dear.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
3 Nov 12
In my opinion it should of ended with your sister apologizing and respecting your household. Even if she through your parents were paying for the food who wants to find a sloppy mess when they get home and have to go back to the grocery store all the time. I wonder what she told your father that he came in snapping at you. I can't help but to think the story was very one sided.
If it were me I'd not of yelled back at my father but I am pretty good about keeping my cool. Maybe you shouldn't of yelled at him but he shouldn't of came storming in without hearing your side of the story either. If you want you can calming try talking to your parents about it. Bottom line whether its that big of deal or not your sister should respect your household.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
3 Nov 12
get out of that house and live with a roommate if you have to,
buy a lock and put it on your bedroom door,
get a cooler or small fridge for your room.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Nov 12
No you are right. Your parents and your sister are abusing you! This is not the way it should be. It's also clear they don't care, find it normal and your parents don't keep their word if it comes to what you agreed about the payment (inc. food). Lettuce etc you can keep in a newspaper as well (up side down) in a cool place (fridge not needed). If you don't have an other place to stay (plus animals) and you want to save yourself the money for shopping etc I guess there is no other way (for the time being) as save your stuff elsewhere. I don't know if this would work for long but I think the only way will be you leave. They don't respect you, help you out, try to understand you or will make your life easier now or in the future. So save yourself and (plan) when to leave! And if you did so, do NOT let them in or help them out again no matter how much they beg or how many times they will say you are family! You do NOT own them anything.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
3 Nov 12
Why don't you go and complain to your dad or mom then? What do they usually say or do when you do the same as your sister does? I just don't get why they all pick at you all the time and no one else. I think they are just acting like a bunch of manipulators feeding off of one another. They are sick. I have had similar situations and one thing is they basically think it's OK here if they hog the TV and then say they are "sharing" which is nonsense. I 'm lucky if I get to watch something without them having to watch it with me (cause of lack of anything better to do or even want to do!) 3 hours a week at night and maybe 1 hour in the day time every few days if that. They watch it 70 more than I do, thats not sharing at all. Some people's heads are so far up their own azzes they can't even think straight.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
Families are sometimes hard t understand. I know that sometimes we need to patience to understand them but they also try to understand us. Hubby's family is living with us and his siblings are picky eater which bogs me. We bought three types of sandwich fillings which only lasted for two weeks.
Hope everything will be good between you and your family.
