requirement in every relationship
November 3, 2012 1:53am CST
for me, we have our own personal needs and wants..and it's not our partner's obligation to provide us with those things..we must learn to survive on our own and never depend on anyone else.. but is it a requirement in every relationship to open up everything regarding those personal stuff and even depend on our partner's decision? i got stuck thinking of what to do now..i've been longing and saving money for a thing that i really need, and at the same it's also what i really want..and now that i have the money, i'm having doubts of pursuing it now..and it's all because of my partner..she doesn't have any idea that i have some savings.. what's the right thing to do?
4 Nov 12
Money can really be a cause of disagreements and misunderstanding between a relationship most especially if you do not tell everything that you have about it. But really, I'd rather keep certain things to myself especially in terms of money matters. I have been married for the last 17 years. I have worked before and I still earn something every once in a while online, but I have never disclosed to my husband how much I earn. But it doesn't mean that I do not share with the expenses at home. He just knows I have some money. If he asks me a few bucks and I have, I do not hesitate in giving him money. You can spend your money however you want it. Besides, she is not yet your wife.
4 Nov 12
Hi friend, we all have our individuality, no one is depending up on others for their needs. We have the ability to do all our things by our own. Our partner is our best half and we must give equal importance to them. They don't have the rights to dominate us, we have our own thoughts, opinions and do things as per our wish. Good to know that you are saving money, it is really a good thing and keep it up
3 Nov 12
Mutual understanding and love for one another is necessary in every relationship.But if you are saving without her knowledge that completely depends on your relationship ,and its basis. I mean in some it may be right but in some it may be wrong . That completely depends on the two individuals who are in the relationship. No body can decide it. Check it what you want from her and and vice versa.
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3 Nov 12
well, it's okay to have something for yourself. it is necessary and healthy in a relationship. it's normal that you will share most things and do things for one another. there also comes a time when you have to do something for yourself. good luck to you.