is it bad for a married woman to be going to the movie alone?

That was exactly my reaction when I read the discussion, but after reading the other responses I thought that I was alone in my thinking. I think that if the husband took the children to see the movie without having the courtesy to wait for the wife, especially since she obviously wanted to see the movie as well, then she had every right to see it by herself.

Asylum, I hope that our men will start thinking like you. Women will be happier. Obviously in this situation the woman had not done anything bad.

this husband must bed f rom the dark ages before we all realized a woman is an adult with the same rights as any man and she does not have to ask permission of him like a chjld. we are now equal and we should keep it that way. no man ever asks permission of a woman to do something and neither shuld we, not at all

I can agree with you if she is being dishonest, but I think that there is a difference between not telling him that she is going to watch a movie and being dishonest. If she had free time and decided to watch the movie because the husband and children were busy doing something else, especially since they had already seen the movie without her, then I do not think it was being dishonest just making a decision on her own. If she said she was going for a walk when the entire time she planned on going to the movies, on the other hand, then I would agree with you that she was being dishonest. In addition, the husband said that a married woman should never watch a movie alone, which implies that he did not think that she was lying but rather was angry that she had done something without his approval ... and obviously he would not have given his approval if she had told him what she was going to do. I can understand if she was going to a nightclub or something like that by herself but not to a movie. By the way, it is good to see you here. I have missed you.

In the situation that you have described, Loonys, I can definitely understand the husband's anger (or the wife's if the situation were reversed). I think that it is common courtesy to tell your spouse where you are going, especially if you are going to be gone for an extended period of time. I have also gotten angry when my husband watched movies without me, but it was more the fact that he did not have the courtesy to wait for me when he knew that I wanted to watch them as well rather than the fact that I didn't think that he had a right to watch a movie on his own. If I had not wanted to see the movie, then I really would not have cared that he watched them on his own. In fact, there were times when I told him to go with one of his friends, because I did not want to see the movie. Similarly, there have been movies that I have wanted to see that he did not, so I could have gone to watch them by myself except that I do not like going to the movies alone. I did watch a few with friends, though.

Personally I believe she did not say to her husband where she was. I got a friend who does that all the time ..even when she guess out at night clubs she says nothing. Only after she returns home she tells him where she was ..its up to husband to believe her or not .

oh my g I am glad I d o not live wherever you do as here we are treated as adults all grown up and every thing.we are not expected to ask permission from our husbands as we are equal we are not their pets or their adult children,to be required to ask permission is being treated like a child or a half wit. how can women stand that? I would hate to be looked down on as a second class citizen and have to account all the time.sure i used to tell my hubby ifs I was going some place alone like to my moms house but I did not ask his permission., He would have laughed at me had I done that. we are equal here not second class.

It's the way it is in our country Hatley. I am one of those who wish things and men's thinking were different.

You gave such a very reasonable answer, Murk. Thanks.

Why does the wife need to be submissive to the husband and ask his permission to do anything that a normal adult should be allowed to do? Would the husband also need to ask his wife and get her permission before doing something alone?

Two sides of an issue really. In a culture like the Philippines, I think Jer may get the nod of approval from the husbands and maybe wives, but I know that in other cultures, women are treated equal to men and have as much right to do what she thinks is right.

I just think that being angry is an overreaction since the wife did not really do anything wrong or bad. She only watched a movie which she wanted to see since her whole family had already seen it and she didn't want to be out of their conversation when they talk about it.

That should have been the fairer case Hatley. But here, a woman should first ask permission from her husband if she could buy lipstick or blouse. I am one of those who oppose this.

You are so correct Hatley. I hope men or husbands in our country will grow up.

I think that is what is in the mind of her husband.

Hey SomeCowgirl, May be the husband is much cared about her and he may loves to give her the best care. The world has turned a lot and we can see a lot of news about the harassment to the girls. May be he is much worried abut that

Yes, I think so too. The husband is one jealous husband I think.

[b]Jealousy = insecurity. Maggiepie[/b]

I would inform my husband...or another member of the household...but ask for permission? no way I Am a grown up person I can make my own decitions ...marry or not!

Yes, he grew up with that kind of belief and thinking, plus, he probably does not trust his wife, or himself.

I know Aej. Lack or trust or jealousy could lead to big fights.

if he did grew up with that belief, then we cannot blame him because it is what he believes in. he just has to make sure that he had informed his wife and make her understand about it. and the wife may also explain to him if she believes otherwise. it's just a matter of opening up so they could reach to a common understanding. if the issue is trust, it is also a difficult situation because lack of trust will really provoke a fight.

The husband here is not thinking properly. He should first check if the wife did something really wrong and not make a big issue out of it.

We are of the same view Shav, but the husband just made it a huge issue.

Yes Here, I very much agree with you. A woman should never lose her ability to decide for such minor things as this. But for this husband here, it seems like the end of the world for his wife to watch a movie by herself. Something is wrong with his mind.

I actually realized that a lot of wackos and weirdos lurk in movie houses which make them unsafe.