Does it makes you less of a man?
By asdomencil
@asdomencil (4265)
Philippines
November 6, 2012 8:23pm CST
Nowadays, planning the family is really essential. This includes how many kids do you want, what are their age gaps, etc.
There are many ways have this which includes the use of contraceptives. Normally, women are the one who undergo or take these contraceptives rather than men since most available contraceptives are applicable only to women.
Some thinks that taking or using contraceptives will make them less of a man. For me I think the other way around.
How about you mylotters, especially men, what are your thoughts about this one? good day
7 responses
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I do not think of it that way too..being a man does not have anything to do with using contraceptives. For me being a man means you are able to stand up for what you believe in and follow it. Being a man means understanding me through everything i am going through and not cowarding out of it.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Very well said. I just wonder why there are some men afraid to take the responsibility in such issue. Are they shy to admit that they are the one or do they feel that their pride was at risk?
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@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I think yes. we are in modern days now and having such an attitude is not necessary. hehehe
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I do not think that it would make a man less than he is if he undergoes a vasectomy. I think it make it more appealing for a wife to know that her husband could go to this extent just to show how much he cares for his wife. It is like giving the wife the assurance that he is all for his wife. (Well, of course, I am referring for those who truly love their wives and would never even think of cheating on their wives).
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I am a husband and it is really good to hear from you that it will really more appealing for a wife if men will take charge in this issue. Some men are really afraid to take charge because they think if their friends will know it, they will be teased and are afraid that their pride will be affected.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
It is something that i know every wife would surely appreciate. My husband wanted to undergo that procedure when we had my 4th son, but his father told him not to do and just let me to have tubal ligation instead. It was fine with me undergoing the procedure. At least I know my husband really wanted to spare me from being under the knife.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I don't know why some men are really afrain to undergo the said procedure as way of their contraception. That was already an absolute thinking. We are in the modern times now.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
I think taking contraceptives in order to have family planning will not affect a man's disposition in his life...it will make him less of a man if he continue to have children when in fact, he has no money to support or to feed them.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
You are right. I think if you are men enough you are willing to take charge in the contraception for your family and it will not make you less of a man. You must not consider your ego but consider your family too. You must not be ashame of what others might tell because they are not the one that supports your family. Instead be proud of it because you are thinking of your family's future and status.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
7 Nov 12
Hi,
Being a real man is to be able to stand to what is expected of him: upright, can be trusted, decisive, supportive to one's family, loyal, faithful, loving, compassionate and above all, committed to the woman he profess to be with, for better or for worse...
Now, does using contraceptive make those virtues less or more? I don't think it make any difference as long it is used in a responsible manner and not subjected to any form of abuse. What makes a real man is marked with strong principles and unwavering convictions towards what is good and proper as called upon by his station in life.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
That was a good point there. Though oral contraceptions are only available to women as of now, there are other ways that men can take charge of it. However, most men doesn't want to try it because there are something in their ego that will be affected.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Yes, I guess so. It really needs the decision of the two couples in a relationship in such issue.
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I don't think that it lessen their manhood if ever they use a contraceptives. There are contraceptives that man used, but majority women used to have this. Good day!
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I think that too. However, there are still others that are afraid to take the charge because theya re afraid to be teased when their friends knew it.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
Being a responsible father and husband won't make any man a lesser than the other by using contraceptives or undergoing operation- I don't know any contraceptives to be taken by men aside from having vasectomy.
And a man taking that step is being a real man- that only means he wants to fulfill his duty as a father for not having kids more than he can take care of.
