Beating Separation Anxiety

@sexyposh (576)
Philippines
November 8, 2012 9:28pm CST
Before I gave birth to my son, I filed a resignation to my previous company I worked for. This is to give way to be a full pledge mom. I believe to be a stay-at-home mom will help build better relationship with her kids. Now that my son is one year old, I finally decided to go back to corporate world so that I can help my husband with our expenses. I was able to find a work place near our home so that I won't waste time by just traveling, and we were able to find a nanny who will take care of our son while we are gone. Ease as breeze right? wrong! I was with my kid for almost a year and was so so difficult for me to let go and leave him behind. I experienced separation anxiety for a week. I was not able to concentrate with my work because my thought is always at home. I thought I was getting weird but I finally found an article that I'm just perfectly fine. How to beat Separation Anxiety from your kid? Well it very simple.. You just have to talk it out to your kid like, "Mom, will just be away for awhile.. but I will be back later so that we could play some more!". It say you just have to be honest with your promise so that your kid will have something to look forward to. Giving your kid a quick kiss goodbye is also good, he'll understand automatically that you did not forgot him or her. Hiding and running to the door will not help at all, to you and your kid. It will only worsten your anxiety and your kid will also feel about you. Trust is also the key-- you should learn to trust also the person whose going to take care of your kid. With these, will also help your kid to be more independent and understanding.. Well that just me, I believe in this...
3 responses
@SIMPLYD (80388)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
That's true, my friend. At a very early age , we have to make our kids understand that we have to go to work in order to sufficiently provide for the family. And we have to assure the kid that we will just be coming back in a later time, to be with him/her again. That way, they will learn how to be independent at an early age. That's what we did with our daughter. Thus, she never cries when we go to work.
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Now my son is too.. I think he already understand that I'll be away for awhile and cannot play with him for today. But when I get home I make sure that I have his attention..
@Tongcv (173)
• China
9 Nov 12
Yes,but do not forget to take some time to care for your child in his busy schedule,he is taller fat skulk,psychological growth how.
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Oh yes of course.. My family is still my top priority. I make sure that Sunday is alotted to my son and my husband..
@Hrozean (116)
• United States
9 Nov 12
I definately agree and can attest to it. Howeve ethers are a few days like when thy aren't feeling well or just grumpy that they need to be said good bye I love you and rush out and just let them cry because they also need to understand their feelings and that it is ok to be sad but but not ok to throw a temper tantrum or let it ruin their day. Just as we adults have to. What helped me is thinking of what would happen if I didn't work would we have a house Or nice toys and clothes for my child that helps motivate me. Keeping pictures of toys or birthday presents are a good idea too. My son is very Indepent and social but also connected he loves us as parents but he also loves his daycare teachers. That makes me feel comfortable having him there.
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Daycare is not yet popular here in my country. And if there is, I think my kid is still too young to be left there. Yeah, I'm doing those things too. I never fail to kiss him goodbye and saying "I love you".