What do you think if you are working in other country and you are alone !

@nelerkz (467)
Philippines
November 9, 2012 4:47am CST
I arrived here in Thailand last May 2012 with my friend and unexpectedly, there was someone who fetch us there because we went to Thailand for unsure and obscure job. Eagerly, we were brave enough just to have a job and it was a successful journey, though. I am a Filipino Citizen, and a 22 years old man. I am currently working as High School Teacher here in Thailand and my friend is working in the other city. Blatantly, we are have different lives now because of work separation but we are still contacting and updating to each other. I know it's confusing because of the detachment of our job instead of being together, the reason behind of it was complicated and unexplainable but the most substantial thing is we have already jobs. So, my concern now is can you carry the situation of being alone and you are the only Filipino Citizen? How can you handle it? What is the best thing to do to get rid this boredom sometimes and alone. If my situation is likely as yours you can express your experiences and drop some lifting up words. Thank you :)
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@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
11 Nov 12
Congratulations for landing a job here. You are fortunate enough to have a job of your own, it's quite difficult to find a job in Manila at this time. Yes, your courage and self confidence have brought you here, which means to say, You are a mere survivor of the word survival. Keeping in touch with your friends and relatives back home or all over the world will keep you sane. (that keeps me sane). Why sad of being alone, why not take this opportunity to learn something about yourself? Soul searching as I may say. Hmmm.. odd? nope. I am in the situation like yours, but I take this opportunity to talk more to myself and to God per se. during my idle time, and "alone" time, am not alone after all. (Just don't make it outloud others might hear you and think you are a kind of a lunatic). I took it as a breather...
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
Thanks for that Mavic, Yes it's too difficult to find a job there all over in the Philippines, the opportunity in our country is so meager. Mostly people can able to work because they have what we called "backer". It's too unfair for others but nevertheless, I am here by the desire of the Lord. If you are talking to yourself it's just look like that you are experiencing psychiatric problem. Joke ! :) I'm not too kind of a lunatic as what you had perceived to me, I just being true of what I've wrote but the best thing is we are here embracing the blessing. I just want to share it to everyone and no harm done on it. Happy mylotting my friend ! :)
• Thailand
11 Nov 12
Ithink you took it wrongly Nel.. I am not saying that "talking to yourself" as if you are having a monologue. talking to yourself is soul searching.. knowing what you want in the next hours of the day, days in the week and weeks in a month and so on.. It's knowing how you see yourself in the future, what do you intend to achieve and how do you want to achieve them. I am not saying also that you are a lunatic....it's more inner and deep thinking. like what i have said.. a breather
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
Sorry my friend that I perceive it wrongly, let's just enjoy posting and responding here. It's good to observe that you active now in here. Welcome to mylot. :)
@prashu228 (22280)
• India
9 Nov 12
I have never visited any country so far. i would like to in future, for studies of for job. I heard about Thailand, and its places and also the food. i surely have a plan . So you are working in Thailand but away from friends, yes its really difficult to be like that, but if we need our employment sometimes we have to do so. Its good that you are updating about each other . After all good friends are necessary in life. enjoy your job , other wise you cant give your 100 percent.And boredom, ohh there are many ways make new friends, read books and mylot is here for you and we are here to discuss.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Yes I do agree and that's what I'm trying now, this mylot is such a big help. Thank you. God bless us more. :)
@mikyung (2235)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Spend more time in creating new friends with your co-workers and students. Reach out to your friends and relatives here in the Philippines through Skype, Facebook, twitter or to myLot or to other social network sites. I hope it can ease that nagging feeling. I can see where youre coming from. Though I have not been in other country but I can say something because I have a lot of friends and relatives who are working and living abroad. Initially, that was their feeling but as time passed by they managed to survive in a foreign place. Thanks
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Thank you also Mikyung, maybe that would also an effective way to get rid of this nagging feeling. Thanks for dropping by. :)
@wenna28 (38)
9 Nov 12
I know its not easy to work in other country specially if you feel alone,,but try to mingle with other citizen ,maybe you didn't see,,but they are also friendly, ,,
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Yes, I would really do that. I'm trying myself to be in. :)
• Greece
9 Nov 12
First of all congratulations on finding work in a foreign country. It was not an easy decision to leave and it is not easy to live away from friends and family.I am English, married to a Greek and I have lived in Greece for six years. I rarely meet any other English people, although I do meet Americans and others who can speak English, but not on a daily basis. I am interested in meeting people, whatever their nationality and the differences in our backgrounds is not a problem. I try to keep in touch with what is going on in England by reading magazines and by watching TV channels and by keeping internet contacts regular. What I miss most is the humour of my country because culturally people's sense of humour is often quite different. so when I do meet up with other English people I enjoy a laugh and a joke. I would suggest that you try to buy newspapers from home and ring or email friends there regularly. Also to meet with others from the Filipines - preferably those who are happy living in Thailand. Unhappy compatriots will make you feel worse. You may be going through a difficult period at present, having adjusted to a new country and job and now you are stopping to assess the situation. I personally get over any bad patches by just living for the day and doing my best to enjoy it. This works for me.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Thank you so much 41CombedaleRoad for this good advice of yours. Yes, I will just enjoy every moment and this is once for a lifetime and i will just keep myself busy. This mylot is a big help also and I am now enjoying writing, posting and commenting. I will just do my best in everything I do so that there will be no unusual feelings that would appear. Thanks for dropping your advice and experience. Good luck :)
@berting600 (3461)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
My friend your boredom could be overcome when you just make yourself busy and instead of feeling lonely,just think you have a family waiting in the Philippines to take your salaries for their daily needs.I was also like that before when I arrive in Taiwan as a factory worker.That was 1998 and I really felt homesick when I was already working for one week in the factory.I would just think of my family and that they badly needed my salary for our daily needs.My being homesick was gone upon thinking of our need to survive.I know you could also do that,we have the same profession as of now,because I have been a tutor for quite sometime now, but I was only here in our country struggling to live a simple life.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Yes I always do that but there is sometimes that you feel alone and you can't avoid it but anyway I always make myself busy in social network sites to talk to my friends and family. Frankly, I'm not a teacher in the Philippines and I am graduated as Nursing but anyway this is another topic to be discuss. It's good to hear and know that you were able to experience to work abroad. The most important thing is to survive each day of hardship and I will just do my best here and I will do this for my family and to have experience, though. Thank you so much for dropping your comments. God bless us more. :)
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Since you are a teacher I am sure the situation is not scary like how other people experienced. I am sure you can adjust easily with the environment and socialize with the people out there. Unlike with other people who are work abroad with less information and low education-most of them are likely become the victim of bad situation. Pray is the best thing and companion you have at this moment. As long as the communication between you and your other colleague is open then you don't need to worry about. If you think you are not comfortable and you are not happy with your job, then never hesitate to fly back home. Your safety matters the most.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Yes its true, agreed. But I'm so lucky to have this job because I'm surrounded with good Thai people. Sometimes you will feel the happiness and sometimes sad but the most above of all is the happiness. :) Yes, the happiness and safety matter the most, you are correct. And yes we do pray since that God is the only we have throughout this journey. Praying is the best weapon. Thank you so much. :)
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Hi there. I have one friend in Taiwan too and she is an English Teacher. I wonder if you know of her. I wonder what does it feels like too if you are alone in a country without any people who has the same citizenship as yours. I think I can handle it and I will just see to it that I will chat with my family in Phil. everyday. That could keeps me going. maybe. Being a lone is not good but if it's for awhile I think I can stand it. And anyway, it's for me and my family so all the hard work will be paid of soon.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Indeed, all of this is for my parents that's why I am here. I always pray that everything is safe and God has always there because I'm so guided with his hand. Yes, I can handle this, the faith still remains on me and thank you so much for your good words. Keep safe :)