am i afraid or just tired?

@asliah (11149)
Philippines
November 12, 2012 4:13am CST
greetings to all of you guys, i am single for how many months and i am enjoying it,but there are still man who wants me but i just ignore them because i cant feel the love for them,does not mean i don't like them but my heart can not feel the shivery factor.what 's going on with my heart?am i afraid to love again because at the end it will hurt me or i am just tired to love again,i mean i am not yet ready to open my heart again. have you ever been experienced this in your love life?what makes your heart close to love again?just afraid of just tired?
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12 responses
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
30 Apr 13
When I was young, I had a broken love. Later it affected me quite a lot that I decided not to fall in love again until I met my current wife. When you get hurt by love affairs, it will take quite some time to get healed again before the next love you will accept. Have a good day.
@Sissi321 (131)
• China
27 Nov 12
I have no boy friends in the past 2 years, i think i can understand your feeling, afraid to be hurted again and close the heart to adjust ourselves...but i think we can give us some time to adjust, but the period won't be too long...because our life will going on and there are also too many good boys in the world. we can't lose the energe to love anyone else. now i have worked through by myself and start to find my new love. Hope you can find your love again in the future. Good Luck.
@inertia4 (26298)
• United States
13 Nov 12
Yes I have experienced that in my life. It is not an easy thing to deal with. I do know that it does take time to get over a long term relationship. We do need to lick out wounds and take the time we need to grieve. It is a process. Getting involved too fast with someone else will only end in disaster. A rebound relationship is not worth it.
@graysky (132)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
i think it is because the heart is taking time to heal and rest.oftentimes,we overuse our heart in loving someone and got really disappointed when it fails.there is nothing wrong about it.take your time,love will knock again in due time.
@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
13 Nov 12
enjoy being single, at least you have no one to asked permission to when you want to go somewhere or do something. On the hand, it is nice to love and to be loved, I think that's human nature. If you think you are not ready yet then don't dwell into a relationship you will just get tired again eventually. Just enjoy the attention the this man is giving you instead. Have fun in your life dont be afraid to love again, but give your heart a chance to breath and relax.
@franseman (517)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
As long as you enjoy life as it is there's nothing wrong. Sure, people always tell us that we should have a partner but it's a fact that some of us feel much happier without a partner. And if Mr. Right is out there somewhere, believe me, he will find you and your heart will open as a flower!
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Maybe it because you think that you might hurt again,thats life, sometimes we should experienced hurting by others to learn to our mistakes or their mistakes,so that nextime we will know how to handle it...
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
never get tired in love nor be afraid. it is easy to say things like that but if we are in the shoe of you, sure is, i will be scared as well or feeling tired for the newly found relationship would be wasted on the process of time. but on you, i guess, your guy is not yet appearing that would capture the interest or the flicker again of your heart to be fallen and entrusted your whole self with again. it is really hard to fall for another guy mostly if you are uncertain of your feelings. well, do not rush things. just ask guidance from God for the right man to come along and who to love upon. when you do this, everything will be in order. just have faith. good luck
@lizlee (208)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Hello! You probably haven't found the right one yet. That's why you don't feel anything to any of your admirers. Don't force yourself to like them just for the sake that you are worried that probably you won't love again or your just afraid to love. It would come naturally since loving is a natural thing to do. Just sit back, relax and enjoy life! Cheers!!! :)
• United States
13 Nov 12
You are probably tired of be afraid. I would take some time to be alone, focus on yourself and what you need as a person before you start seeking what another person needs from you. Relationships are hard and they take work and if you're the only person working on them then its tiring. Have fun with your friends, read more, spend time doing things you like, when its time to start looking your be at the top of your world ready to share it with somebody.
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
Many people are afraid in loving again. And those people, i regret to say, never learn and never finds the one destined for them. As an expert of love once said, "It is better to have loved and rejected, than to never have loved at all." I too had my share of those feelings, and am afraid of rejection, but it is the only way to learn our mistakes and use as basis for the genuine love that will be given to us and what we give. If you find yourself having a hard time finding love and opening your heart, always remember that you are still on the look for a better partner and there is nothing wrong in that. Just be sure to pay attention of who loves you and who you love since the one for you with genuine love is there and you just don't see it. "As another door closes, another door opens. But sometimes we stare too much at the closed door that we never see the door that was opened." - Helen Keller. Good day to you!
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
Maybe the reason is that you are not ready yet to open your heart again that's why you cannot feel the shivery thing. Or you don't find them attractive. You are not ready yet so your heart is ignoring. Nothing is wrong I guess.