working mom's challenges

Philippines
November 12, 2012 12:17pm CST
I grew up having a working mom and dad, although there were years that my dad was not working, but I noticed my mom more since it is just pretty normal for our dad to work and provide. Even if my mom was a working mom, we were raised well as if she was a hands on mom. Except for household chores which were delegated to our maids, which I think once of the reasons why I am not domesticated. Now that I am a working mom myself, I can now see how difficult it was for my mom back then to fulfill her duties to her employer, to her husband and to her kids. It must be really a tough job...would you all agree?
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14 responses
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Oh, yeah. Both of my parents worked too before. We were only left with our maids. However, I can also say that my parents did their best to raise us well. I am also a working mom now. I'm the one providing for our family while my husband is a full-time dad. I only go home on weekends. I guess being a full time parent is more difficult. My problem is just to hand them money and maintain having a job. My husband has more duties. He has to take care of our son and manage everything at home. I salute him. :)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
salute to your hubby as well! More so salute to you!
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• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Thanks a lot babyretzel. I just saw that you haven't commented on the other comments yet. You need to comment on them too. You will earn more by posting your comments. Salute to you and your partner, too. See you around. Happy mylotting.
@kat_2x (105)
20 Nov 12
I do agree with you.. just like me a mother to my son.. a wife to my husband.. its really tough and i really salute my mother because she did a good job for rasing us well..
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I grew up with my parents both working, too. Although my dad was mostly out of the country coz he was then studying for his Masters Degree and Ph D in Japan, my mom was able to raise as well. Yes, looking back, I now understand how much she had to sacrifice just so she can be assured that we live like normal kids.
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
13 Nov 12
Being a working Mom always made me feel bad but my kids turned out great! Sometimes I did stay home but it gets really boring. Working a lot takes a lot of your time and I know it is exhausting! I think it's good to work but spending quality time with the kids is what counts the most.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I am a working mom too as well as my mom. Both of my parents were government employees. My mom was a teacher. My working life compared to my mom's is very different. I guess mine is much easier. She was a public school teacher. Teachers in the Philippines specially in the provinces work over 8 hours a day plus their household chores. I remember my mother raising us, 6 children. She woke up early and do some works then school. After school, she did houseworks again and in the evening she wrote her lesson plans with kerosene lamp to light her. That was her routine.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I do understand because I am also a working mom since I got married. I only stopped working when I gave birth to my youngest child. Then after 3 years go back to my work again. It's really challenging to work and be a hands on mom.
@mikyung (2234)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I can relate here since I was also raised by a working dad and mom, though I see my mom who worked hard, get an extra job for us to have extra money for school supplies, food stuff and some things that we wanted. It's nice that you experienced that working mom's challenges, that it made you realized the things our mom are doing. All they wanted is for their kids to be healthy and successful. My mom no longer here, but she left some good things that I cherish right now, lessons that made me mature on things. Mom's deserved to be treated well and to be respected. Thanks
@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
13 Nov 12
Now you understood the hardship your mom had passed just to raise you. Now that you are experiencing same you must be more appreciative to your mom's effort. She is a great mother, she should be given medal and acknowledgement for such great sacrifice. But nevertheless, like your mom you will survive the challenge. You have a good role model so I guess you can pass through it. Just dont forget to give time to your family. Family still is the most important beings in the world. Second is your boss and work.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
13 Nov 12
Its very hard to work and run a home. My mom did it for 50 years. She never missed a day. She even cleaned, cooked every single day here. I dont think husbands realize how hard a home can be to take care of. And when you have 5 kids... oh my.
@xhanne009 (108)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I agree that's why being a mom is the greatest job on earth. Me too also wondered how did moms fulfill their duties they must be tired and stressed all day everyday. Till I become a mom too and do everything what my mom did. True it's too tiring and gives me stress. But I found out that from the family's love is where a mom get her strength.
@Shellyann36 (9616)
• United States
13 Nov 12
Yes being a working mom is very hard. We have to do everything. Balance the kids, work, hubby, domestic duties. It is very hard to get it all done. I was a single working mom for years and I know how hard it is.
@lizlee (208)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Wow! Kudos to your mom! I mean, being employed and running a household is not a very easy job. You're mom must've really put in some real efforts there. I guess mom's are like that. I mean, their family comes first on their list of priorities so I guess that's why they're able to pull it off. Don't get me wrong, fathers also give their all when it comes to the needs of their families. But what I'm saying is that, its a given notion that men work to provide for their family. All in all, its great that it turned out good for your family. I know you could also do what your mom did :) The best of luck! Cheers!!! :)
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
13 Nov 12
In the ten years that I've been a mother, I've had the opportunity to be both a stay-at-home mother and a working mother. Having had the opportunity to hold both roles in my life, I have to say that there is not one role which is easier than the other role. When working, a mother is going from the time that she wakes up in the morning until the time that she lays down at night. However, as a stay-at-home mother, the same is the truth. The responsibilities might be different between a working and a stay-at-home mother, but the demands are honestly the same.
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
Being a working mom has it's challenges especially for a single parent. My earnings then did not accommodate hiring a maid and so I had to do the household chores with the help of the kids. Since I had to work until Saturday, Sunday was for laundry and general cleaning. Everything has to be on schedule but what disappointed the kids were those times when I could not spare the time to attend to school activities. When I remember those days, I often wonder how I was able to cope up with everything and not only in terms of financial needs but the absence of a shoulder to lean on. However, it has made me a stronger woman who can decide on her own. It is a tough job being a mother which you will realize soon.