Where did they come from?

United States
November 12, 2012 9:48pm CST
It just amazes me, I can pull up to a store and there is hardly anybody there and before I get out there are a whole bunch of people there. Or in a grocery store, I like to take my time and grocery shop and not be interrupted. I can go down an aisle and be the only person in this aisle, and just as soon as I find what I'm looking for, a mob hits. I like to take my time to compare shop and it's hard to do when people are budging in front of you, bumping into you or reaching across you! People don't even say "Excuse me" anymore. Do you ever have this happen to you? Do you think I'm too picky in thinking people should be mannerly in a store?
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14 responses
• United States
13 Nov 12
People just seem to lack manners anymore and it's so frustrating! I also like to comparison shop, especially in the grocery store. And it's not always the young ones that are rude-I mean, I'm forty-one, but even older folks can get quite rude sometimes! It happened several times today-we went shopping, and every time I'd try to see if I had a couple for a specific item, Jim (my boyfriend) would wander off, or roll his eyes. As I was also trying to keep a mental tally of the money we were spending, I'd be doing calculations and he'd start talking to me and I'd lose count! It's so hard shopping with him-he doesn't seem to care about prices and that's why he'll spend $10 for breakfast for the two of us! It was crowded today, but business picked up when we hit the checkout lanes. Fortunately, we were out within five minutes, but the cashier was already checking out the next order before I even had a chance to pick up my groceries off the carousel! Now THAT was rude.
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Nov 12
jo scorpiobabes let me tell you about rude. several years back I was shopping for Thanksgiving and very carefully counting up what I had spent. I knew that I should get back about five dollars. but the clerk handed me a twenty dollar bill and I said "maam this is too much. you made a mistake." she practically screamed at me "I never make mistakes." the man behind me hissed"lady take the damned money and groceries for G sakes" So I took the damned money and my groceries and left.I was richer by twenty dollars. I got home and asked my son to tally it all up and he got the same figure I did so that night the till would be short twenty dollars and the manager would be on her case for that. I tried to save her but she was too snotty for me.
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• United States
13 Nov 12
I agree with you scorpiobabes, there is no age limit to people being rude. As I get older though I can understand why the older generation can be rude, it's because the younger generation is way rude! I also know what youmean about your boyfriend talking to you when you're trying to add things up. My husband will go in another aisle and find something to put in the cart. Of course at the time he's putting "his" things in the cart, I'm adding things up that I've added, so then I have to stop and figure out the prices of the things he's added. Also the clerks can be ruder than the people that are shopping! I hate it when they "try" to charge me for something I didn't buy. If they don't know why, I have them get the manager right then and there! Thanks scorpiobabes and Hatley for joining in this discussion!
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• United States
13 Nov 12
Hatley, She was paying YOU to leave her alone! Someone like that deserved to lose her job because not only do you have to be accurate as a cashier, you need to be POLITE! Not everyone deserves to be saved, as you learned here!
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
A person with a good upbringing will naturally be wanting to see people who would show good manners too. I think people these days do lack these. There had been instances that someone comes up to me to ask for directions. I would gladly help, no problem with that. Then after telling the person where to go, he would just turn his back and walk away. then my 8 year old kid would say, "What? No "Thank you"? See how people are raised or just chose to be that way. Frustrating, but hey, what can we do? At least we know we are not like them.
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• United States
13 Nov 12
You should be very proud of your son! You are right, people naturally learn from their upbringing. I always say, that now days it's the "me" generation. People just think about themselves. I was surprised when my children were at some one else's house and that person would compliment me for raising such mannerly, polite children. I was very proud to think that what I was instilling in my children, they were actually using.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
It's a big pat on the back for parents who have been complimented for raising such wonderful kids. We hope they would really have the same attitude towards their own children in the future.
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• United States
14 Nov 12
I know when someone pushes me. My daughter at two! says ...mommy, excuse me! I say "Yes excuse me" I love my baby she is learning not all bad habits. I love the good she mimics too. She is a sponge at this age!
@GreenMoo (11842)
13 Nov 12
Maybe you are famous, hence the following crowds? Do you ever notice blokes with long lenses lurking in the fresh produce aisle?
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• United States
13 Nov 12
Ha ha that is too funny. I can understand her wanting to have some personal space. I don't know how celebrities do it. I already hate it. I cannot imagine them stopping me from walking.
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• United States
13 Nov 12
Me, famous??? I wouldn't want a celeberties life for anything! I do like my personal space, and if I'm invaded they can at least be nice about it!
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@LaDeBoheme (2003)
• United States
13 Nov 12
How about the double-cart blockade? Two people who know each other just stop in the middle of the aisle with their respective shopping carts and become totally oblivious that they have created an impenetrable blockage across the entire aisle which allows no other customer to pass while they catch up on all the latest neighborhood gossip. And God forbid if you say "Excuse me" in an attempt to squeeze by, because they give you a disdainful look as if YOU are being the one who is rude by interrupting them. I particularly love the mothers who think it's cute to let their little kids push the cart that they can't see over right into your heels. That's why I hate going to Walmart. In my opinion, they have the rudest customers. What??! Are they afraid you might get to that 'rollback' deal before they do? Oh yeah, shopping is always an adventure. ([i]
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Nov 12
Or three ladies get together and block the aisle while they talk over which skin lotion is the best and then go on to t alk about everything else while I wait patiently to get to the skin lotion and pick up my own favorite. they would never think of going to one side of the aisle and chatting about nothing, the have to block the whole aisle instead.feel like taking my cart and ramming the blockage lol but then rotting in jail is not an option either lol lol lol
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• United States
13 Nov 12
I agree with you LaDeBoheme, the dreaded double-cart blockade! I say, "Excuuuuse me, you're in my way!" That's when they really give you the eye! Also, the parents that let their kids loose!
@dragon54u (31635)
• United States
13 Nov 12
One of the things I really like about where I live now--in Ohio--is that people still say "excuse me" when they pass in front of you when you're looking for something on a shelf. When I lived in Arizona people were like the ones you're talking about--no manners, no consideration. I understand what you're saying, I like to take my time, too. Although I hate shopping and try to get in and out as soon as I can no matter what type of store I'm in, I don't like to be rushed. The problem is that generally people are not teaching children manners anymore and haven't for about 20 years.
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• United States
13 Nov 12
I agree with you, the lack of morals are go on a falling down fall. I would agree with you it's been going on for about 20 years, but my children aare in their 20's and they learned manners at a young age. Thanks for joining in this discussion!
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Nov 12
hi stoutjodee I hate crowds and it always happens to me to that when you come in the store nobody there but half an hour later people are shoving and pushing. I do niot care if they do not say excuse me, I just want them to move over so I can shop too. I hate it when its three woman all talking over is this the best this or that and its just where I need to get what I want and get ou t of there. so they stand here and chat for twenty minutes.gggr why not stand aside u ntil they have decided the right brand or what ever.Don't expect excuse me but just hope they pick up what they need and move on down the aisle. I wish I could shop on line for everything as its so much easier for me.I have a bad leg and bad arm so shopping on line is great for me.
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• United States
13 Nov 12
"...shopping on line is great for me." I so totally agree! No lines. No shoving. No waiting. No parking space warfare. No frustration. AND... ...get it delivered to your front door!
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• United States
13 Nov 12
Oh, yes shopping on line would eliminate people blocking our way,shoving us and just plain rude people! All you'd have to deal with is the person getting your order right. Thanks for joining in this discussion!
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• United States
14 Nov 12
That is why I shop online. Plus the deals and the discount codes. I always try on in store and then look online for the same thing to get it cheaper if I can. I just got an peacoat for my daughter for less than half the price then at the mall.
@BarBaraPrz (21377)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Nov 12
Happens to me all the time. I pop into an otherwise shop and before I turn around at least one other person has followed me in. It's like they fall out of my back pocket or something!
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• United States
14 Nov 12
I hate when people pop out like that out of the blue. I feel like if they are so close they want something. Or they are pickpocketing me. Either way I don't like it! Not one tiny bit!
• United States
13 Nov 12
I can understand the frustration. I don't use the subways and buses after 2 pm because the kids are out of school. They are rude and pushy. They have no respect for elders. They also curse beyond belief in front of my two year old daughter. Everyone needs to relearn manners!
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• United States
13 Nov 12
Oh, totally agree with you! The foul language that people use now days and I don't think they even realize how often they use these words. People don't even consider other people when they are in their rampage of cursing. I had to put my foot down one day. Some one was over and they kept saying God dammit (don't even like writing it) and I told them this was my house and I didn't appreciate cursing in God's name!
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• United States
14 Nov 12
I had some 13 year olds saying the f word and my 2 yr old says the f word. They laugh. I look at them and I say, Are you serious? Didn't your parents teach you right and wrong?! What you taught my daughter right there is wrong! If I catch you guys walking with your mommies, I'll make sure to tell them what you taught my child. Now apologize to me and my child. " They were neighborhood kids so they knew I would do it as I have done it before, telling a father that their kid was smoking in my building. So they apologized. It was too funny.
• United States
13 Nov 12
What gets me is that the lines are really short and then when I finish the lines are way long. people are like roaches they are hard to get rid of.
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• United States
13 Nov 12
I agree with you and that's the time when you go in there aren't that many people and...boom, they get bombarded by the "roaches" and they only have a couple of check outs that are open! Thanks for joining this discussion!
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@Micmac (9759)
13 Nov 12
'Also the clerks can be ruder than the people that are shopping!' I had an experience with this weird clerk at a store and she really had the nerve to be extremely rude to customers asking her for directions in the store as to where they can buy icecream. The clerk yelled at the top of her lungs and sneered at them, 'DON'T YOU SEE THE ICECREAM IS UPSTAIRS WHERE IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN!' How rude can you get! And why do people have no control of their children running wild and animated all over in shops like it's a play ground. Hardly ever hear the parent saying 'BE QUIET, or STOP THAT RUNNING IN THE AISLES.' And no manager will tell them anything. It's hard to predict how many people enter a store and at any given time, the astmosphere can change from just a few to a jammed up place. I prefer shopping when it's not so crowded.
• United States
13 Nov 12
I agree with you, if the clerks and managers would control unruly children, maybe parents would think about letting their children go awry! Some clerks aren't cut out to be in the customer service line of work, that's for sure! Thanks for joining in this discussion!
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
21 Apr 13
hi dear Jodee you are sure not too picky in thinking people should show some manners, not only in stores. Manners seem to be dying here as well. I often think of how I was raised and shake my head observing how people behave on a daily basis now. Like, young people who still attend school will not stand up and give up their seat in the bus for the elderly, or people never saying please and thank you any more, and like you said just push their way through.
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I also like taking my time in the grocery store, but I realized the bill gets bigger the longer I stay, so I prepare a list everytime I need to do the groceries. That way I'd save time, and money. I do hate it when people don't park their carts properly on the aisle, especially in smaller stores. Since, its a public place, everyone should be mindful of other customers.
@prashu228 (25519)
• India
14 Nov 12
hi, I don't think so, we should check thoroughly before buying anything, and there is nothing wrong in this. yes i agree people don't even say "excuse me"they just go by pushing us. I find it very annoying.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
14 Nov 12
I hate when people do that! I do not have that happen in grocery stores but just in every day life! People are in to much of a hurry nowadays! The younger generations have no manners! It is like their parents did not teach them or they just don't care! I work with college kids and alot of them are like that! Rude,inconsiderate,arrogant and no mannerism! I m glad not everyone is that bad! I grew up not saying please and thank you. I learnt that as in adult and say it all the time! wish more people would do the same!