Play the guitar for us Ben

@telmesh (1793)
November 13, 2012 1:34pm CST
My middle grandson Ben has never been into hobbies and does play computer games but over the last 3 months he has been having guitar lessons and practicing hard. It's great to see him really interested in something and because he enjoys it he is learning very quickly. When asked to show us how much he has learnt he says he can only play when he wants to but left alone he comes round to the idea he has a little practice. Ben is 12 but his voice has broken already and is well into puberty is getting tall and acts 18 and is determined to earn his fortune playing guitar. Do you think it's best to encourage him to take an interest in the wider aspects of the entertainment business as it seems the only thing he wants to know anything about.
3 responses
• China
15 Nov 12
I remember your granddaughter is all-round.I am glad your middle grandson is finally interested in Guitar and want to do it for a living.I think his idea should be all right.Interest is the greatest teacher.He will be sure to get on in life, as long as he has a gift for it and persists in practising it.However He ought to strike a balance between playing the guitar and elementary,secondary, and higher education.
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@telmesh (1793)
15 Nov 12
Wow what a memory, yes my youngest granddaughter has many interests and is always trying new things but she is nine and has not stuck on any one thing yet. Still swimming and singing are her main interests. Where my 12 year old grandson is concerned it is the only thing he has shown a really positive interest in and his home teacher is really positive about his abilities. I feel so positive about this interest but feel he should widen his choices to give himself more opportunities.
• China
18 Nov 12
I agree with you.Having a wide range of knowledge is helpfull to him playing the guitar.Of course,besides that,he should concentrate his efforts on learning to play the guitar,or "to know everything is to know nothing."It is great he seems to have a gift for guitar.
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@telmesh (1793)
18 Nov 12
That seems like a Chinese proverb, "To know everything is to know nothing ". As we know too well no one knows everything. The thirst for knowledge is a good thing as it makes us realise how little we really know. The more knowledge the more questions. I am hoping that the further my grandson gets into his guitar studies the more he will want to know as a natural progression, he does like the responses to his questions to be instant. He already has his sights set on the most expensive guitar ever and I have tried to point out that the price has more to do with who has owned it rather than the quality of it.
• United States
14 Nov 12
It is always best to have a back up plan education wise but it is important to believe in him and encourage him too. If this is his dream nothing and no one is going to stop him from trying. It might be easier to have guidance along the way.
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• United States
15 Nov 12
You have to also take into consideration his age. He is still young in heart, mind and body. I would agree that he should stretch his interest if he was 15 or older. At 12 he can change his mind another dozen times. In today's world kids don't have much kid time like we did. They are more advanced in school, use all sorts of gadgets and electronics whereas we went out to play with a ball and a stick if no one had a bat. We played jacks, marbles, tag etc...you get the picture. So much more seems to be mandatory for kids today. As if they have to grow up to be adults in little bodies before their time. There is a time to be a kid and a time to be, think and act like an adult. Society seems to push them along. You only get to be a kid once, why not let them enjoy it fully. That doesn't mean they can't be responsible for themselves equal to their age level. Do chores and have manners. Keep up with their homework. That there is their career and thinking like an adult is coming but it doesn't have to come just yet. By next year his interests will be in another direction and you worried for nothing.
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@telmesh (1793)
16 Nov 12
As I pointed out initially this lad has already has his adult voice and is well into puberty. I would challenge most adults to beat him in debate, never wanting to play out has missed out on childhood by his own desire. His curiosity is limited and I feel life has many surprises for him but has a what will be, will be attitude. It is for the above that I would be happier if he looked around a little but his mind is closed to all but the guitar right now.
@Anne18 (11036)
13 Nov 12
I think if he really wants to play for a living then he will find the means and session jobs and make it work for him. Its great that he has found something that he enjoys doing and can make it pay as well
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