laughing in the outside yet crying in the inside

@leeandrew (1226)
Philippines
November 13, 2012 10:45pm CST
..have you guys felt/feels/feeling that way? It's easy to pretend your doing good but only true friends knew the real feeling your feeling when you are with them. How about you guys... how about you today?
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
hi, when i was in a relationship with my ex lived in partner and broke up,its really hard for me to show physically that i am happy,yes i smiled and laugh but deep in my heart it was crying and painful,and now that i already moved on,i really smile now physically and emotionally.
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@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
I'm glad to hear that you are okay now and that you have moved on already, a lot of people with a broken relationship is normally like that. I did have a friend whom it took her a year or more before she finally got over him. It saddened me to see her hurting but life is like that, we need to fight the negative feelings we have inside caused by other people to enable us to live a... at least a good happy life. Mine is not caused with my relationship with my hubby actually, this is normally caused by people around me. Most of the time... the closest person to you... (friends)hurts you the most. Thank you for the comments. May you have a merry Christmas and a meaningful new year!
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
It is hard to pretend happy when you are hurting inside. But only those close to you knows that behind the happy face is a sad heart. As much as possible I do mask my inner feelings. I do not want to be bursting with tears every time. I feel fine today, not too stressed. Just a bit hot due to the weather.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
So true, but I think I have mastered that already. When I am with people that are not really my close I pretend that I am okay to best I can so that they would never know what I'm feeling about. I don't want them thinking things about me. I don't even want people not my close to feel sorry for me. hahaha. There were times that hubby and I had a really really huge fight, but since we went to work together, we showed people that we are doing good even though deep inside of us we don't want to see each other. We didn't even talk when we went home together but in the office we showed people that we are okay. We are great pretentious couple. hahaha. Happy that your doing good inside and out. God bless. Feel that way the whole day and you might get a higher pay here at mylot. :))
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
hahaha! You are so funny! Not everybody should know what you are feeling inside. I don' think it would be of any help if they know about it. I have mastered the art of pretending too! But, what can we do? We just need to put on the mask and go on with our lives. It is tiring enough to be put in such predicament plus I don't want to be explaining over and over about what might have caused my sadness.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
Thanks Jenny, Life is indeed a romantic-drama-comedy movie. We want to feel good with people we don't know or don't know about us for good impression. Yup.. we need to put the mask of our lives as long as we can and just reveal the true us with the people whom we know that as good to us. :)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
It's another ordinary day for me. I'm not that happy and I'm not that sad. You're right. True friends will notice if you're faking your happiness. Do you feel alright?
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
I'm good right now too. I'm good when hubby is around and not going somewhere. I really feel sensitive about a lot of things these days. There are times that I just pretend I don't care but I do really care. Yup, friends knows when we fake that big smile. I just thank God I have good friends. They not perfect but still I feel okay with them.
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• Philippines
16 Nov 12
Oh, I guess you are feeling a bit down. I hope you'll get over with it. I hope your hubby is always around so you'll always be happy. Yes, nobody's perfect. We're lucky to have good friends. Thanks for the reply and happy mylotting.
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
17 Nov 12
I can act and look formal when it comes to employment or business otherwise, I can't hide feelings at my age now though I'm less extreme and more of quiet practical so it's not so much of display
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Yup, educated and professional people usually do that, they can separate personal stuff from work, and I really admire them for that co's only few people can do such things. As for me I can do the opposite thing too when I'm really provoked or something I sometimes forgot about proper etiquette. I sometimes become confrontational if I cannot take it any longer. Thanks for participating on my discussion. God bless!
@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
Well we tend to be like that sometimes.Try to hide the really feelings as of the moment, pretend to be happy even though we are not to avoid affecting other people.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
SO true, we do that not only not to affect others but also not to look stupid in front of others. I think I am just too proud for pretending I'm okay when I'm really not with people I don't trust that much! :)
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I agree, only close friends and real friends knows what we really feel. I have friend who are very sensitive and they can sense when I am in trouble or when I am having a problem. I don't need to say a word- and they knew it.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
Actually with a friend, you don't have to open your mouth co's the feel it even if they don't hear it. Whenever I feel bad all I wanna do is sit down beside a friend of mine even without taking, their presence seems takes some of my bitter feelings away. I feel the same wit them too, whenever they are around and not taking I know something is wrong and I just asked them later when they are ready to open up but at least I made them know that I know something is not good with them. Friends are like coffee to make... they makes me feel better and get going! :)) Happy mylotting to you and God bless!
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
i have done this actually when my boyfriend and i broke up... i pretend to be okay to my friends and family but the truth is i`m really hurting inside,, the reason i`m doing this is because i don`t want them to feel sorry for me..
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
So true.. sometimes we do it because we don't like feel sorry for ourselves because other people is sorry for us. I think I am just a little proud that when sometime doesn't like me I pretend I don't care too but the real score is I'm really affected. What I do most of the time is I cry... a lot when no one sees of hears me co's after doing that I feel good again. Then I don't hang out with people who would make me feels sad or bad again. :)) Happy mylotting and God bless!
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
14 Nov 12
Sounds about like what I would do when I was still younger and learning. But nowadays I have decided that you can't blame people for treating you wrongly if you don't let them know exactly how you feel. So, I just say and show whatever I'm feeling for real. Sometimes honesty is dangerous, but it sure feels better knowing that there are no airs.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
Good for you. Your a brave person doing it. I made myself known when it's needed but I'm very private and I don't like people feeling sorry about me or talking behind my back about my issue specially if their opinions doesn't really matters with me. But I do am very vulnerable in front of my real friends. Honestly is a good thing... I mean a very good thing, but we need to be wise too on how and when to use it for the benefits of others and yourself. Thank you so much for commenting. God bless and happy mylotting.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I always do that. It is not that bad to pretend. And I think I do not define it as pretending. Laughing for sometime with your friend is just an escape for what is really your feeling and experiencing right away. That's sadness. It really felt great that even I am suffering from any hardships or difficulties I still can paint a smile on my face and still hide my tears.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
I don't think it's bad to pretend too, sometimes we need to do it for the sake of others and our sake too. As for me I just love to laugh with friends and it doesn't mean that I'm pretending I'm okay co's I really am okay when I'm laughing with them. I don't hide my frustrations with my friends too, I cry in front of them when I feel the need to do it, but when there are other people around that are not my close... that's the time when I suppress my feelings and I don't show my real emotions. Thanks for the comments, God bless and happy mylotting.