confession from my friend...

Philippines
November 14, 2012 4:30am CST
i am still in the state that my love relationship is come to end yet i am still hlding on hoping everything will be ok...in that time i feel so stress and down i met a friend... an ex seminarian guy that i know for awhile yet we dont know each other...i feel easy everytime i am with him as he comfort me with God's wisdoms and words...and even we didnt set an appointment we able to see each other, on the road, at the mall, infront of school, church or wherever...sometimes i tease him that he stalking me but it's all coincidence...now he confessing to me that he had a dream that he talk to virgin mary and virgin mary point her hand to me...telling him to love me...at first i am just laugh but i can sense the sincerity of his eyes and heart...and i know he will not dare to tell me lie...he is not the man i want or dream of in this life but i dont understand why everything is quite easy for us...all i know i do love my boyfriend still...just confuse...i know this relationship is not healthy anymore, and here someone willing to love me because of his dream...
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13 responses
• Malaysia
15 Nov 12
Maybe he does has feelings for you all along and told you about his dream as a way of telling and to ensure you that you are the one for him. Being a good friend, provided you with comfort, he shouldn't let you know about his dream. He knows you are having trouble with your boyfriend and yet he leads you to confusion. You mentioned that you still have hope for your current relationship. Just hold on to the man you really love, keep fighting and don't let go before it's over. If you are not meant to be together, it doesn't mean that your friend is the right one for you. It's great to be loved, but don't you wish to find out what you really want? I wish you all the best in your relationship.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
i think what needs to be done is to assess your relationship with your boyfriend first. why is it not healthy? why are you confused? before you entertain thoughts of accepting the love of the other guy, you have to settle the matters first with your boyfriend. if things are settled and you had decided to leave the relationship, then you can consider the other but for now, it is not wise to even entertain another man's love.
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
15 Nov 12
that is good atleast by this time he has commited about his love life and being totally frank,but some others would not do that eventually
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
16 Nov 12
I think that it would be a good idea to really think this through. Often times after a break up we need time to deal with all of our feelings. It's not a good thing to rush into a new relationship when we have just gotten out of a bad one. We need to give ourselves the time needed to find out what we really want. I have done the same thing though. Perhaps he really is a genuine and loving person. Just give yourself a little time because this could end up being a very serious relationship.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
wow!! what a nice story of your life. i guess you must take time to decide carefully. it's within your decision that lies your happiness. you say that you are comfortable with that guy, and you and your boyfriend's relation are not going strong.that dream maybe a signal guess. but i really don't know either what to do.. have your time to decide and do not push yourself.
@graysky (132)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
dreams are of many explanations,sometimes it gives us signs of things but it says also that dreams are products of our subconscious minds.as for your situation,i think you cant consider him just because of his dream.you have to feel the love freely.who knows maybe he is Gods gift for you.but as i said,u have to feel the love and its not as easy as that for u are still holding on to your past relationship.you have to learn to let go first.(that is if you really think there is no chance of reconciliation).
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
thanks for the kind words graysky...i am so thankful for that comment...as of now i cant decide...as i still love my bf yet its not healthy relationship
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
Oh, is he your soulmate? That's really confusing. I guess he won't lie about his dreams. I can't say that you should leave your boyfriend for him. LOL. I guess if you really love your boyfriend and he loves you too then you can't accommodate the other man. You should decide wisely.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
You are having issues with your boyfriend and this seminarian is temporarily filling in the gap. I think you should be honest to tell him how you really feel about your boyfriend and not to give him false hopes. Remember that he is about to serve God in a few years and he is in the stage of testing his loyalty to HIM. Help him realize that what he might be feeling towards you is just as a friend. And if he does feel something special for you, that he must re-evaluate himself if he really want to serve God or just become an ordinary man.
• India
14 Nov 12
Hi friend, you mentioned your love relationship already ended, then there is no use in thinking about your ex boy friend and wasting your time, as you mentioned your friend is real and you find the real love in his eyes, there is nothing wrong in accepting his love. Lot of coincidence made you both to meet each other frequently, so there is some power which made you to meet frequently, his love is a real one, so accept it. All the best
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I think you should take more time to decide whether to accept for his love or not and besides you are still in a relationship. You must fix your misunderstandings with your present boyfriend. Try to talk with him so that your relationship will not be hanging and you do not even know what is your status.Set aside your feelings first with the ex seminarian. You are just lonely and he was only the one who's with you now that you are alone and vulnerable.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 12
it nice that to know someone admired us. what can i see, now u are in relationship, in a relationship there are up and down. for me, u just need to face the problem first try to fix the problem before get more serious. about your friend's dream, some people can take their dream seriously. mayb u can explain to him about your relationship.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
14 Nov 12
Ouch tough decision to make but you can go through it i am sure. the dreams can't really mean what it seems. though its a very romantic dream and religious LOL. Do you think you really love your boyfriend? You can not have both. But you can have friend in the person of the new guy. You are in a current relationship and the other guy knows that.
• United States
15 Nov 12
It's best not to have too soft of heart strings in this world. People and life are too unpredictable.