how Iam ever going to manage this?

i am sorry to hear about your aunt. I have had a dream like that before too. How i would tell my son if it ever came up is to sit him down and just tell him. i know hes going through a hard time not being able to see his kids because of his ex and hes already depressed but the best thing you can do for him is just be there for him and let him know that whatever he needs you can help him with or at least try too help him with.

You will find a way to tell him. He would most likely want all the bad news at once, rather than stringing it out while trying to spare him. He'll be depressed but he will manage. I would think the worst is his kids. Everything else would not be as bad as not seeing your kid.

You will just do it, directly, as soon as you have the opportunity, to save him any more worry on that front. As far as your dream goes, this time of year we have lots of family memories and issues that we revisit, either awake or asleep. About those babies, why does he not petition for his rights to see them. You too. In most states grandparents have the right to see the grand children. The lack of sleep gets to be a vicious circle. You need to quit watching TV and working on the computer an hour or so before you want to sleep. Do something calming to relax. If you wake up in the night, try not to turn on any lights or keep them minimal and do not look in them much. You are training your brain not to sleep and your body is exhausted. Sometimes it takes a while to retrain your mind and body to do the right thing.

Hiya bunnybon, Just tell them the best way you can. You cannot do anymore than that if you keep listening to the other Family opinions you will be constantly be with a yes or no doubt in your mind. I have had to deliver this kind of news now more than once and if you win yourself "enemies" so be it there is just no other way out of it sometimes. Sometimes what you think is right could be all wrong for other people. I care not for those whom I have tried to be honest with and then they shut the door on me. Way I see it is that one day they might just trap their own fingers none of us is perfect. You go back to sleep bunnybon am sending you lots of love and peace and they are right you need to switch off the television and the computer just a bit before you go to sleep and unwind try it. Luvsya.xxx

Oh dear... this is really a painful situation to be in. But then, someone has to do it. And I guess you are the right person at the moment. Your son would need you more than anyone else at this time and hence you have to stay strong and composed. I dont know how would I react but then I know you are more stronger than me and more matured too. Prayers and wishes for you, dear bunnybon. Take care

Dear bunny, so many problems going on all at once. I'm sorry for your son in the passing of his father. You've been a good mother in that your kids are so close, even with different fathers. I think you're wise to wait a day or two before telling your son, just in case it is a rumor. But you may want to try and find out, as he may hear it from someone else. Much better to hear it from you. It's good that he's trying to get it together. I have a friend whose son is not allowed to see his little boy because of trouble with the law and a restraining order. It has been almost 2 years for him and he's been trying to set things right. He was living at home with his mother, my friend, but had to move out as the court would not allow her grandson to visit her if he lived there. He saw it was breaking his mother's heart not to see the little guy so he moved out. He also was not married to his son's mother. But back to you. It must be very difficult to sleep with all this going on. GG has, of course, given you excellent advice. She has a reputation for being wise. Here is an article that might help with the sleep issue http://earthclinic.com/CURES/insomnia.html#BBL I understand your son's problem and hope this doesn't cause him to sink into deeper depression. It must be very difficult for him. It's good that your daughter can be with you when you tell him. You should have someone there. Please come back and let us know how everything turns out. Your friends in mylot are concerned and we all care very much for you. I'm sorry I can't give you any more help than just with the sleep. In your place I truly don't know what I would do. But I will pray for you to find the right way. Be strong.

Sweety, I'm so sorry I wasn't here for you but I m really glad that you told him and things have seemingly worked out. Sometimes these situations bring out the love a family has for each other and I hope that your actions and your daughters are giving him what he needs. My heart to you dear one.

That is some bad news to report to your son. They will always be our babies no matter what.

I hate to hear that you and the family are suffering through such a rough time. It is times like these that I wish I could just jump through the computer and be there. It is hard to be haunted by loss and sometimes it seems it will never end..the pain. There are no words that will help you get through. Hold each other extra close during this time and know that someone in Tennessee is thinking about you.

It's been over a month now since you have posted this discussion. But I am hopeful that your son was able to cope up with all that has been happening to him.

It is really hard to face such a situation in life. It down your moral and psychological barrier that push you to mental stress and depression. However what has been destined can not be altered, we have to bear some things with a heavy heart and tearful eye. Let god give us enormous strength to face this side of life.