Love Problem..

Philippines
November 15, 2012 9:38am CST
i have been dating with my girlfriend for 3 years.. and i noticed that shes getting colder and colder, what should i do to make her happy and contented with me? i really love her and i dont want to lose her.. but i dont know if she felt the same way :(
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@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Nov 12
I don't want to be negative but brace yourself because it is possible that she may be falling out of love. People have different ways of dealing with things. Try to recall If I were you, I would gently talk this out with her and work something out. Hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
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• Chennai, India
16 Nov 12
The initial way how u started to become as a friend of her.
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• Philippines
15 Nov 12
ok maybe i should try talking to her.. but where should i start?
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• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Well, you have to spice up and bring back the spark. Maybe she felt that it is too boring lately. Maybe you didn't give enough time for her. That's my first guesses to why she is unhappy now.
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• Philippines
15 Nov 12
i really spend a lot of time with her.. in fact i just gave her a give yesterday, cuz yesterday was our 37th monthsary.. maybe ill try something new..
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• Greece
15 Nov 12
MAybe you should try to ask her if she has a problem or something is bothering her and assure her that you will always be there for her if she needs someone to talk to. Surprise her with a dinner or make a scrapbook and show it to her, remind her of your happy moments together.
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
back up a little and don't communicate for some time, see if she looks for you. Maybe she has taken you for granted because you are too focused on her. Or you can plan a special date together, something you haven't done before. And make sure it's a fun activity that is within her interest. If she doesn't respond to that, be honest and tell her how you feel. Be prepared for whatever she will respond and accept it.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
15 Nov 12
Id start by trying to figure out why after 3 years you 2 arent talking marriage.
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• Philippines
15 Nov 12
we are still not planning for that because its too early.. we are still in college.. she's too busy with her studies..
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@akagami (250)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 12
try to spend more time with her and you should make her happy,cause maybe she has a problem that you didn,t know
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• Philippines
17 Nov 12
Since you are on your 3rd year, both of have already the comfort level of your relationship. "Maintenance rituals" should be part of your relationship since during this stage there's a tendency that everything might turn into auto-pilot. This is because the hormones that gives excitement during the early stage of dating subsides and went back to its normal levels. To bring back the "spark", it would be great to break from monotonous activities and try to do something new. If you're not into video games, why don't you get a game console and set a mini-match. The loser needs to follow the consequence. Or for a change, instead of dining in your favorite restaurant, you can try other joints. There are so much things to do to spice things up. All you need is a little creativity and imagination. :-)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
The best thing is to talk to her about what she is feeling for you. Ask her if she still feels the same way towards you, if she still wants to be in your relationship or if there is anything that you have done that made here feel distant. I think that having a good communication can help you have a better relationship. You should also think real hard when did she start having these mood. Don't you think you must have done or said something that has upset her? If she would say that she is no longer wanting to be with you (God forbid), then I think you should just allow her to let it be. You can not force anyone to love you if they no longer feel the same way.