36 and staring over again.

@freedomg (1684)
United States
November 16, 2012 5:25am CST
On 10/29 I gave birth to my 5th baby, exactly 20 years and 2 weeks after my first and boy is it different this time around. My others are 19, 13, and 9 years old so I didn't think it had been so long that it would be this different but I was soooo wrong. Every thing including the pregnancy and birth was a whole new experience. As a woman that has always had smooth pregnancies in the past I was caught completely off guard when I developed gestational diabetes and just about every other strange little pregnancy glitch there is.We won't even go into the crazy birth as I'm sure most of you would prefer to not hear the details. :) Now that my little man is here I thought "Hey, I'm an old pro. I've so got this".... Yeah I don't remember being this tired or having such a hard time getting my house clean with the others. Or maybe I just didn't care as much back then, either way it's very strange to me. The funny part is that he is so laid back and only wakes up twice a night to eat and get changed. He doesn't even cry when he does, he just grunts at me and then waits. Has anyone out there had a similar experience? I would love to hear your story.
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@emerillus (477)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Congratulations on your newborn! I know every child is special and if God is willing I'll have another baby in 5 years' time. Right now I'm still struggling (LOL) with my 8-month old boy and last night he fell ill. No sleep for me last night. Anyway, I know having no sleep at all is normal for mothers. Someday I hope I'll have a baby girl.
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Dec 12
Ahh the lack of sleep. This is what my mother used to describe as the first step into the insanity that motherhood causes all women. Apparently she believed that one must be insane to not only make it as a mother but to also enjoy it. I hope you do get your little girl, they are very different from boys but be warned... they are usually all about Daddy for the first few years. Then around 6 or so they figure out we are the cool ones.
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@marie2052 (3697)
• United States
24 Dec 12
I always considered the nighttime feedings very special no interference just special mommy and baby time. That seemed more precious than my sleep!
• India
5 Dec 12
Yes, A lady is getting very happy when she given birth to a child. It is very fun while looking to small eyes of the child. He may be telling to you a Big thanks. But is right time to have a baby now at 36. 36 is not nothing. But having own children who is age 19, 13 etc. What the metured children will think about you? Any way I think the other children will be very happy to have this small member. The elder will be a very kind helpful to you. Am I right? Any please give a lovely kiss to the little one.
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Dec 12
The older ones were a little confused as to why I would want another one at first. Then I explained that they were all turning out to be such wonderful people that I couldn't resist making another like them to keep me company as they start to leave the nest one by one. They got it then and all love the baby very much. Yes the older ones do help though they have to fight my 9 year old daughter for time with him. She says that she will be the one living with him long after they have all left home and so it is more important for her to get bonding time with him. I love watching her with him. She has even been peed on while helping me give him a bath and didn't freak out too bad. As for the kiss it has been delivered, thank you.
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@ARIES1973 (9436)
• Legaspi, Philippines
17 Nov 12
Hi friend! I gave birth at the age of 22 and 26 respectively. Now my eldest is 17 years old already. My youngest who is a girl is also a teenager already and I cannot even hug her anytime that I want. I also miss the feeling of having a baby but I'm afraid I might not be able to handle it especially now that I am already 39. Although it doesn't show that much he he, (defensive). I remember I told myself before that if ever I would give birth again, I will see to it that I am stable with my job already. My friends said I can still do it. Hopefully. I also want to have another baby. Have a nice day!
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Dec 12
If you truly want this you can do it. Having a new baby is hard work at any age I feel it is the love we have for our child that gives us the drive we need to get through what ever needs to be done. What ever you decide I hope you find joy and peace in your life.
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@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
Having a big year gap in giving birth is like being pregnat again the first time. So they say. I wonder what happened to your gestational diabetes now? I think your new baby is adorable, so are the newly borns. He is silent and don't make you wake up much at night.
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Dec 12
My sugar woes disappeared within hours of the birth. Crazy right!?! I am still trying to watch my carb intake though as both my mother and grandmother had type 2 diabetes and the dr. said that this could have been a warning that I may share their fate in the near future if I don't take care of myself. I only need one warning personally. Also I must agree that my baby ,and all newborns, are too adorable. Thank you
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@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
I only have one child as of now. and i can tell that being pregnant and being a mother is not an easy task, you will have to adjust everything and be more responsible to your family. it is a lifetime responsibility but somehow being a mother makes me complete. the joy that my child brings is unexplainable. as of now i have no plans yet on making our family big since we struggling for financial issues but i look forward on having atleast two children :)
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Dec 12
yes children can bring such a sense of being whole and true joy to a woman's life. I hope you get to have the family you dream of.
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
I'm still 30 and just had my 2nd baby. The only thing we were concerned about was my recurring UTI, and nothing more. My husband was a menopausal baby. Her mother got pregnant with him after 11 years from his older brother, and she was 40+. It must have been an experience for her, too. But, he grew up healthy, intelligent and very good natured person. I could just imagine how their mother handled all 4 boys, plus another baby boy at that age.
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Dec 12
No kidding that was one tough lady.
@soraya452 (127)
16 Nov 12
They do say that older mothers find it harder, this is because our bodies use up more energy more quickly. My friend had a very similar situation to yours. As time goes on it will get easier, just remember to take each day as it comes and enjoy your children.
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Dec 12
Oh yeah I am sucking up every little moment I can. The first 2 grew up so fast and I feel like I missed so much. Not letting a thing slip by with the ones I have left.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 12
If I have the chance to bring another life to this world I would gladly do it despite all the hellish pain of labour. Unfortunately my biological clock has ticked away so fast and I have to be complacent with my two adult kids. I know every pregnancies varies. Having a long gap from the last pregnancy and being in the 30s can make a lot of difference compared to young mothers. But babies born from older women are easier to look after.
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Dec 12
"But babies born from older women are easier to look after." I had never heard that before buy I will say he is a very laid back little guy so I'll have to agree so far.
• India
6 Feb 13
Thanks for this discussion Why you maintained such a long gap? Here in my country the couples go for just one or 2 kids, and this is over in the first five years of marriage, this is advisable as they can support you.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
8 Dec 12
Hi Freedomg, Congrats on your new little son!! I can totally relate to your story. I was 38 almost 39 when I had my youngest daughter! I had no trouble with the birth but oh..what a new experience and I can't even tell you how much color this child added to our lives. I was a single mom with 3 girls already and this one..well lets just say, she was not planned.My others were 7, 8 and 16. Still, wouldn't change it for the world. She is now 18 and living on her own across the country from me. She is coming home for the holidays and I can't wait to see her. Enjoy your little man while you can. They really do grow so quick and it's all true...seems that time passes faster as we get older. Just cherish it.