Will you search for an inter-caste Love?? How many of you support this???

@Dassodils (2010)
India
November 17, 2012 12:01pm CST
hai friends... Some of my friends are in love with some girls in other caste and religion.Do you think that will happen peacefully??? or is it possible?? I do not think so and I will not support them.Some people says that love have no eyes..means it is blind.But if it happens,that lovers think that all thing will be forgotten by the boys family.But I am sure that that girl will suffer every time.I had seen many examples.If a chance gets,the mother of boy will surely pin her by saying old things..So I will not support any type of love marriages..If I get a chance to love any one,I will try to be practical to get marry by arranged marriage.I will not make my parents happy.. What about you dear friends?????
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11 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
18 Nov 12
I think it depends on the person. everyone has different feelings about love.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
23 Nov 12
ya..then dont you have any view on love??
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Love is not made for kings and queens only , it is not made for brilliants only , it is not made for the poor only , love is made for everybody. All have the right to life and love. Love doesn't observe any religion , casting , tradition or status . In the realm of love all are in fair share but i don't know why some tribe don't observe this. If two people love each other , then why can't they respect it ! The family is more on what others say and parents anticipates the ambiance of the relationship! So very judgmental , why can't they let their children live their own life , let them choose , give them chance to prove themselves. Parents must be there as a guide and support.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
23 Nov 12
yaa..That is correct..But if there is a problem in the after life,The parents will not be in a good condition because of thinking their son/daughters life..If that persons found by the parents,there will be them to solve the problem in a good manner..
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
18 Nov 12
I have had an intercaste marriage. I am a Christian and my husband a Hindu. Its been nearly 25 years of marriage now and except for the initial problems I get along very well with my inlaws. My husband is no more now but my rapport with my inlaws is still very good. I still visit them and sometimes spend a day with them. Finally marriage is about two individuals and thier families and how they adjust to one another. Religion should not be a problem in this at all.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
23 Nov 12
Thank you for your opinion Mayka..You have experience..The lovers will not think about the caste.They will just love..But after the all thing,when the situation comes,they will surely suffer..I support lovers.But they have to consider the sadness of their parents..
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
17 Nov 12
Personally, I believe a caste system is ridiculous. You can't predict who you will fall in love with. I realize, in your country, that is how things are done, but I totally disagree on a cast system and arranged marriges.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
23 Nov 12
But till now,In my country,80 percentage people believe only in arranged marriage.The educated people too support this.Then how can we blame others??
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
17 Nov 12
If you go for love you go for love. Love has nothing to do with caste or relgion, culture or the colour of your skin. It sounds to me you are not going for practical but for what sounds to you the most easiest way. Nothing to fight for, not getting in trouble for the love or your life, a society who will keep accepting you. I think if it comes to real love you will change your opinion. Love is not blind, falling in love is blind. Love needs time to grow. After falling in love you will start to love.. and you will not be blind anymore. Since many people are not blind anymore at a certain point their relationship is getting harder. What they first thought was attractive suddenly is the most annoying habit of their partner! It's proved it works that way, also the body skin of the partner many find a good reason for a divorce. For some reason we are less aware of that at the very first start.. the moment we are in love. I think if you are happy, no matter what you choose, you will make your parents happy as well. At least it should be that way. BTW I never got married out of love. My first marriage was a disaster and after all these years I am still sooo happy I divorced that man. It was the best thing I ever did. I did re-marry December last year. Also for other reasons. I don't think I will ever get married out of love. It's just not me plus I love to be alone and I want some time for me, which I never had and probably won't have either :-(
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
23 Nov 12
I see..Nice to know about you wakeupkitty..I wish you a best life in future.God will surely help you..May your life filled with joy and happiness..
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
17 Nov 12
It really depends upon the family and the couple. Because everyone has their own ideas about how the relation should be and what they love to do in life. some may not like it that way,they prefer arranged marriage with lots of dowry. While some may like the love marriage. Finally everyone should be happy that's how it should be.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
23 Nov 12
Ya... I wish that means the happiest life..But in most cases,The family will not support them because of their shameness..I had seen may cases that destroyed like such love marriages..
• India
19 Nov 12
love is a thing that does not happen according to the caste ans this caste system is a man-made thing to get divided this is a common practice in india about caste but once u fall in love there is nothing u care about to get the loved one whether boy or girl but the real problem starts with the family is so difficult to face so if u dont want to make ur parents unhappy then go for arranged marriage
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Nov 12
I am a person that believes in marriage for love as opposed to marriage because the person that you are to be married to is a person that is in the right class, of the right religion and has the right career. When my husband and I met, we really did come from two different places, he was one who worked blue collar jobs and really hadn't developed a religious faith in his life. However, we've been together for almost eleven years now and we've been married for over eight years and I couldn't imagine myself being any happier with any other person in the world.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
19 Nov 12
No problem in inter caste love but everyone should check the background because now lie people are more than honest. They say lie when fall in love but after we found actually they were wrong.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
18 Nov 12
I think you just have to find a compromise solution. but sometimes you have to look at our life as we live with this person and we must to appreciate that it is for us or not. There are many cases in which just spoil some wonderful families and great links. difficult sometimes you just have to stand and live our lives as they see fit. dislike selected marriages are settled just why it is not a love that is the best feeling to marry or marry for love. interesting discussion my friend congratulations!
@robspeakman (1700)
18 Nov 12
I do not think it matters the class, religion, colour, race or even gender when it comes to deciding on who you want to spend the rest of your life with - I would also go as far as saying that when you have these pre conditions on your future partner - it is more likely to fail