Friend Hitting on the guy I like

Greece
November 17, 2012 6:30pm CST
What would you do if a friend of you started flirting with the guy that you like? I know it is not right to ruin a friendship just because of a guy but if the other person doesn't care about your feeling, you will feel betrayed twice. My friend is a natural flirt but I did not know that she will do the same thing to me as she does with other girls. Do you still I should still hang out with her? I like her but I don't like that she did not care about my feelings at all. And it's not that he's the only guy that she fancies. She flirt with other guys as well. And that guy is all I'm asking for her to spare.
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11 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
23 Nov 12
You should have a talk with her and let her know how you feel. That you don't appreciate the way that she doesn't care about how you feel about the guy and that she is flirting with him. You are right though it is not wise to ruin a friendship over a guy but she should still be considerate of your feelings.
@jacelle (14)
21 Nov 12
I think you should confront her and tell her what you are feeling. But then face her honestly and politely so that she will understand. Both of you should decide on what step to take to save your friendship. I think that your friend should also be considerate and sensitive of what you feel if she is really considers you as her friend.
@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 12
That is quite thoughtless of your friend. Does she know that you like the guy she was flirting with? If she intentionally flirts with him even though she knows you like him then I must say she is not a friend you'd like to hang out with. It seems like she wants everything for herself and won't leave anything for you.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Does your friend know that you like that guy?If she does, then you better try to avoid her. she is not counted as a good friend,she must be aware that you will be hurt for that but definitely she did. and i think she really don't care about you.But before making your moves, you must first clear things out. Have a talk with her about your feelings and have a deal.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Openness and honest confrontation is the best thing that you should do. On the other hand, if you and the other person you like have no relationship then you must admit that you don't have the right on him...you can choose to think taht way to avoid being hurt.
@kat_2x (105)
20 Nov 12
if shes really your friend she will listen to you.. try to talk to her..
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
18 Nov 12
I have seen that a lot , I have a friend like that . I remember one time a guy that like but my friends start bad mouthing the guy same time . The next week I see her sending message to the guy , I was shock but I keep my cool since I wasn't really interested but she dindt know that and she still go ahead. That is when I realize my friend is like that , another time my other girl friend have a crush on a guy and she was telling me how she saw the guy naked when she stay back at school and how hot he was . I mean she know my friend really like the guy and she started flirting with him any ways. We had to call her out and that is when she stop doing it . Maybe yu should tell her how you feel and you need her to stop being a Bi$%h
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
I think that a good friend should always be sensitive towards the feeling of the other. It is clearly unethical for her to be flirting to that guy when he know that you like the guy. What is she trying to prove? Is she competing with you? I am sorry, but even though it seems shallow to break the friendship just because of some guy, I think there is more to it than that. a friend should make a friend feel good and not the other way around.
@Shavkat (136860)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
That's not a good thing to do, especially to a friend. You can just talk to her about your concern. I am sure she take consideration.
@cgicale (137)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Hi Olivetree27, This really hurts. I haven't experienced that yet but putting myself on your shoes I would really feel bad and betrayed. Well what I can say is that 'friend' of yours is not really a true friend. A true friend not only cares about what you feel but also shares your pain and not causes you pain. What she's doing is the latter. If you already asked her to spare the guy you like and she keeps on flirting with him at the same time she flirts with other boys then she doens't respect you at all. What she's only concerned about is herself. She may be a good company but it seems she's not really a good friend.
@gunsing (142)
• Indonesia
18 Nov 12
well.... if that guy that you like is not yours yet, then he's "on public offer" means anyone can get close to him. in spirit of competition, yes you can stay away from that flirting friend, specially never bring that "guy" anywhere close to her until you really have him. if someday he becomes your boyfriend/husband, and she still get on your man, then you can punch her on her face.