How well do you get along with different groups

United States
November 17, 2012 8:07pm CST
How well is your social skill ? these people tend to get a long with almost anyone , I do this when I am working but I recently started doing this in my real life . So I join a club the other day and OMG , awkward at first I had to throw myself in there and mingle lol . How well do you get along with different age groups, I find that most my friends are my age group. When joining that club I had to deal with all age group and I give everyone a chance even when they first seem boring to me . It was fun after I decide to put myself out there and give everyone a chance even if we have nothing in common . I was lucky to find people with things in common with me . So how do you approach meeting people for the first time ? joining a new club , team , new in a class . How well do you get a long with people from different age group ?
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
When I was younger, although I could talk to people from different "classes", I shy myself away from them. I just am not that comfortable to be around people most especially those who seem to be a "know it all". But as I grew older, I have learned to mingle with different people. I guess my work in the pharmacy has helped me in dealing with different kinds of people- from customers to medical representatives to inspectors and to other kinds of people. Just being yourself and knowing somehow that you have something in your brains to share with others made me a bit braver in facing them.
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• United States
18 Nov 12
I still dont like those people "know it all" and will not spend time around them . I will tolerate certain people only if I have to like my supervisor lol he think he can never be wrong. Yes I learn how to mingle with people and keep my real emotion hidden while on the job . Well you are working with them so you earn your place despite what anyone want to say . Continue to face them and be yourself . Have a good day
@ARIES1973 (9533)
• Legaspi, Philippines
18 Nov 12
Hi silverfox! I am a person who smiles a lot! So even if I don't do the first move, people will come to me to ask if I could be friend to them. I learned this thing, I mean smiling more often, when I worked in the appliance store several years ago. I have no idea that time that I would be needing it more now that I am dealing with people.
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• United States
18 Nov 12
Sound like me , I love to smile also especially when I am new and have nothing to say but a smile lol ... Smiling is a universal language , works all the time . When people try to be my friend I still try to observe them and talk to others before accepting to be their friend . Especially because this group is work related .
• United States
18 Nov 12
I can't remember the last time I've been with a group of people my age. I'm seventeen (eighteen in less than a month now) and in the army and in college. Everyone I'm around is often several years older than me. My fiance is twenty, but even both of our friends are older than us. And our fellow soldiers are older. As are my classmates. We both do have friends our age group, but not a lot. And I can get along well with anyone of any age, race, religion, etc. If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. :)
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• United States
18 Nov 12
Same here moto , nice to me and ill be nice to you lolz... at work everyone seems to be older and in the group . I get a long with people from all age but I really socialize with people with similar interest so even if they are older are younger with common interest I dont mind . If a person is going to make me fall asleep while hearing their story , I will not stick around for round two . What about your friends from high school ? dont you hang with them when you are off work ? I cant imagine joining the army , my high school friend is now in the US navy but he is a guy .
• United States
18 Nov 12
Hi Silverfox! I'm very quiet as well before I get to know anyone. I'm shy and it takes a while before I can warm up to anyone. When I join a group, and it's very rare, I take my time before I even open my mouth.
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• United States
18 Nov 12
I do that also , I try to observe everyone before making my move . I think when you are new its good also because no one know you and they are comfortable talking to you . That ways you can get to know who is who .
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
I can get well with other people but I rather be not much into it. I don't know, I am just not comfortable with it. I'd rather be alone or be with my friends. I wish I could join a club too that has same interests with me . You get to share different ideas with them and maybe improve
• United States
18 Nov 12
Yes its nice to join a group/club with similar interest as you do. This group will definitely help me in the future with my career development .
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• United States
18 Nov 12
I am quiet till I get to know them. hen after that I am alive and kicking and we have lots of laughs and fun. I don't like to be in crowds at all but sometimes I need to be in one or two.
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• United States
18 Nov 12
I dont like being in big crowd and especially when I am new and have no connection to the group . Having to walk in and seeing everyone looking at you like what! lol . I have to give myslef some pet talk.
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• Philippines
18 Nov 12
First before going in to other groups of people i make myself feel ease to them getting their groove before trying to mingle with them fully like rubbing shoulders. I keep in mind to know their history well before having a conversion to such groups. I asked people who knows them well and then try to hear their side of the story before sharing mine as well. in that way, we can get more information from one another and knowing more on their cultures as well as mine.
• United States
18 Nov 12
Yes I try to sum them up so you know who you is best to mingle with . Talking to all who approach you pleasantly while figuring them out , after a small conversation they will leave a impression on your mind . I think you have a good approach when dealing with new people . Thank you for responding .
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
You are very much welcome, yeah i usually do this to get to know the person without making them uneasy with my approach. :D
• United States
19 Nov 12
I think its the way to go because people dont like people that come on too strong .
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
24 Nov 12
I usually can handle a different group than my own. But for a period of time then get tired of them. I remember in college we use to do this while there are different groups, and one girl I just cringed at her sitting down as she was very bossy and her way. I just ignored her completely, and it seem to be alright.
• United States
25 Nov 12
Lol you get tired of them , some people really can really make anyone fall asleep listening to them . Whenever I have to deal with different group , or force to work with people I normally hate to be around and the bossy ones, I try to get things done fast and thank God its over before I let him/her know how annoying they are .
• Indonesia
23 Nov 12
I can mingle with people from different ages especially when we have something in common. People in my craft group comes from different age and background but we can get a long so well. I can mingle with people from different ethnicity and religion because I don't care who and where they come from or what religion they belief in. Age, ethnicity, religion is never a problem for me in making friends as long as we respect each other. Yes it is fun to know people from different age we can learn from each other, just like here on mylot
• United States
24 Nov 12
I believe so also , talking to people from all social background and age group are a nice way to learn about new things . I also respect people from different religion , I dont mind hearing about what they do .
@lampar (7597)
• United States
19 Nov 12
I get along well with different age group. I always respect their viewpoints, and never try to impose my view on them, there is always something in common between me and them, after all, we are all part of the human race and members of intelligent life form on earth. There is not much of a difference once you consider age is just a symbol of number represent the number of years you had live on earth.
• United States
19 Nov 12
I respect that , we all have different view point because we all are from different time and will not change but that is not necessary a bad thing . I get a long with all age group but I happen to get along better with people my age group because of the interest we share and if they are nice to me i am also nice to them . I agree age is symbol but it represent a different time and some people dont really like change , so that can be a the problem people face when trying to find a common ground .
@KrauseHome (35026)
• United States
19 Nov 12
Personally it really depends on who they are. I know I consider myself pretty good with people around my own age, or women within my church, as long as it is not something always doing with children. But then there are times I try to befriend and act friendly with people in their 20s and most of them consider me as old so do not want to relate.
• United States
19 Nov 12
I also consider myself good around people my age and children . I think when some people dont relate well with older people is because they don't want to be judge so they dont relate well . I relate well also with older and younger people but i think most of us find thing in common with people our own age .
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
19 Nov 12
Hi, I am talkative person and I always like to mix up with other people. I have many friends. I don't feel awkward talking with other people first time. I can make friendship with any age group. I like to play with small children and I like to talk with old people. I haven't join any club. I can adjust myself with any group.
• United States
19 Nov 12
You sound like the people I love being around , I love people talk talkative because I am quite but I am always interested in people that are more talkative than I am . I am talkative but not as much in front of new people only when necessary .
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
19 Nov 12
Well I try to know their personalities and value of life. So I could know someone can be friends with me while some can't, these all need us to be an optimistic person in our life and that works anyway wherever you are, lol. I'd love to join some groups while we can make friends, so being nice is really important during relationshops. Hopefully this will help.
• United States
19 Nov 12
Yes being nice is important , I am normally nice when a person is nice to me . knowing their personality is something I try to figure out .
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
19 Nov 12
I usually dont have any trouble getting along with in different groups. I like to be among others who are different at times, it makes life interesting.
• United States
19 Nov 12
That is true , sometime we have to change up how we act and see whats going on the other side . Up on joining this group I am dealing with different people . Its interesting because it give me a lot to laugh about when I get home lol
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
I'm not much of a mingler but I usually stick with friends or people I know which is not good. Usually events have shows or programs so I just sit and watch, wave and smile when I see friends but I don't go around introducing myself.
• United States
19 Nov 12
Sometimes some situation call for you to introduce yourself , find out about the person of interest so you can approach them without making it look too obvious . I dont really like going around smiling with strangers lol but I will when I want something . I much rather stick with friends and people from my circle but sometime your circle change up and you have to adapt quickly.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
18 Nov 12
I have no problem with different groups. I meet them every day every where (at the school of my kids, on the street, I travelled a lot, etc). But this does not mean I am a very social type plus need to be in the middle of attention or even like it. I prefer to stay home and be with me, or my kids. If I join a club or so it's because of a certain interest so it's easy to talk about the same interest. The rest is not interesting to me.
• United States
18 Nov 12
Yes we come across different group everyday , but I think we tick more to a certain group , like groups with similar interest . When talking to people are summing them up to see if they like somethings you like are will they get boring after two lines.
@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
I was picky and very shy during my high school years and until college in social groups. It was mainly because I was insecure of my looks - I had a bit of acne, was too slim, had less energy, and wore tomboyish clothes. Personality-wise I wasn't the extrovert type. I only slowly got my confidence back after I had facial sessions with the dermatologists and had money to buy my own set of clothes. I didn't have the need to be shy with other people after that because of that great change and I could find I could speak my mind when asked and adjust to different types of groups, whether it be at work or just random strangers.
• United States
18 Nov 12
I think I am still picky even though I socialize with almost everyone , I only become friends with a small group . I am the girly type and I like certain thing , and i have to share something in common with a person to get pass just socializing with them to becoming friend . I always speak my mind and complain if I feel to, some people just follow the crowd and always fearful of speaking out .