True love need not to be together all the time.

China
November 17, 2012 9:13pm CST
True love need not to be together all the time,two beloved people also need communication and understanding on spirit. They should respect each other's living style,and have their own character and world. They will not drown each other by love.Because too much dependent on the other,especially excess occupation on each other's body,time,space,and materials,is not love.It is an expression of not independent both on body and mind. If we fall in love with somebody,we should not show occupy and control,but to find common things in spirit.
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@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Definitely! But somehow most of the lovers misunderstands the true meaning of love. That's why many of us fails on love and did not work well. They must set sometime to their selves also,sometimes distance makes love grow.
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• China
18 Nov 12
Maybe the so-called distance is comparative. If the lovers in two city one country, that can be ok! but if two of them live seperately in almost two countries, so how hard the relationship can be!!
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@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Well i guess your right in some point. But i think it depends on the persons involve on how they keep their love alive even when their apart.
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• China
18 Nov 12
Can you give me some suggestions about how to keep the love alive?? I will be appreciated!!
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
19 Nov 12
You make some good points. It is a good thing to love someone and allow them their space and time. This is definitely easier when a couple has similar interest. A relationship takes work and commitment. But it's considerate to allow your partner time to pursue their interest.
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• United States
22 Nov 12
Yeah making a relationship work does take time. It is easy to fall in love but staying in love is another thing. People fall in and out of love so easily. We want to strive to stay in a relationship and make it work if we can. The best way to do that is by knowing these things ahead of time.
• China
21 Nov 12
Thanks for your sharing dominique,you are right we should have comments and we also should have our own interests, love is not an easy thing.
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@rubyroy (824)
• India
7 Dec 12
True love is not getting control of the other but giving space and freedom that will help the other person to improve and to grow.True love is not bondage but freedom in the fullest measure.
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• China
12 Dec 12
You are right rubroy,we should not create bondage in front of our love but to give it freedom.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 12
yes, there is not worth to control, i have learn the lesson, maybe i just want him for me. at last, i loss him. but now i try not to be so control, with my age now, i need to me more mature
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• China
21 Nov 12
Thanks for your sharing ungu,we also should pay more attention to ourselves not just our feeling but our job and hobby.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 12
yes, sometime if they don't like they ways that we always want to control, then they will look for other girl. maybe just because u feel insecure, until he become yours
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
18 Nov 12
So agree Gretchen. If it is true love it is there. No control no changes. If one needs to be controlled, he controls himself because he knew that this may hurt her. Yes, space is important in the relationship. Too much "into it" suffocates one. Good discussion. Way to go
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• China
19 Nov 12
I like what you said Mavic,you are right there's no control in love,if you want to control the other,you just control yourself.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
28 Dec 12
Thanks for agreeing withme, Gretchen. Thanks for choosing my my response as the best I do appreciate it
@oscavu (10)
18 Nov 12
What if one of the persons in the relationship has such tendencies, do you quit or do counsel them?
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• United States
18 Nov 12
I think the feeling should be mutual , if you love being with your partner and they love it just as much then nothing is wrong remember every love is unique and what dont work for another may work for you so never listen to most people when it comes on to matter of the heart . You will know if its right are wrong because your partner is not a puppet so they will let you know .
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• China
21 Nov 12
Thanks for your sharing silverfox,you are right that love is a mutual thing,anyway I think we'd better find a man with a high responsibility then he would not easily give up.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
18 Nov 12
I think true love always find a way to make things work , it could be separate and still strong are they cant stand being apart and still strong as a rock . I think when falling in love , we know the person , personality and thats what we fall in love with if we latter have a problem and want them to change something is wrong in that picture . That is what I think .
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• China
21 Nov 12
I quite agree with you that love always find a way to make things work, if there's no love control is no need; if we really love each other we don't need control.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
19 Nov 12
True love never needs to be pampereed/ it is there tp guide us through any trilka or endeavor. true love needs to be felt all of the time but doesn;t necessarily mean that every waking momeny must be spemt together.
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• China
21 Nov 12
You are right, "love him" is not the the same as "have him".All of us not just belong to a person but also ourselves, our family members, our friends, and the society.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
19 Nov 12
You are right true love need not to be together all the time. The two persons should understand the feeling of each other.
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• China
21 Nov 12
That's true, we should not just pay attention of our own feelings but also the other's.
• India
18 Nov 12
One or the other way you are right, but the problem with two people in love is that they will definitely involve in each others decision so that the decision may be right but it may have some troubles regarding that ,so the other person(he/she) will interfere in the decision making process because the person(she/he) cares for the other. true love exists but the problem with people around and the todays generation makes it difficult to trust each other. communication and understanding , trust plays very important role in a relationship until the couple are true to each other , love will be forever between them.
• India
18 Nov 12
Hi friend, i agree with you. Love is a great feeling, we must give equal importance to our lover and don't try to dominate them. Both are equal, no one is superior and no one is inferior.
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• China
21 Nov 12
That's true, equal also can be used in love, don't just wait for love, but give love.
@Tongcv (172)
• China
20 Nov 12
Yes,as long as they're in love with each other on the line,do not do disservice to the other things.
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• China
21 Nov 12
You are right, if we really love each other, we should try to avoid disservice.
@Smokinq (41)
• Bulgaria
18 Nov 12
Indeed, there are different people and different love Many jobs depend on people How long are together But it is shown that when less people get bored with less But there are those who can not live without each other However such a great love is rare Most importantly, they trust Be found in the relationship and in the relationship Just so it will last even off
• China
21 Nov 12
Thanks for your sharing, you are right people are not the same as each other, so love is the same.
@glenng01 (71)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
True love need not be suffocating. It needs space for it to grow more.
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• China
21 Nov 12
That's glenng,we need to give each other more love instead of control.
• China
18 Nov 12
Yeah, the distance between each other is very important, It will make you feel dull if it's too close and isolated if it's too far away.
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• China
21 Nov 12
That's right, so we should not make distance as a barrier between each other.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
18 Nov 12
for sure it is the quintessential part and we need to spend quality time with each other in the long run
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• China
19 Nov 12
You are right for a long run relationship we also should spend more time with who we love.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
18 Nov 12
I dont believe true love exists , and neither it existed in the past. People just want companions along with money and other things. so they be with one another. I have seen people who love a boy /girl and inquire about the property/money they have to settle . Now is it called true love . Hmm perhaps not in my opinion. But they got married and living together. Now where is the love here? they saw/concerned about the comfort here.
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• China
19 Nov 12
You are right prashu,more and more desire in this society,all of us can't avoid this,however,if we don't believe in true love,we can never encounter it,sometimes we need to try to accept this world then we would live better.
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Me and my boyfriend are not together all the time but, we know and we feel that we really love each other despite of the distance we have. :)
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• China
19 Nov 12
Thanks my friend, I admire that you can keep such a nice relationship with your boyfriend,though there's distance between you. I really need to learn.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Yes, that is absolutely right. Me myself believes in a long distance relationship that works. It will work if the two persons are really brave to face the challenges between their relationship and love each other distantly. The two lovers doesn't need to be together always. They need to be distant sometimes for them to be able to know more their selves and their strengths without depending with each other.
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• China
19 Nov 12
That's true when we really in such a distance we should have the courage to face the distance,thanks kokomo.
@sousen (5)
• India
18 Nov 12
This is True, love means not to stay together, it's two people those understand each other correctly.
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• China
19 Nov 12
That's true we need to understand each other in love.