Have you ever met this situation?

China
November 18, 2012 7:32am CST
I have a friend,and he have a girl friend.And they love each other so much. The boy is a engineer,and the girl is a college student. They have been in love for three years.And they originally intended to girl after graduation from the University they get married.But when the girl is graduate,the school has decided to send the girl go abroad to study abroad.The girl wanted to refuse,but her parents and school are not agree.They told her it's the best chance for her. Now,the girl and the boy don't kown what to do.Could you help them?
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19 responses
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
That's difficult because they already set their minds to marry after she graduates but then I don't see anything wrong with taking the chance of stuyding abroad, it could be good for her career. Besides, true love waits. It's hard though. A good future for the girl is also important. If he loved her, he will go with whatever decision the girl makes and respect that. He'd let her go and then welcome her back when her studies are over.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
I am somewhat in the same situation. My boyfriend plans to leave the country next year after his board exam so he can join his mom in Australia. It would be terribly lonely for us but we know he did it for the best. He said he'll come back for me and I'm willing to wait. But also, during the time that he will be gone I will sort out my life too and preoccupy myself with the things I need to do.
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
18 Nov 12
Sounds awful , it seem the universe try to fight against love . Can the girl study locally ? I think if she can and want to she should regardless of what the school say . She may have to get a work if her parents cut her off and get scholarship are something to pay her tuition fee .
• United States
18 Nov 12
They need to sit as a couple and think about what is better because it will mean making a sacrifice . Will she give up the over seas experience and just study locally are she can say good bye to love and go head on for her career .
• India
2 Dec 12
i think that the guy should understand and if he really love her than he must also force her to go abroad, it would realllly hard hard for him but he must not compromise her studies and should wish her "all the best" and be in touch with her on facebook or any social or phone stuff. And he should also concentrate on his studies to take a step forward towards his and her future life.. By the way it would be really hard to do this for him but he should mantain a balance between HEART and MIND.
• Greece
20 Nov 12
If they really love each other, distance wouldn't matter. I know it's easy as it may sounds because a lot of thing can happen if they're apart. But the girl's parents are right. It's a good opportunity for her to go abroad and she can't waste her chance because of a guy. She should think of her future too and her career. Because if she chooses the guy she will regret that she chooses the guy over a good future. Why don't they get married before the girl leaves? The guy is an engineer meaning he has a good career. He cannot deprive the girl for having a chance to follow her dreams. If they lasted for three years. For sure, this is just one problem that they can survive.If the guy loves the girl, he will think of the best for her. Goodluck to your friend and I wish them the best.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
One good opportunity seldom comes back and I think that the girl should grab that chance, anyway she is still young and widening her horizon will surely help her in the future. If their relationship is strong enough, then distance should not be a problem for them. they should have trust for each other. Our communication technology has never been better. They can always chat or call via Skype or send text messages. It is just a matter of having a great love, wide understanding and full trust in each other that will allow them to survive despite the distance. This could also be a one good way of testing how they can get through with this kind of set up.
@ungu89 (2001)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 12
first is, how old both of your friend? i think, if they are old enough, i sure they can decide which is the best, if they believe in their relationship, it doesn't matter if the girl will go far, and it for education , for their future too. he will wait, if he really believe that their are made for each other. but, long distance relation is so hard to maintain, but if u believe in love, u can handle it. trust each other is the key
@lizlee (208)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Hi! It's one tough situation that you have right there. It's always have been one of the most complicated situation one can have. Choosing love or career / advancement. We can only give out advises that your friend may either follow it or not. But if you are going to ask me, I think they should really talk about this seriously. After all, their future is at stake here. Career or opportunities knocks but once, if you let it slip, chances are, its not going to knock again. You'll be lucky if it would be offered again to you. But on the other hand, true love also knocks once. So its really a tough one to choose between whether take the offer for further studies or marry her boyfriend. I hope they can get to talk really serious about this.
• Macedonia
18 Nov 12
That's a personal choice. Does she prefers career above love or the opposite.
• Indonesia
18 Nov 12
yeah. this maybe sound mean for everyone. but i think long distance relationship is very hard to maintain. not because the distance. but also sometime we realize in the process that our relationship is not strong enough. my suggestion is they should be married soon before going to study.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Well then, they have to think first and foremost for their future...a brighter future awaits for them if they will agree to the offer for the girl to go and to study abroad....well then, if the boy truly loves the girl, he will then support this and he might considering going with her abroad since he is an engineer and can afford to work and continue his future in there!
@robspeakman (1705)
18 Nov 12
A good education is something that should always come first - This boyfriend may well fizzle out in a matter off months - I really don't know what the dilemma is? The boy should encourage the girl to go for the education if he thinks anything of her
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
18 Nov 12
She should decide for herself whats best for her. Cant she go to school closer to him there?
• India
18 Nov 12
Hello, Very hard to take a decision in this situation. Is this a real story? Actual I asked this because in the real life a girl can not make a good result with a relationship. That I have little doubt about your story. Whatever, in my views the boy should wait for her. Thank you.
@sajujohn (1009)
• India
18 Nov 12
In my opinion if both of them love each other truly, the girl should go abroad and grab the oppurtunity. If the love is tru no distance can keep them apart. Both of them can marry after when the girl return from abroad or else if possible the boy can also try to get a good job in that country itself. Since parents are also saying that it is the best chance she could get the boy should also encourage her to go and pursue the job in abroad. Infact it is what the meaning of love - give all chances to your loved ones to grow and improve and keep her happy always.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
18 Nov 12
What is wrong with building on your future? If that boy is loving her so much like you say he can wait for her for some longer or?
@nezavisima (7418)
• Bulgaria
18 Nov 12
there are so many situations vkoito a boy and girl loves pain and then everything goes wrong. they want to continue their life together in the future but if evil comes quickly because often things happen sometimes parents are at fault. I do not know I hope this situation does not happen here, so I hope the girl and the boy to continue in the future together and realize their hopes and things to line up in their favor. interesting discussion. good day!
@kenshin2143 (1882)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
This is something that usually happens in movies. As for me, if they truly love each other, I think they wont mind waiting for a few more years. Besides, that will also test their relationship when they are afar from each other.
@margies (128)
• Indonesia
18 Nov 12
perhaps, that guys and girls can both discuss each other , when the girls decided to go abroad to study at there , perhaps it's good to get a career and for a better future while testing their love story can survive or not
• United States
18 Nov 12
If the girl is old enough she may be able to make this decision on her own If not then the couple should talk when they can and leave the rest up to god.