Thought about work
By C
@ShyBear88 (59283)
Sterling, Virginia
November 18, 2012 2:58pm CST
A few weeks ago I went into an interview and got a job with Toys R US but in the end I just couldn't go throw with working almost every day and not seeing my babies when I wanted. I had a melt down and started to cry. My husband kept telling me that the kids would be okay because he had them and many times he has taken care of them. It wasn't that I don't trust him with the kids. It's that I'm mommy I've been with my daughter since she was born and being pregnant and then having my daughter for a month stay away from me and my husband while I was on bed rest and then in the hospital till her brother was born. I felt like part of me was dying all of the time since I couldn't see hear and neither could my husband. So now going back to work it was like I was dying again and having to leave both of my babies and I just couldn't do it. Once I told my husband that he understood. I thought I could do it but I couldn't. So instead I went to the place that hired me and I explained and hoped that they would understand. Which they did understand.
Now hubby has another job that pays a little bit more not much it's only $8/hour but we just need to live off of it for the next 6 months till June when my husband get's into the police acadmeny.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 Nov 12
There is no right or wrong here. These kinds of things are between you and your husband and if he is ok with it then it's all good. When my girls were really small, I stayed home and worked in the evening when my husband was home to care for them. It brought us in extra money and gave him some time with the kids and got me out of the house for a bit.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 Nov 12
I can't blame you for that. I'm the same and never ever felt ok just leaving my kids in a day care or with anyone other than their father or grandparent. I did a lot of work at home also just to make it so we got by without resorting to a sitter. I'm divorced but that was one of the things that my husband and I agreed on. You are not wrong in wanting to be with your babies. Enjoy them while you can...I know that is so cliche but it is also so true. My kids are all grown now and those days slip by quicker than you know. While you are doing it..seems like they will always just be little but next thing you know...they are all grown up and it still feels like yesterday when you had them.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
21 Nov 12
My husband gets time alone with them when he isn't working and at night time. When he becomes a police officer we will have to change it up which is also probably why I shouldn't work right now. I'm having a hard time trusting people with my second baby then with my first I can leave him but I don't like being away from him for long periods. But maybe later on I can work when they are both a bit bigger.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
21 Nov 12
We get family members to watch the kids if we both need to do things. I try when I can to go over to my parents house right now because they have internet and we do not. We can't afford internet right now so I leave my computer with them and then I do some work when I can when I come over. My nephew is over at my parents house so I just bring the kids they play I get some work done between them doing mylot of something to get some money. It might not be much but it's something.
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@angelsmummy (1696)
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18 Nov 12
I know how you feel, especially working at toys r us, you will see children all the time and miss yours even more. I am a stay at home mum and I'm trying to get a business from home up and running as like you I will miss my babies too much. I gate being apart from them when they are at school and preschool. it's lovely that your husband has understood, like me you have found a great man.
@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
19 Nov 12
Yes he is very understanding. He doesn't want to leave them either when he goes to work but he is use to going all of the time and I"m not. I do things online to kind of make a little money like Mylot when I can about what ever it is I want to. I use to have more time but I got a 12 week old so it's hard to get one as well as the fact that I don't have internet in our house yet so I got to use my parents right now. But it's always nice to have some people being understand when others don't.
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@angelsmummy (1696)
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26 Nov 12
Yeah I know what you mean when I had my second daughter I left work completely and started online work,and making things go sell. I've been alot calmer and I hated leaving my oldest when she was little so couldn't do if with my second.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Nov 12
Yeah at least I do things online to try to help out when I can.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
19 Nov 12
You did the right thing. Taking the job would have been a bad move for both you and the children. You are a stay at home mom . if you get a job , it should be one you can do online! I'm so proud of you for following your heart.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Nov 12
I do like working online from home so I can see and be with the kids and get on and off as I need to.
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@Anne18 (11029)
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19 Dec 12
Hope that you soon find a job that fits in with your family, its hard when the children are small and trying ot find a job that fits around the family.
Hubby will soon be earning when he gets in to the police.
Hope you have a great christmas and you can buy all the toys you wish to buy for the children
@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Dec 12
I probably won't be working for a while since I really can't get anything that works well. That and I like being with the kids. I'm not ready to leave them yet all day and not see them or be with them when I need to.
No I wasn't able to get them everything I wanted to but for the most part family has filled in. I gave them a list of things that we would have liked the kids have or what they need. Mostly clothes is what they always need.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
22 Nov 12
Like you, I've thought about getting a job, but I haven't done it yet because I was only released from the doctor from my injuries last week and I haven't had a chance to go job hunting yet. However, for me, I will actually be able to go through with it because of the fact that both of my children are older and are in school now. However, I don't think that I would have been able to go out and get a job if my children were still very small like yours are.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 Nov 12
Yeah I think once they are bit older and at school I'll be able to go throw it once again. I made it throw interviews and getting hired just couldn't do the part where I work all day just yet.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
I understand how you feel being away from your kids. I felt the same way after my maternity leave on my first pregnancy. And, that was even just 2 months of solo parenting, and yet, I couldn't fathom the thought of not being beside my baby. I have thought of resigning from work, but I didn't have a choice at that time. We can't afford losing my job, because I still have credit card bills to pay and other payables.
Now, Im just really glad that my husband's pay is more than enough for our needs. And, I have cleared up all my debts.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Jan 13
Yeah, we don't have a lot of money we are very poor but we make things work. My parents pay for the food on our table for the most part but we cover the bills when my husband gets pay. We are hoping that he gets a better job.
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