Ideal age of getting married

@sammy14 (835)
Philippines
November 19, 2012 2:43am CST
What is the ideal age of getting married... is it advantageous or disadvantageous to get married at a young age.. how about at a later age...What is your preference.. on the other hand do you want to make it a grand wedding...
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@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
If I can go back in time, I'd prefer to get married in my late 20's. Coz I think at that age, we have a stable job and that we have grown emotionally mature. We are ready to face our responsibilities and it is the stage where the first step of achieving our goals for the future happens. I married at 22, 3 months before graduation. Although both my husband and I were able to graduate I still think that if we could have waited longer, we could have had a much better life now coz we could have passed the licensure examination without distractions and I might have furthered my studies, which I originally planned. The advantage would be having kids with lesser age gap. You get to still play with them like your little brother or sister. And you can have better communication with them unlike for those couple who has an age gap like 40 years. A lot of misunderstanding arises because parents are not aware of "things" that are happening around them. I never wished for a grand wedding. I just wanted a simple one as long as families and close friend can be able to share the momentous event with me. I was wed at the Archbishops' Palace and the wedding was officiated by Archbishop Jaime Cardinal Sin. The reception was in a Hotel in Makati. The reception was not my idea, it was the idea of my sister in law. All I ever wanted was to be wed by Cardinal Sin which I have always thought of since I was young.
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@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Nice observation jen.. and one thing more if a kid marries at a young age parents should always support them in whatever way especially on advises because they need these and to show a strong moral support to our children...
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
I don't think one should marry too young. Even though people are adults by the law at 18 at most places, they should wait at least until they are 21 to get married, because at 16-18, they are still a bit immature, and they don't have a clear perception of themselves or a clear view of the world... also threy have to experience a lot in real life to become good partners... like understanding others' feelings, making compromises, act seriously at time when it is needed. Also, it' good if the couple lives together for some years before wedding, in a situation when they can actually see how they can get accustomed to each other and manage ho├Âusehold chores and money and stuff.
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@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Yes...You must study your partner first before getting married and it takes some time before you will be able to decipher your partner...
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
There is no such thing sammy.. It just depends on the person if she/he is ready on the responsibility that marriage can give us.It is not easy.
• China
19 Nov 12
Jez,in my country, girls usually get married earilier than the boys. First, always the girls are more mature than the boys at the same age. And the girls also want to find boys elder than them, for they may think the elder boys are more considerate, more resiponsible, and more independent. Second, preparation for the marrige is a easy taske, which belongs to the boys and their families. Here, in my country, if a boy wants to get married, he should have the ability to afford a house and a car on his own. But boys cannot aford there at their earlier years. It may take several years. Love is important, but sometimes these life necessities are also cannot neglected. As you said, only they have got ready, then they can go to the church.
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Well i guess your partly right when you say its easy to get married, exchange vows and making preparations.But my point is it's not easy to take the responsibility of a married life,since we need to be independent starting our new life without our parents. For us woman we should be responsible wife,we are the ones that must organize everything in our home,taking care of our husband and children.And we can never do the things that we used to be when we are single,just like always going out with friends and enjoy since you are now bound to work for your family.Being married is a lifetime responsibility and i guess that is the hardest part on it.
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@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
First of all.. thank you to all of you guys who responded to this simple post.. I cannot believe that this simple topic would evolve into a great discussion with all of you guys giving all your intellectual comments/ideas... For me there should be a minimum age of marrying because there are many considerations to make.. First of all the body should be able to conceive a baby in the girl's womb without repercussions to her.. There is an expert medical advice for this situation... Second is responsibility and the to adjust or to adopt a married life.. there are many things which you used to do and enjoy but you cannot now that you are married.. another consideration is the financial aspect of having a family... set of priorities.. Also you must expect what you don't expect and adopt to it.. expect for the worse.. remember the saying that... you will only know the real person once you start living with him/her.. Maturity come with age and decisions once made cannot be undone.. Can a minor or young one be rational to think all these...
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Men can marry as long as they're ready to commit themselves to their wife alone (unless their culture allows them to have more than one wife) and they can support their family financially. Men don't have to worry about marrying late. Some women prefer older males anyway. On the other hand, most women want to get married in their 20's. I think women worry more about this than men. Women always want to look young and beautiful when they walk down the aisle. Besides, women's egg cells deteriorate as they age. As a woman, I wish I could get married before I hit 30. Having said that, I won't get married unless I'm ready. It's a huge mistake to marry just because of age. We would hear people say, "I wish my spouse and I waited before we got married!" instead of "I'm glad my spouse and I married early!" I've never heard of anyone regret marrying late. So it's wise to take your time and evaluate yourself before you start a new chapter in your life. Don't worry about age. It's just a number.:D
• United States
20 Nov 12
I agree. Maybe more women will start freezing eggs to combat this problem. Or adopt. However, there are still a lot of guys who prefer younger women. A colleague recently complained about some other colleagues who were all men in their 40s getting engaged to women in their 20s. She is in her 30s and although she isn't opposed to these individual relationships, she doesn't like the inequality in the age factor.
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
A lot of pressure is being put on women. Once they reached that certain age limit that society has set for them, they become less desirable to men. It's hard to eliminate the age factor inequality because women are "supposed" to be young and fertile. But I guess men have their own problems too. They need to earn more to increase their chances of finding a wife. A man who doesn't have a car and a stable job will have a hard time finding a date.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
My ideal age is at early 20's. I am now 23 and I am not yet still ready to get married. I am still afraid to commitments. Parenting is a lifetime commitment and it needs a lot of adjustments. I think I'm not yet ready emotionally, mentally and financially. I am not that too much asking for a grand wedding. All I want is a very solemn wedding.
• Indonesia
19 Nov 12
i agree with this (parenting) :)
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Yes it all boils down to readiness to plunge into the real thing.. but remember that there are no perfect plans...Minor problems cannot be discounted during the married life.
@Shavkat (49627)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Nowadays, the ideal age to get married is ranging at the age of 25 to 30. But it depends on the culture context, some it is more younger than this age. For me, a simple wedding can do.
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
yes 25 to 30 i want to get married at the age of 27 well 2 more years then i will be i hope ill be ready by that time
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
yes I agree with you 25 is enough to prepare you.. emotionally, financially etc. for marriage.
@gilenie (190)
19 Nov 12
i don't think there is an ideal age of getting married in my own opinion the big question here is are you financial stable emotionally matured to handle a married life. Are you ready to enter a new world? Are you ready to be a parents soon? Will you able to give a good way of living to your future family? well if u are able and confident enough to face this things i may say you can get married....
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
i agree with you we need to get ready first financially emotionally plan first then when you are ready go for it
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
I agree with you.. there must be a planning for all you do especially marriage is not a simple thing..
@lizlee (208)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Hi! I think in earlier times, its ok to get married a young age, but now from how I see it, the trend is that people get married at a later age. Though there are few isolated cases that couples get married young. I think laws of the Church also has something to do with couples getting married at a later age. Because they are not allowing couples that are too young to wed. And if you would be asking me my preference on this, I would like it for couples to wed on a later age, not too late, but not too young. And also if money is not an issue, of course the grander the wedding the better or should I say the best. Because for me, a wedding is like a fairy tale that came true. But of course, money is always an issue so I would prefer it to be a not so big wedding, but not to simple as well.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Yes there are advantages of getting married at young age and disadvantages as well.. It's really a personal decision to be talked to between the couples or partners...
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
20 Nov 12
No marriage is ideal i agree with that statement. No marriage is pefect. The ideal age to get married there is none. If u don't want to be married at say 18 19 20 or even 21 like a young age then don't get married. If you think you are ready at a young age and think you can handle a marriage and have the money and such then get married young. I know people who have gotten married at 18 21 and such young ages. Me i got married at 28 but only because i wasn't ready at a young age and had not found the right person for me.All marriage is an adventure. I used to want a grand wedding when i was younger but the older i got the less i wanted that. So when the time came to plan my wedding i just invited close to 100 people and it was a nice wedding not a grand huge princess Diana kind of wedding or a rich famous person's kind of wedding. I thought what was more important was having a good marriage over a grand wedding, but a very nice wedding i wanted and had. Weather or not you have a grand wedding is totally up to you and weather or not you can even afford it and if the guy wants this as well.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Yes I agree with you.. people should not get married because they have reached this age.. it's the couples who should ultimately decide as to when and of course you must be ready.. financially and emotionally...
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I think the ideal age for marriage is at the age of 25 to 30 if you found the right person for you. At a later age, a woman will have a hard time delivering a baby because she is somewhat old already and when her son turns 21, she is probably in her sixties. That is what I see if one marries at the later age. However, one cannot foretell what lies ahead. Wait for God's timing always. Have a nice day!
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I am not commenting on what specific age is ideal... but I guess it should be somewhere between the range of 22-25.. at this age you had at least five years enjoying your single blessedness!! and have some how enjoyed what life has to offer.. because if you tell me is when you're ready.. what is ready.. it is subjective...
@valerievy (162)
• Guam
20 Nov 12
In my family, I think the ideal age to get married is late 20s. But I learned in my psychology class that 25 is the ideal age because at 25, that is when a person is more or less where he or she wants to be, and has a pretty clear idea of what he or she wants out of life. At 25, you're a quarter of century old. And by that time, you should have some sort of specific direction you want to be on, and who you want to share your life with. I agree with 25, and I personally also think it's the ideal age. It's not too old, and neither is it too young. But to each his or her own, it's really up to the people involved to decide for themselves when they are ready for that kind of commitment. I think if at that age, I cannot afford an extravagant wedding, I'd opt for a smaller wedding.. and then a bigger one later when it is more affordable. I want to be married but not broke, so I'm not the type to spend beyond my means or cutting it close with my finances.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Yes you should not splurge money on your wedding day think of the future.. This is only one day affair and if you use all your resources just for this one day affair then its not practical..
@Sindelle (830)
• United States
19 Nov 12
I'd say ideally around the ago of 25. That way you've had time to be young and do stupid things but you're still at a prime age to start a family if you are ready. I think that people who get married too young are forced to grow up too quick and possibly make rash decisions.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Responsibility and maturity comes with age.. you cannot expect someone to be responsible a t a young age.. same goes with maturity.. very rare...
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Nov 12
I do not think that there is a ideal age to get married.I feel that there are spome people that rush into getting married and it ends in tears and that there are other people that tend to be together rather than get married and last for ever. I do feel that there are people that are not mature enough to get married, also marriages that people stay together for the sake of children, or to say that they are married to feel like one of their friends.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Marriage is a big responsibility and if we cannot handle it with care then the children will be the ones to suffer...which is unfair for them ...they take all the brunt which is not their doing
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
My ideal age of getting married was around 25 ans above. :)
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Yes that is a good marriageable age..
@Asylum (48100)
• Manchester, England
19 Nov 12
There is no preferential age for marriage. The time to get married is when you have met the person who you would like to spend the rest of your life with. If this occurs at a early age then fine, but if it occurs very late in life then that is fine also. It is not uncommon for people to make rash decisions because they feel that time is slipping them by, but this is not the basis of a good marriage and is in clear danger of ending in divorce or separation.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Yes.. marriage is a matter of choice and not for convenience.
@stan87 (47)
• Bulgaria
19 Nov 12
Hi Sammy! To be honest, I believe you get married once you feel like doing it. In my opinion, people should think a lot before taking this step. People do mistakes pretty often. That's responsibility, you can't just leave it behind you. I don't think there's certain age because it's up to the personality.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Yes..marriage is a continuing learning process and study.. and there is no perfect marriage... no perfect plans.. it is up to the couple to adjust to the situation.. its the couple who will make it work and a sucessful marriage...
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
I often heard about the ideal age thing,But I think there is no such thing as ideal.But I prefer to settle down or get married at the age of 30 because I want to see my children how they look like. If we marry earlier, we can see our kids early and its easy to give birth, we can have more babies.But the opposite or disadvantages are,We are not fully mature to hold the responsibility as a parent.We cannot really give good future for our children because we don't have enough savings.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Yes sakurage.. It's good to see your children grow as you age because if you have children at old age then there will be a big generation gap between you and your children..
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
19 Nov 12
Girl should get married till 25 and boys can marry till 30 but if more means not good. Start from 18 to 25 for girl and 22 to 30 for boys. But now no age for marriage because last month I read a news 102 years man get married and his wife get pregnant in 52 years of age.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Twenty three to twenty five is ideal.. people at these age are more mature and to balance and see things as they are.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
19 Nov 12
I dont think there is really a right age to get married. I was married at 20 years old. I had been working and living alone since I was 16 here. Some people think that once we are adults its ok to get married. BUt I think everyone is different.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
yes my friend.. there is no issue on that as long as you are willing to take on the responsibility.. then it's ok.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Hmmm...There is no good, ideal, or perfect age for getting married. It is when you are ready to make a life long commitment and are willing to make marriage work come hell or high water. Getting married is not about age its about your readiness like are you ready to get tied and do you have finance for the marriage and for future use (savings, jobs). When you are 100% certain there is nobody out there that is better than your love.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Yes but there should be parameters as to when are you ready to plunge into that thing..